In China, a girl’s true independence is not at the age of 18 but at the age of 25.

This is an age with the main theme, the cardamom gradually fades away and the charm gradually comes, and the soul has basically taken shape.

If you look far enough, the rest of your life will be closely related to your thoughts at the age of 25.

You already know a little bit about what love is.

You must start to understand what you need in life.

Also, determine what your next step should be. You have to be more determined than God.

Dear, please remember:

1. Sort out the life that has passed.

In chronological order, make an annual chronicle to see what you gained before you were 25 years old, what you lost, what lessons and regrets you had, and whether the goals you originally set have been achieved... This will help The better you understand yourself, the better you will push yourself.

2. Have been in love at least once and still believe in love.

There are very few lovers who succeed in their first love. Breaking up when we were young was mostly because we didn't know how to love, but the love at that time must have been true.

Love at the age of 25 is also true, although it may not be so pure. Falling in love is a technical job, and the skills and principles you learn in the process of falling in love cannot be easily given by others. And these things will affect your future marriage and even your entire life.

Fall in love with the one you love and marry the right person, and your life will be more complete. Let's do some time accounting. If you first fell in love when you were 20 years old and broke up two years later due to graduation or other factors, you still have at least two or three years to find a suitable man to marry. And if you first fall in love at the age of 25 and break up two years later, you will have to pay more time to recover and slowly find the right person. Of course, if you achieve positive results with the right first love you met when you were 25, then congratulations, you are very lucky.

3. Have the ability and be able to immediately buy something that you really want but that is relatively expensive.

Most people born in the 1980s mature late, but at this time you no longer have any reason to delay. You must be independent. This is the prerequisite for 25-year-old girls to discuss happiness. If you had not decided to study for a Ph.D. in one go, you would have completed your studies and entered the society, and you would no longer have the qualifications to ask your parents for money. When you come across something you like very much, or have always wanted to buy, try buying it for yourself. It can be regarded as a treat and a reward. Having the ability to reward yourself is a "quality" and a source of self-confidence.

4. Stop expecting the whole world to treat you like a princess.

The biggest tragedy of being 25 years old is that you still believe that you can conquer the world and any outstanding man with your beauty; you still willfully think that everything you get is taken for granted, and unreasonable troubles can be forgiven. In fact, those who recognize "reality" earlier and treat life with a realistic attitude will be able to take fewer detours.

5. Don’t show your inner pride on your face.

Maintain your inner pride and love yourself, especially after accepting your imperfections, continue to love yourself. At the same time, it leaves a humility on your face, which will make you integrate into the team and integrate into life.

6. Don’t act arrogantly.

Your actual age is 25, but you look 25. You won't really turn back to 18 just because you talk in a baby voice or pout when taking pictures. If you carefully compare photos from a few years ago, your appearance may not have changed much, but your eyes must be very different from before. Every age has its own unique charm. Compared with the 18-year-old who is inexperienced in worldly affairs, you are now more sensible, generous and decent. If you are paranoid about pretending to be young, it just shows that you seriously lack self-confidence in your heart.

7. Stop believing in "forever" and enjoy the moment.

"Forever" is a word that does not exist. You must understand now that the happiness of the moment is the real happiness. When you are 25 years old, this is the best time in your life. Don’t use tomorrow’s sorrow to dilute today’s happiness, and don’t use tomorrow’s happiness to disrupt today’s supposed happy pace. In fact, people who can enjoy and accumulate happiness will have more happiness. If the "present tense" of love is depressed and entangled, it will not be much better in the future.

8. Don’t be led by your heartbeat anymore.

Girls always like to be carried away by feelings. Compared with appearance and talent, you should also start to consider factors such as personality, family, and educational background at this time. Whether life is ultimately happy or not, love is the foundation but not everything. Whether the interaction and thinking styles of two people are synchronized is also crucial. The heartbeat will eventually disappear, even to the point where you doubt whether it really existed.

