1. The premise of striking up a conversation: image attraction

When striking up a conversation with a girl, image is of course the first hurdle. If you look unattractive, girls will turn away.

When you take the initiative to approach a girl and express to her that you want to get to know her, the girl will often decide whether to continue chatting with you through her initial impression of you, and your appearance takes up her initial impression. Impression of 70.

After all, if a handsome man and a frustrated man are in front of you, you will definitely choose the former.

If you look handsome and stylish, or behave in a gentlemanly and polite manner, then girls will generally be willing to stop and listen to you.

There is a saying that if you are handsome, you are flirting, and if you are ugly, you are sexually harassing.

But looks are given by your parents, so don’t hold yourself against yourself. You can completely improve your charm through appearance modification to attract her and make up for your innate shortcomings.

If you are not good-looking and do not pay attention to improving your image, then how can you attract them?

So, when chatting up a girl, don’t run up to the girl with messy hair, a cigarette in your mouth, and disheveled clothes and say: Hello, can I add you on WeChat?

This will only make girls want to call the police. No girl is interested in a sloppy man.

What you have to do is to ensure a clean and refreshing appearance, take care of yourself before going out, and go out with a confident face.

Second, use confidence and charm to gain favor

The essential problem that many boys fail to strike up a conversation with is that they are not confident enough and are afraid to strike up a conversation with strange girls.

When I see a girl I am interested in, I have the urge to strike up a conversation, but I lose before the fight:

“She is so beautiful, she must have a boyfriend, I have no chance.”

"She is so good-looking, she will definitely not fall in love with me, and we will never know each other"

"If she rejects me, I will be very embarrassed"

The above concerns may seem reasonable, but in fact they are just excuses for your own fears.

No matter what kind of thoughts you have, if you don't take action, in the end the girl leaves, and you can only beat your chest with regret.

The charm of a man lies in his self-confidence. If you lose your self-confidence in front of women, your charm will be drastically reduced.

If you are nervous and slurred, girls will feel uneasy and think that you are too purposeful, so they will be more wary of you, which will not help you continue to strike up a conversation.

So, before striking up a conversation, you must have enough confidence in yourself and subconsciously tell yourself:

“I am excellent, and I speak with such humor, I will definitely attract girls”

“It’s just a conversation, it’s not difficult for me, it’s just like chatting”

“So what if I fail, girls won’t take off their high heels and hit me on the head”

To get rid of this kind of fear, the simplest and most effective way is to directly engage in actual combat -

Don't think too much about techniques or the effect of striking up a conversation.

Find a place with a lot of people and strike up a conversation with a girl when you see her. Just chat with her for a few words, such as asking for directions, or directly tell her that you want to get to know her and ask for her WeChat ID to make friends.

After trying it a few times, you will find that most girls’ reactions are relatively positive and not as cold as you think. They will usually smile at you and talk to you; the minority will be the ones who ignore you. , it’s even harder to meet someone who can curse.

After training enough times, you will become more and more relaxed and confident. You can even joke with her and ask her when you leave, "Can I add you on WeChat? I'm free." Let’s have a cold drink together.”

At this point, it’s amazing if you can break through yourself.

Third, borrow props to strike up a conversation

Borrowing props to strike up a conversation with girls is also a good way.

Many girls like to take beautiful photos, so a camera is a good prop. You must practice your photography skills regularly and find the right angle for girls to take photos, so that you can easily gain the trust of girls in you.

For example, when you meet a girl you like, walk forward generously and say: Hello, can you take a photo for me here?

After taking the photo, you can seize the opportunity to introduce yourself and let the girl see your highlights: I find that you will look good when taking photos from this angle. I am a photography enthusiast and can Can I take a picture for you here?

Girls generally won’t refuse at this time, because she won’t suffer any loss. What if she gets a good-looking photo? If she is satisfied with your photography skills, then you will become closer.

You can continue talking about other topics to build familiarity, such as:

Are you traveling here alone?

Do you know anything fun nearby?

What’s your WeChat ID? I’ll send you the photos later.

Four, create *** the same topic

Hitchhiking is nothing more than chatting. If you want to hit up a conversation successfully, you must know how to chat with girls. The key is to find out the girls' points of interest.

For example, if a girl is walking her pet on the roadside, it is very good. This is an opportunity to strike up a conversation and you can take the initiative to talk to her.

First he came forward to pet her little animal with a doting look on his face, and then said: I am attracted to your puppy from all the way. It looks so cute. What is its name? (Remember to ask questions and let girls interact with you)

People who love pets have no resistance to others praising their animals, and girls will not feel that you mean to infringe on her. It is normal for passers-by to be attracted to pets.

If you have an animal yourself, that would be even better, as it can generate more similar topics, such as what is its name, how long have you had it, and how long it can understand its owner? ?, how do you usually take care of it, etc.

You can exchange opinions, and you can even say at the end: Let me add you on WeChat. There are many things I don’t understand and I want to ask you, okay?

Girls generally will not refuse. For people with similar interests, they will feel that they have met a close friend and can get to know them better. Then your purpose of striking up a conversation will be successful.