However, in reality, it is not uncommon for people to suffer from friends. In Mr. Gu Long's words, the biggest enemy is sometimes your best friend.
It can be seen that it is important to make friends, but it is more important to make friends carefully.
What's more, if you have more friends, the road may not be easy-in general, only by taking the road well will you naturally have more friends.
So, how should people make friends in the end, which is prudent?
My personal opinion is that the following seven kinds of people should not be intimate, and if they meet, it is best to stay away, namely:
First, people who keep reasoning.
When it comes to people who keep reasoning, the first thing that comes to my mind is those Tang Taoists who are so verbose that they are maddening.
Therefore, if you have a person who keeps reasoning, then you can feel the pain caused by that kind of verbosity.
What's more, people who like to reason constantly are often used to putting their own interests first.
It is conceivable that you really need to be careful to make such friends.
Second, talking hurts people.
In reality, there are often people who not only often hurt others, but also regard their actions as confession and pride. For example, people who often use "this is my character" or "my temper is straightforward" as a shield, which is the case.
As everyone knows, all human behavior is actually a reflection of inner activities.
So you need to be careful to make friends with such people.
Third, people who subconsciously deny others.
As the saying goes, gentlemen often make mistakes, while villains don't. A gentleman blames himself, but a villain blames others.
The general idea is that people who always blame their mistakes on others and are always right are definitely not good people and should stay away.
Why?
Because even gentlemen often make mistakes, let alone ordinary people.
Therefore, in the eyes of the ancients, when a gentleman encounters a problem, he often looks for the reason on himself first, while the villain in turn subconsciously denies others, or covers up his mistakes by denying others.
And such a person, of course, can't be intimate.
Fourth, people who like to complain constantly.
As we all know, complaining is an emotion after difficulties cannot be solved.
This kind of emotion will not only help solve the problem, but also affect the people around-it is easy to be infected.
Moreover, most of these people have a single way of thinking, and often only pay attention to immediate interests, entangled in some worthless and trivial things.
And such people, not only can't make friends, but also had better stay away.
5. People who are amiable to outsiders and grumpy to their families.
In real life, we often meet some two-faced people-one on the surface and the other behind.
And such people are often people who are only interested in maps.
Especially those who are amiable to outsiders and grumpy to their families.
So don't be intimate with such people.
6. People who can't tolerate others wasting their time but ignoring others' efforts.
In interpersonal communication, some people regard time as life.
But they will only cherish their own time and turn a blind eye to the efforts of others.
Although such people seem to be very active in life, they often hide the deepest and most terrible.
So, don't be intimate.
Seven, like moral kidnapping, persuade people to be generous.
In addition, there is another kind of person who likes to stand on the moral level, accuse others, or like moral kidnapping, or persuade others to be generous, so don't be intimate.
Because such people often can't do it themselves, but they like to force others to do it.
So, to sum up the seven kinds of people mentioned above, it is best to stay away from the people you meet.
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The materials in this paper are mainly quoted from The Analects of Confucius, Zhuangzi, Tanjing, Tao Te Ching, Sit for a while, A Dream of Red Mansions, Jin Ping Mei, Abandoned Capital, Alone, Life Philosophy Record, Plato said so, Historical Records, Wang Yangming's Complete Works, Wang Yangming's Complete Works, and Wang Yangming's Complete Works.