9. Refuse to be intimate with an old married man.

Having a close relationship with an old married man is like seeking the skin of a tiger. If he is not interested in you, he will definitely keep his distance from you. If he is interested in you and you cannot resist the temptation, you will fail in the end and be hurt a lot. Even if you kill your original wife and take over, you still have to deal with the child who is separated from you. In short, you can never be the final winner of this game.

10. You have passed the age of secret love. If you like someone very much, tell him openly.

Even if you fail, it’s not a big deal, at least you don’t have to waste your precious youth.

11. Don’t think about people and things that don’t belong to you.

When your ex-boyfriend who hurt you asks you how you are, answer "very good".

Your abandoned ex-boyfriend asked you if you were okay and replied "very good".

When a married man asks you how you are, answer "very well".

They are not yours.

12. Don’t change easily for anyone, and don’t try to change others.

The first half of the sentence is because if you don’t be yourself, you will be miserable in the end, and the second half is because you simply can’t do it.

13. At the age of 25, carrying condoms with you is not a big deal.

If you still think that condoms are something only men should prepare, and it is hard for girls to talk about condoms in their bags, this is definitely not being reserved, but rather being irresponsible to yourself. Most gynecological diseases in women are caused by men. In addition to preventing unwanted pregnancy, condoms can also prevent the spread of diseases. In critical moments, it can also protect you from further harm.

14. Don’t use birth control pills as a talisman.

After the age of 25, hormone imbalance may directly lead to infertility.

If you don’t want tragedy to happen, stop taking birth control pills frequently, especially Yu Ting. You can’t take more than one pill in half a year. If he doesn't prepare a condom, prepare one yourself. If he refuses to wear a condom, you can refuse him. If you don't take care of yourself, sex can easily turn into sin.

15. Gynecological examination is no longer something that has nothing to do with you.

Don’t think that gynecological examination has nothing to do with you if you are not married. As long as you have sexual experience, annual gynecological examination is necessary. If possible, get a cervical cancer vaccination, which is effective from 13 to 26 years old. The earlier the vaccination, the better the effect.

16. The passbook contains at least living expenses for three months of unemployment.

This is the bottom line. The savings don’t have to be large, but they should at least be enough to ensure that you don’t starve to death within three months of unemployment. If you don’t have any savings, you must have the awareness to save. Start with accounting. You will find that most of the expenses are not necessary. Open source is important, but so is cost reduction.

17. You must have one "thing" that you really like besides love.

Like anyone, your youth and beauty are decreasing year by year, and the "benefits" they can win for you in love are also decreasing year by year. If your boyfriend is very motivated, you must keep up with him, otherwise he will abandon you; if your boyfriend is very decadent, you must be self-reliant, otherwise you will be dragged down by him. Love is not a lifelong meal ticket. It needs to be increased in value in many ways. At this time, you have completed at least one academic course in school and experienced the test of work in society. You should have a general understanding of what you are interested in and what you can do well. Stick to an interest that you're willing to work on, even if it's small.

18. Even if you buy bonds, don’t keep the money in the bank.

With prices soaring today, money deposited in the bank will only depreciate, never appreciate. The money that bought a pound of apples last year can only buy half a pound this year. It’s not too late to start learning about investment and financial management now, but it will be too late if you don’t learn anymore.

If you feel that stock trading or buying funds is too technical, you can start by investing in insurance and treasury bonds, or ask a financial planner to help you tailor a financial plan.

19. Continue to maintain your ideals, but you must make a clear and realistic career plan.

Your current work status and platform determine your situation in the next ten years. If a person still doesn’t know what he is suitable for and what he wants to do three years after entering the workplace, then most likely he will not be able to figure it out for the rest of his life. Whether you finish your career in mediocrity or progress, the decision is yours. Carefully analyze your current work situation and develop a short, medium and long-term plan. If you feel that the future is bleak after the analysis, quickly find another way out.

