"Those friends you once thought were close, those friends you once thought would go on together, I don't know when they parted on the road."

In the past, in the face of the breakdown of a relationship, we could not understand; In the face of people drifting away from us, we often feel sad secretly.

Now I understand that the end of every relationship is traceable.

A person who doesn't reply to your message or pay attention to your feelings is a prelude to the end of a relationship.

The gap between people begins with never replying to messages.

Cousin and Yi used to be best friends who could wear a pair of pants.

At that time, my cousin and Yiyi worked in the same company. Because they were fellow villagers, they got very close and soon became girlfriends who talked about everything.

On the day when Yiyi was lovelorn, my cousin braved the cold wind and searched for a long time before finding Yiyi who cried into tears.

My cousin lived with Yiyi. When she collapsed, she listened patiently and cried with her. After she calms down, enlighten her with your heart, take her to the movies, go shopping and eat delicious food. ...

Accompanied by her cousin, Yiyi slowly walked out of the shadow of lovelorn.

A year later, my cousin will have a minor operation, and Yiyi is also busy taking care of her cousin.

The two of them lived together in this intimate way for several years.

I thought this friendship could last forever, but I didn't expect it to disappear into the sea of people in the end.

Later, when Yi returned to her hometown and got married, her cousin would still send her messages frequently to share details of her life.

At first, Yi Yi would reply, then only a short sentence or two, and then she simply didn't reply.

At the end of the year, my cousin returned to her hometown and wanted to ask Yi Yi out to play. Yiyi said that she had no time.

However, a few days later, my cousin saw Yiyi sharing photos with friends in a circle of friends.

That night, my cousin cried, but this time, only my cousin cried. The girl who cried and laughed together is gone.

Many times, life is like this. I came to you with enthusiasm, but you ignored me.

Some people say that adults end a relationship quietly.

I won't delete you or hack you, but I won't contact you either. We have all become the most familiar strangers on each other's friends list.

However, many times we are always unwilling, always thinking that our intimate relationship will not end here, so we will always open that dialog box quietly in countless late nights, secretly hurting our hearts.

The relationship between adults is so fragile that if I don't reply to your message, I am silently saying goodbye to you.

One day, we will also delete that sad dialog box and say "goodbye" to the screen.

Understand that it is better to let go of everything than to wait hard. Some people don't have to stay if they want to leave, because they can't stay.

When I was disappointed enough, I left.

Writer Li Siyuan once said something he experienced personally:

Li Siyuan once knew an author and sincerely regarded him as a friend.

The author asked her to help him write a new book recommendation, and Li Siyuan wrote her a recommendation without saying anything. She was very grateful. After that, she sent a book to Li Siyuan.

Soon after, the author published a book, but Li Siyuan never received the book from her.

Li Siyuan thought she should forget and was embarrassed to ask.

After a while, the author asked Li Siyuan for help again, and Li Siyuan asked about the book by the way. Unexpectedly, the author said, "I sent it to you long ago."

Li Siyuan felt strange. He checked all the courier information himself, but there was no information about the book. Finally, the author said, "I'll send you another one next week."

Three months have passed and I still haven't received the book.

Li Siyuan knew that the other party had lied to her, and the book was never sent.

Later, the author asked Li Siyuan for help, and she found a reason to turn it down.

Li Siyuan is very sad. She doesn't care about a book, but feels that she treats others as friends, gives her her her heart and everything she wants, while the other party has been perfunctory and deceiving her.

That's what happens between people. You perfunctory me once, and I forget. You perfunctory me twice, I told myself that you didn't mean it; I'm sorry you've been perfunctory. Our fate is over, and I will never trust you again.

Leaves will not turn yellow one day, and people will not get cold one day.

Just because I have experienced too many disappointments, I no longer choose trust.

Friendship or love, once you have accumulated enough disappointment, you will turn around and leave.

There is a good saying:

"Whenever and wherever you are honest with me, I will repay you wholeheartedly. If you please me and do everything, then I will put away my initial enthusiasm and stop giving trust. "

No matter how good feelings are, they can't stand being left out and perfunctory. If they are sincere and can't get a response, they can only tell themselves, forget it.

A good relationship needs mutual respect and cherish.

No matter how good the feelings are, they also need each other's sincerity.

Writer Lu Sihao once said:

"All those who have lived in this world for a long time are tireless because of their hearts."

A caring relationship will make you feel comfortable.

Chaplin, a famous British comedian, has a very good friend who loves baseball.

Once, Chaplin visited a friend's house and they talked about baseball. The friend was very excited and talked endlessly with Chaplin about baseball. Most of the time, friends.

Chaplin knows nothing about baseball and is not interested, but he still listens attentively.

A friend mentioned that he liked an athlete very much, and he felt very sorry because he couldn't get the athlete's signature.

After he came back, Chaplin invited other friends specially, and finally got the baseball player's autograph for that friend with great difficulty.

Many people around me don't understand why they are not interested at all, but they go to great trouble to ask his signature for a friend's words.

Chaplin said, "I'm not interested in baseball, but my friends are interested in baseball."

Really good feelings don't need to be maintained deliberately, but they should also be managed with care.

Lin once said: "No matter how suitable two people are, if they don't care about each other, they will gradually become strangers;" No matter how deep the feelings are, if you don't care about each other, they will gradually fade away. "

In life, there will always be some people who say nice things but never put them into action.

It will only kill a beautiful relationship in the end.

There is a saying in The Book of Songs:

"Vote for me with papaya and vote for Joan Cheng. It is always good to report! "

You give me papaya and I give you jewelry in return, not to repay you, but to cherish each other's feelings more.

The feelings between people are mutual. You are sincere to me, and I will be sincere to you.

Only by caring and cherishing each other can we get along for a long time.

Keep in touch if you have nothing to do, and come and go often when you have time.

Many times, we always think that if we have a good relationship, we don't need to contact often, but we forget that if we don't contact for a long time, our feelings will fade.

Because we haven't been in touch for too long, there are many estrangements between us, and there will be many estrangements. I don't know where to start with a lot of words.

If you don't contact for a long time, many people will leave your world and fade out of your memory.

Being busy is just an excuse we give ourselves. No matter how busy we are, we can find time.

No matter how deep your feelings are, you should also manage with your heart. No matter how good the relationship is, we should always come and go.

It is well known that actor Huang Lei and host He Jiong have a good relationship, but few people know that they have eaten together for more than 1000 times.

Keep in touch when you have nothing to do, and keep in touch when you have time. This is the secret of a long-term relationship.

A really good relationship may not be a problem when we meet, but we will remember each other later.

Friends are precious, not many; Feelings are measured by heart, not by words.

About the author: Xiaoxiao, a woman with love in her heart and light in her eyes.