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Reasons for teenagers' infatuation with teachers
In fact, in real life, many students have had the experience of secretly loving teachers, especially among female students. This phenomenon often occurs, so let's find out why high school girls tend to have a crush on male teachers. Let me explain to you why.

First, individual high school girls have a strong "adult consciousness" because of their physical maturity, and lock the opposite sex teacher as the object of love.

Research shows that modern women reach the peak of sexual maturity at the age of 16- 17 on average. With the maturity of physiological development, they basically have the body shape of adults. When individual girls with strong self-awareness realize that their body shape is the same as that of adults, they will think that they are mature in all aspects, resulting in an unusually strong adult consciousness. Just like a girl confessed in a letter to a male teacher: "Don't think that I am still young, I am still a little girl, I have grown up, I have grown up." Under the guidance of this unusually strong "adult consciousness", she will do something that society, school and family can't understand and accept like an adult. For example, she not only wants to fall in love with the opposite sex, but also chooses the adult opposite sex instead of the same age when choosing a lover, and she is quite confident. The above-mentioned girl wrote in the letter: "I can sort out my emotions and know what I am doing. I have always been full of confidence in myself, and I believe that one day I will succeed. " It can be seen that individual high school girls have formed an unusually strong "adult consciousness" under the physiological function of sexual maturity, which is also one of the psychological reasons for their "secret love" for teachers of the opposite sex.

The second reason is that some high school girls are in the "calf love period" because of their sexual consciousness, and they are too attached to the opposite sex teacher.

Generally speaking, in the process of teacher-student communication, students have different degrees of attachment to their teachers. A teaching expert wrote: "Attachment needs are one of a person's basic social needs ... Attachment needs to teachers gradually weaken with the increase of students' grades, but even in middle schools and even universities, students still show greater sensitivity to whether teachers' words and deeds in teaching meet their attachment needs ... In this case, if teachers can consciously realize this and give students more tenderness and warmth, it will cause unexpected positive emotional reactions." According to American psychologist Heck H? Herlock's theory on the development of adolescent sexual consciousness shows that teenagers in early adolescence are "like Oedipus of calves" and fall in love with the actions of the older opposite sex. Dream of the older opposite sex you yearn for. Therefore, for female high school students whose individual sexual consciousness is in the "calf love period", if the words and deeds of the opposite sex teacher in teaching are full of their attachment needs, it will easily lead to their fantasy of loving the opposite sex teacher. Some high school girls' "excessive" appreciation and hope for their secret love teachers and their "secret love confession" classes strongly prove this point. It can be seen that the excessive attachment of individual high school girls to the opposite sex teacher is because their sexual knowledge development is in the "calf love period", which is another psychological reason for their "secret love" for the opposite sex teacher.

The third reason is that some high school girls especially admire some internal qualities of teachers of the opposite sex, which leads to their admiration.

A student loves his teacher, mainly not because the teacher is handsome, not because the teacher is rich, but because the teacher has good internal quality. It can be considered that the excellent moral quality of teachers is an extremely important source of students' heartfelt admiration and love for teachers. Girls' love for teachers is even more so. The survey shows that the main reason why girls yearn for the opposite sex is to get to know each other, get strength and help from the opposite sex, learn social skills, and gain a sense of security and stability. This shows that girls pay more attention to the inner temperament of the opposite sex when interacting with the opposite sex. Therefore, in this respect, teachers who are "engineers of the human soul" can better meet the above needs of girls. Individual high school girls are deeply attracted by the internal temperament of the opposite sex teachers, such as knowledge, ability and morality, so that they will have a good impression on the opposite sex teaching. For example, one girl "appreciates" the teaching ability of the male teacher she secretly loves, while another girl "appreciates" the kindness and integrity of the male teacher she secretly loves. Therefore, it can be said that the most important psychological reason for high school girls to "secretly love" teachers of the opposite sex is that individual high school girls especially admire some internal qualities of teachers of the opposite sex.

As can be seen from the above understanding, in fact, these high school students have different crush on things.

What should young students do if they secretly love their teachers?

1. Sincere communication

Adolescent students are psychologically fragile, so teachers should not use excessive words or behaviors during the conversation. Teachers should have a gentle attitude, understand students' love for teachers from the heart and actively communicate with them. Communication can be divided into several stages:

In the first stage, contact with students, gain their trust, make students feel that their behavior has been understood, so as to open their hearts to teachers and have further conversations.

In the second stage, students can talk about why they like teachers, or why they think teachers are very good, so as to understand why students fall in love with teachers. And through comparison, let students feel that there are still many people around them who care about and love themselves, and there are also many people they like.

