Chinese civilization has a long history and has a very profound understanding of making friends.

A fence with three stakes and a hero with three gangs shows that China likes to make friends and is very eager to make friends.

Qin Hui has three friends, which expresses the Chinese people’s ultimate view of friends. He is a human being, even a person like Qin Hui, who is despised by thousands of people, has several friends; how can he have no friends? ?

How can you make friends? Is it the kind of friendship between gentlemen that is as light as water, looking for a close friend through mountains and rivers, or is it the kind of fair-weather friend who throws you a feather and repays you with a peach, drinking today and playing cards tomorrow?

I remembered a relative in my hometown. He was very capable in the countryside and had made a lot of friends who always drank together.

In those years, life in rural areas was difficult, and ordinary people could rarely buy meat. Except during holidays, few families had the conditions to cook a few vegetables and drink wine.

As long as he has a little money, he will quickly buy back a bunch of meat and wine, ask his wife to cook some dishes, and invite his friends who are meat and wine to come home. Several people were shouting and shouting, and the more they drank, the more lively it became. The three sons and my wife were not qualified to serve at the table. The children were still young at that time, and they finally made delicious food at home, so they just watched eagerly. But he remained unmoved. When he saw the three children still hanging around the table, sweating and salivating, he would sometimes yell at them and tell them to get out and come back after they had had enough food and drinks.

But they drank endlessly, and when they were really full, the three children and the wife could only eat scraps.

Later, when his three sons gradually grew up and became young men, they all followed him to work hard in the fields. However, when he went to drink with his fair-weather friends, the three sons still could not get to the table. , sometimes I have an idea, and I can’t get rid of it even if I try to push it away, or I can’t get rid of it even if I scold it. Sometimes they started to quarrel, and when the quarrels became more frequent, the fair-weather friends no longer thought that was the case, and they rarely went to his house to drink.

The three sons had to marry, and he couldn't afford the money, so he went to borrow it from his fair-weather friends. I thought he could definitely borrow it. After all, we always drank together, and he was always the one to treat guests. Those few people were only responsible for drinking and eating, and never invited him back. Unexpectedly, no one lent him a penny.

In the past few years, I heard that the three sons finally got married, but no one took care of him anymore. He is not in good health now and can no longer work. Those fair-weather friends have long stayed away from him.

I have always found it strange that he is so kind to his friends. He would rather not eat the good things with his family, but give them all to his friends. Why is it that no one pays attention to him?

The folks all laughed: Is it worth keeping friends with someone who is so cruel to his family?

It seems that asking people to tighten their belts and blindly please others cannot make true friends.

If you are the right person, you will be helped a lot, but if you are wrong, you will be less helpful. If you have different ways, you will not work together, which shows that morality plays a decisive role in making friends.

To see a person’s character, just look at his circle of friends.

If a person can never make true friends, and even those who have received great help from him turn against him and turn against him, which makes everyone feel annoyed, then there must be something wrong with this person.

If he is stubborn and thinks that everyone in the world is sorry for him and it is everyone else's fault and he will never be at fault, then he is hopeless.

It doesn’t matter if he becomes a loner, his family will suffer accordingly.

As a human being, you still have to reflect!