From the individual level of college students, there are three main situations when college students enter cohabitation life. One is to regard cohabitation as proof of love. A considerable number of female college students have sex with their boyfriends because they are unwilling, unable to bear, or dare not refuse their boyfriend's request, and express their loyalty to love by committing themselves to each other. This kind of cohabitation is unmarried cohabitation, and many people understand it. It is a "trial marriage". The second is a sugar daddy type of cohabitation for money. There are two main types of female college students who enter this type of cohabitation life. One type is forced to sell themselves and give up their self-esteem because of their poor family background and embarrassment in life, so they are willing to be lovers. There are also some female college students who are indolent, greedy for enjoyment, and extremely vain, so they are willing to degenerate and exchange their bodies for material benefits. This type of cohabitation is based on transactions. Regardless of whether the female college students know that the other party has a spouse, it objectively violates the laws of the general public. The interests of spouses in a legal marriage relationship, this kind of cohabitation is illegal cohabitation. The third is college students’ misunderstanding of “successful education”. Some college students understand "success" as becoming famous, starting a family, and being rich. In order to succeed, a small number of female college students rely on their youth, beauty, and special status as college students to commit themselves to high-level people in society; in order to make money, some female college students are willing to be slaves of money, "selling" to others, and acting as high-end prostitutes. In recent years, prostitution cases of female college students have been uncovered continuously, reflecting the distortion of money concepts and the decline of moral values ??of some college girls.
Psychological research shows that men and women have different mentality and pursuits when living together. In love and cohabitation, the woman often regards the other party as her entire life, and is tied to the other party physically and mentally. For most women, the motivation for living together is marriage. Men who live together do so more to enjoy the comfort and physical satisfaction of the opposite sex. Most men have no intention of getting married during the process of cohabitation. Secondly, China has been a male-dominated society since ancient times, and this idea still affects people today. This has caused the ambivalence of many young men today: on the one hand, they want to have sexual experience before getting married; on the other hand, they have virginity plots and hope that their marriage partner will be a virgin, which is obvious in the evaluation of sexual morality. Holding double standards. It can be seen that the loss of virginity during sex for the first time, disappointment in love, and pressure from family and society cause female college students to suffer psychological setbacks while living together.
Currently, our country lacks sex education textbooks suitable for college students. Sex education at home and in schools is almost blank. Female college students do not pay attention to sexual health and hygiene when having sex. Abortion surgeries are often performed secretly. After surgery, They are often deprived of rest and replenishment, and multiple abortion surgeries cause premature aging, damage to organs, and in severe cases, loss of fertility. There are also some female college students who commit suicide due to "emotional changes" and pay the price with their lives.
The college period is a critical period for growth and the best period for learning. The main task of college students in school is to study and prepare themselves for entering society in the future. People's time and energy are limited. For college students living together, it is difficult to handle the contradiction between living together, studying, and making friends. Especially female college students who live together are often limited to the world of two people and closed in a narrow circle, which is not conducive to self-awareness and self-improvement, is not conducive to information exchange and complementarity, and is not conducive to the healthy development of body and mind.
The issue of college students living together is a major issue related to social progress and human civilization. Families, society and schools must work together to increase education efforts to guide students to correctly understand their own tasks, recognize their cultural background, historical missions and social responsibilities.
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On the issue of cohabitation among contemporary college students
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Adolescence is a process from childishness to maturity. However, today’s college students are at the critical moment of transition between childishness and maturity. Along with the remaining childishness and weak resistance to temptation, as well as the sexual and physiological maturity With the younger age, many college students have already experienced sex, and even live together...
The so-called cohabitation is explained in the modern Chinese dictionary, 1 living in the same place 2 refers to husband and wife*** Live together, but some experts believe that 1. a happy behavior for a certain period of time, 2. a trial marriage, and 3. a de facto marriage that does not fulfill the legal form. The author agrees with this explanation. With the sound development and improvement of our country's legislative system, in order to avoid various disputes caused by divorce, the country advocates "trial divorce." In this regard, the author believes that contemporary college students living together is a prelude to marriage. "Trial marriage" if If two lovers fall in love with each other, they will be loyal to each other and there will be no such thing as "divorce". Statistics show that the divorce rate in my country has far exceeded the marriage rate in recent years. This shows the blindness with which some people treat marriage.
College students have matured in terms of intelligence, instinct, sexual function, etc. They often combine sexual awareness and love closely, and have relatively strong sexual impulses. Surveys show that almost all of them live together. All have had sexual intercourse, and a large proportion of students have had premarital intercourse. In addition, a considerable proportion have had marginal sexual intercourse, which is almost equal to the proportion of students who have been in love. Of course, it is normal for college students to be prone to sexual impulses, which is in line with the laws of human sexual physiology and psychological development. However, sexual impulses must be properly dealt with, otherwise it may lead to sexual deviations, affect students, and even lead to a series of problems such as sexual indulgence and sexual crimes. You should learn to restrain yourself rationally and morally, keep your mind on haircuts, learn to shift and mediate your psychology and attention, and consider the consequences of exceeding a certain limit.
Our country’s laws and regulations stipulate that “illegal cohabitation” is not allowed. The cohabitation of contemporary college students is not protected by law. From the educational system, colleges and universities lack sex education courses for students, and premarital sex among college students is Cohabitation cannot simply be judged by "right" and "wrong". Currently, cohabitation is contrary to university regulations. Almost all universities will punish students who illegally cohabit or have sexual intercourse, up to and including expulsion.
Attention should be paid to the phenomenon of illegal cohabitation of college students. At present, it seems that it does more harm than good. It is a complex social problem that involves aspects such as ethics, morality, laws, regulations, etc. The impact and problems cannot be underestimated.
The vast majority of college students themselves do not agree with living together before marriage, although they are more tolerant of this than before. Many students living together before marriage will more or less affect their studies, and when they have no financial foundation, their future is uncertain. In this situation, cohabitation cannot effectively guide love towards marriage, and may ultimately cause greater harm to both parties. Therefore, college students living together are causing more and more things. Small ones are harmful to the body and bad morals, while big ones may cause harm to the body. Violating the law endangers society. In recent years, related cases have emerged one after another. The phenomenon of college students living together should attract the attention of relevant parties and must not be taken lightly.