The third stage is to understand students' understanding of "love". Through the dialogue, let the students understand that loving someone is not only as simple as liking, but also requires taking responsibility, which is impossible at their age. They and their peers are like passengers on the same ui flight, constantly moving towards their goals. If they get off early because they are greedy for the scenery on the road or even the "hidden mirror flowers", then they can only wait for the next bus, so that he will always arrive at his destination later than others, and may never arrive at his destination again. Let them realize that people have tasks to complete at every stage, and the task now is learning.

2. Cultivate students' broad interests.

For some students, falling in love with teachers may make life more closed and monotonous. Teachers can guide them to cultivate their own interests, enrich their lives, and let them turn their attention to meaningful things and have fun from them. Students are impulsive, and enthusiasm usually lasts only "three minutes". If teachers can cultivate all kinds of interests according to their own different situations and make life full of fun, they may soon forget their unusual feelings for teachers.

3. Encourage students to make more friends

Because students are one-sided and blind in seeing problems, they are easy to walk into a dead end, so they have to regard the teacher's concern for them as an unusual feeling, thus having a very "love" mood for the teacher, and feel that only the teacher is the best for themselves in this world. In view of this situation, teachers should try to guide students to make more friends, so that they can open their hearts to people around them and treat everyone around them sincerely. For those students who are not good at words, we can suggest that they make some pen pals first, guide them to communicate with their parents more, and learn to tell their parents about the people and things that happen around them. Because, how you treat others, others will treat you. Slowly, they will find that many friends around them care about and like themselves. Moreover, there are often more topics among peers, and they may gradually feel that making friends with peers can make them happier and gain more benefits. I will also realize that, in fact, the teacher's kindness to himself is not very special, but a kind of love from the elders to the younger generation. In short, making more friends can not only make students cheerful, but also enrich their lives.

4. Help students learn to be independent

Teachers can solve this problem by helping students to be independent. First, let students learn to do their own thing. Including all aspects of study and life. Maybe students can't handle everything at once, and the number of teachers can help them set phased goals according to their own specific conditions. Secondly, get in touch with parents and get their cooperation, so that students can gradually learn emotional independence.

The correct way for teenagers to communicate with the opposite sex

First of all, pay attention to the way of communication.

It is appropriate for young men and women to communicate collectively. Discussions and speeches in class, discussions and jokes after class, and extracurricular game activities all create different opportunities for everyone. Make some introverted and unsociable students avoid the shyness and embarrassment of facing the opposite sex alone; Some students who like to communicate meet the needs of communicating with others. Everyone is integrated into a strong collective atmosphere. In the collective, everyone is faced with a group of students of the opposite sex, who are either good at each other, humorous and talkative, smart and kind, optimistic and generous, or steady and capable ... This allows us to broaden our horizons and minds while absorbing everyone's advantages, and avoid focusing on one opposite sex and developing a "one-on-one" love relationship. Group communication, parents rest assured, teachers support. There are various forms of collective communication, such as interest groups, science and technology groups and study groups. Group activities are also colorful, such as entertainment, games, competitions, travel, small inventions, small productions and so on.

Secondly, we must grasp the scale of communication.

The other party invites you to participate in an activity, such as listening to music, watching movies, watching art exhibitions and visiting book fairs. This is a normal and open communication, and you can go to the appointment generously. Girls should be dignified and open-minded, don't let the other side misunderstand and think at the worst; Boys should be calm, solemn and respect each other. If two people have a good impression on each other and get along well, then the number of dates will increase and the time of each date will be extended until they are inseparable and want to stay with each other all the time. At this time, we must pay attention to moderation, don't take up too much time of the other party, and don't make one or both parties unable to concentrate on their studies and get together with family, classmates, relatives and friends because of dating. We must be temperate, reduce the number and time of being alone together, talk more about learning when we meet, and let the feelings of both sides cool down.

In order to nip in the bud, it is best to politely refuse a date for the purpose of love.

Let the other person understand your mind and give up the pursuit of you. But pay attention to ways and means, and don't hurt each other's self-esteem. Parents, teachers, classmates and friends should be invited to help those who pester or even intimidate. As long as we grasp the unique standards, be sincere, warm and generous to people, and have self-esteem, we can handle the relationship with the opposite sex and win the respect and friendship of the opposite sex with our good cultivation and personality.

In fact, it is necessary to get along with the opposite sex, especially adolescent children. Having correct and scientific heterosexual communication can better protect their mental health, and having a healthy psychology is certainly more conducive to their growth, so parents also need to pay attention to helping them avoid entering the misunderstanding of communication.