20. Work hard, but be prepared for unemployment.

During the 2008 financial crisis, Maersk laid off employees worldwide. Some employees were called into the office, walked in and out, packed their belongings, and left after 30 minutes. This is true even for large multinational companies, let alone other companies. You should be prepared, both financially and mentally. Age is also a competitive advantage. The difference between being unemployed at 25 and being unemployed at 22 is that the new opportunities for the former are much smaller than for the latter. When you are 22 years old, you will think that being unemployed is nothing, and when you wake up, it is a new day. At 25 years old, you may have insomnia for a week.

21. Don’t change jobs frequently, especially don’t change jobs easily just for a salary increase.

Job-hopping is like divorce, there is inertia. Skip to the end and you'll probably accomplish nothing. Now, your career has entered a decisive period, and development and platform are the most important things at this time. If the development and platform are good, it is not a bad idea to take a salary cut and change jobs.

22. Don’t change cities easily.

Unless there is a plan and the opportunity is ripe, don’t change cities easily. The price you pay when changing cities at this time is much greater than when you first started working. First of all, your work experience may be invalid due to geographical restrictions. Secondly, the connections you have established over the years are basically wiped out. Third, is your boyfriend willing to be with you? Even if he is willing, can he have as good a chance as you? Or, how long will it take for you to find someone you can love with confidence in a new city? The most important thing is that while your connections, work experience, etc. are cleared, your age will not go back.

Before deciding to change cities, calculate the gains and losses first. I believe you have the ability to decide whether to stay or go based on the results.

23. Don’t expect yourself to be irreplaceable if you don’t become a panacea in the workplace.

Being able to do everything but not being good at anything will result in loss of competitiveness in the workplace. A fresh graduate can do what you can do, so why should your boss spend two or three times his salary to support you? If you are not a high-level technical talent, don't expect yourself to be irreplaceable. It is more practical to find ways to maximize your value based on your own advantages. At the age of 25, you have to start thinking about your position.

24. Try to appreciate your opponent.

The reason why he can become an opponent is that he is of equal strength to you. He hasn't been defeated by you yet, he must have something that you don't have. Learning from each other's strengths and weaknesses is the only way you can defeat him.

25. Raise the threshold for making friends.

The loneliest thing is no longer that no one is by your side, but that no one lives in your heart. Playmates cannot relieve loneliness. You have passed the age where you need playmates and need to accompany each other. At the age of 25, you need to re-categorize your friends and raise the threshold for making friends. For people who don’t share the same interests as you or who don’t have at least one good quality that you admire, please downgrade them.

26. Turn friends who cannot be close friends into your connections.

Even if you are really capable, it will be difficult for you to succeed just by yourself. There is a saying that it doesn’t matter who you are, it’s who you are with that matters. Network determines your life to some extent. Starting from the age of 25, you need to start to consciously accumulate your own connections. You need to understand who you need to help you on the road to success, who is your direction of struggle, and who is your reference. Generally speaking, people who support you unconditionally, people who are strict with you, people who appreciate you and support you are all people you should cherish.

27. Prepare one or two quality dresses in your wardrobe.

Maybe you only have one or two opportunities to wear them a year, but one or two times is enough to make you the center of attention.

28. It’s a secret, don’t tell anyone.

Keeping other people’s secrets is a virtue; keeping one’s own secrets is a necessity for growth. You ultimately need to face the world by yourself, why not keep some privacy and at the same time keep the distance necessary for a long-term friendship? True friendship doesn't need secrets to solidify it.

29. Use the money to buy ten discounted imitation items and buy a classic and simple style.

From now on, the word "temperament" will become more and more important to you.

30. Know what style of clothes you wear best.

Finding the right style is far smarter than following the trend.

31. Don’t rush to buy luxury goods.

Now you can have your first luxury item, but don’t regard buying luxury goods as your pursuit in life. In fact, the main consumers of luxury goods in Europe and the United States are the middle class between the ages of 40 and 60.

