Although we cannot say that a person with good character will definitely have good popularity, we can be sure that a person with low moral character and poor character will never have good popularity. As the saying goes: Birds of a feather flock together, and people flock together. As a normal person, who would want to be with someone of low moral character? Therefore, the quality of character is the decisive factor that determines the quality of popularity. Of course, one must also master some communication arts.
First of all, we must establish a concept: harmony is precious.
In Chinese philosophy of life, the golden mean is regarded as the classic way. The essence of the golden mean is that harmony is the most precious. Colleagues, as your work partners, will inevitably have conflicts of interest or other aspects. When dealing with these conflicts, the first solution you think of should be reconciliation. After all, you are under the same roof, and if you let anyone ruin your mood, you may be the one who suffers in the future, not others. If you live in harmony with your colleagues, your weight in the eyes of your boss will rise to a new level, because harmonious handling of interpersonal relationships is not only a need for survival, but also a need for work and life.
Getting along with colleagues is easy. Harmonious colleague relationships make the work and life of you and your colleagues around you simpler and more efficient.
If you want to have a harmonious relationship with colleagues, you must also remember a saying: "The friendship between gentlemen is as light as water."
If everyone works in the same company, their personal relationships will definitely be very different, and distance and distance will naturally exist. The key to the problem is how to deal with this "near, far, close, distant" relationship.
We can think back on the people we tend to have opinions about. In fact, we don’t have any objections to who is closely related to whom and who is distant from whom, because for ourselves, we also have a closer relationship with some people and a more normal relationship with some people. We don’t even have any objections to our colleagues finding excuses for their friends to excuse their mistakes, because we don’t have a few good brothers and sisters to protect them when something happens. But when we discovered that this distant and distant relationship began to expand due to common interests, and even led to corruption and mutual strife, we began to frown.
This situation is a taboo within an excellent team. It can even be said to be the beginning of the disintegration and differentiation of a team. The result is the paralysis of the entire team.
In order to avoid such a thing from happening, what we have to do is to control the distance and distance between us and our colleagues. We should think of it this way, no matter whether your relationship with a colleague is close or distant, it is a personal relationship between you, and this relationship is a relationship outside of work and should not have any impact on your work.
Although the reason is very simple, in fact the feelings between people are not as easy to control as described in writing. Although you know clearly in your heart: "I must not bring personal relationships to work." But more often than not, many behaviors are natural expressions of personal likes and dislikes, and even you yourself cannot feel it. So, according to this, what should we do? That is, the degree of distance and closeness should be controlled. The best way is to "the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water".
The formation and maintenance of good friends require conditions. To be more specific, to be a good friend, it is important to be like each other, but there is another point, that is, there should be no obvious conflict of interest between two people. It is difficult for two people with obvious conflicts of interest and explicit or implicit competition of interests to become good friends. Even two people who have become good friends can often reach a stalemate in their relationship when faced with obvious conflicts of interest and competition. Because human nature is selfish, no one can escape it.
It is precisely because of this that in the company, it is better to have "the friendship between gentlemen is as light as water". Because the company is an environment full of obvious competition and conflicts of interest, there are too many factors that affect and interfere with the close and distant relationships between people. Conflicts and rifts are too easy to occur between good friends, and such conflicts and rifts are basically impossible to avoid, even if people have the best subjective hopes.
Secondly, you must learn to respect your colleagues.
In interpersonal interactions, your own attitude towards others often determines others' attitude towards you. Therefore, if you want to gain the favor and respect of others, you must first respect others.
Research shows that everyone has a strong desire for friendship and respect. It can be seen from this that the love of face is indeed a major instinct of people. At work, if you are not careful, you may inadvertently say something embarrassing to your colleague. On the surface, he may just feel a little guilty on his face, but he may have been severely bruised in his heart. In the future, the other person may feel self-esteem. I feel hurt and refuse to associate with you.