You are afraid of being disliked by others. You agree with everything they say, always take care of other people’s emotions, and habitually aggrieve yourself. If your girlfriend sends you a “hmm” message, you will start thinking blindly. La, is she annoyed? She suddenly responded with a um saying that she doesn’t want to talk to me. Doesn’t it mean that she doesn’t want to be friends with me? Your characteristic of self-sacrifice and benefiting others has really been brought to full play. In addition, your parents have always taught you to think from the perspective of others, so you have slowly become a cheap labor force in society. . Kindness is a good thing, being too kind will only lead to bullying. Do you have to be confident? Let me tell you about it below.

First, become a creator. Frequently trying to please others, to put it nicely, means that you need friends, but to put it worse, you just feel that you are useless and can only make others feel that you are useful by constantly giving, which is too much for sisters. If you want to change from a pleaser personality to a boss personality, I suggest you become a creator and rely on your skills and talents to make yourself feel valuable. When you achieve some success, you don't need to please other people's friendship and love, but will take the initiative to knock you out.

Second, change I should into I will. Remember, helping you is a favor, not helping you is a duty. Don't pay too much attention to others, deliberately lower your self-esteem, and favor yourself, so that others can love you. You have to learn to put your own feelings first. Start practicing by going shopping with friends every weekend. If you want to eat hot pot, tell her that you want to eat hot pot. If you want to drink milk tea, take her to buy milk tea. If you don’t like it, you should take her to buy milk tea. We won’t go to that place.

Third, learn to delay refusal. You have always been kind to others and responded to their requests, so you gradually became known as many legends in the world: the person who pays the bills, the bag carrier, the errand boy, the porter, and the cash machine. You have put in a lot of labor, but as long as you refuse once and cannot satisfy the other party's greed, you will be decisively abandoned by the other party. So you have to learn to refuse. If refusing directly will make you feel embarrassed, then we will adopt delaying tactics and remember the core of our refusal. It’s not that I won’t help you, but that you can afford to wait. I will give you a final word, you must Live for yourself and strive to become a confident personality.