32. At your age, the most expensive skin care product should be eye cream, and the best cosmetics should be a smile.

Even if you stay up late and have bad living habits, your eyes won’t lie and your eyes won’t be able to put makeup on. Wearing heavy makeup will only accelerate your aging. At 25, you are not old enough to paint walls. Use the money you spend on cosmetics to buy skin care products, buy a better eye cream, and buy your first essence. Moisturize well, clean well, go to bed early, your smile is really beautiful.

33. Once underwear is worn, loose or deformed, throw it away immediately.

This is not only for beauty, but also for health. Did you know? Breast cancer is the most common malignant tumor among women worldwide. Choose the right underwear, get regular massages, perform breast self-examinations after your period, and give your boobs a little more love.

34. Turn at least one hobby into a specialty, even if it is something as small as singing or telling jokes.

The most popular people in your circle of friends must be humorous and special people. Don’t underestimate the role of telling jokes, singing, and doing crafts. Although they are small things, they reflect a person’s personality and personality charm. An important component that can enhance your presence and popularity. If you want to learn photography, go for it; if you want to learn piano, go for it, you are only 25 years old.

35. Cry again when you go home.

Try to hide your vulnerability. Crying in front of others at the age of 25 will not win you sympathy points, it will only make your enemies see your fragility and laugh at your fragility.

36. Don’t always watch Korean dramas. Watch some American TV series, which can better exercise your logic.

Nowadays, you not only need feelings and romance, but also clear logic. American TV series are definitely the easiest and most interesting way to practice logic in the world.

37. Use your boredom time to watch the news.

Not entertainment gossip, but about "what's going on in the world today." You have nothing to do with this world. Using breakfast time and cleaning time to pay attention to the city, country, and world you live in will not only help you make correct decisions based on the information you have, but also prevent you from being ignorant when talking to strangers.

38. Travel, visit museums and art galleries, and chat with locals.

The places that best reflect the connotation of a city are museums and art galleries. The places that best reflect the true face of a city are the people living there. Knowing more about these will give you more than a bunch of photos. The rewards are much greater.

39. Try something you have rejected before, such as a dish you have never eaten, a book you "will never read".

Accepting dishes that you would never eat before is one of the signs of maturity. At this age, if you open yourself up to the world and think from a different perspective, you will gain new insights.

40. Think clearly about what you want.

Yang Lan once said in an interview that most women don’t know what they want in their first marriage. What you thought you wanted before is not what you really want. People will know their true requirements only after they have had certain experiences. Now that you have some experience in career and love, it's time to think about this issue carefully.

41. At any age, remember to call your parents at least once a week.

When you are 25 years old, you are busy with love and promotion, and your parents must not be the focus of your life. But you should understand that if you work out of town and return home once a year, the time you get to spend with your parents in your life will add up to a very sad amount of time. Wherever you are, call home once a week. Parents will not ask you to do anything, but they will treat it with the most serious attitude.

42. Take the initiative to greet the friends you miss.

Don’t worry about who contacts whom first and who cares about whom more. After the age of 25, it will become increasingly difficult to get a true friend. Take the initiative to care about your former friends. A message or a text message expresses your longing and cherishment, but it is not simple. No matter how close a friend is, he or she will become alienated if we don't keep in touch for a long time.

43. Have the ability to cook and feed yourself.

Egg fried rice is the minimum requirement. To be conservative, you have to learn at least three dishes and one soup. At the age of 25, you don't have to be proficient in all kinds of housework, but you should understand at this time that cleaning the room and cooking are also a manifestation of the ability to love.

44. Starting today, go to bed before 1 o'clock at the latest.

There is nothing to say about this. You need to take good care of your body.

45. Don’t believe all theories and books, including what we are telling you now.

There is no absolute right or wrong in the world, and sometimes right and wrong may even be reversed. The most important thing is your perspective on the world. Choose what you think is right and that's enough.