First of all, the people we contact and associate with in our daily life can be divided into four types:
The first category: intimate friends (also known as good friends and good buddies).
"Intimate friends" come from "ordinary friends". This kind of friend is to take care of you twice in your life and cheer you up when you are wronged; When you are happy, he/she is proud of you; When you are sad, he/she will feel uncomfortable because of your sadness, and allow you to vent all your troubles and listen to your words carefully; If you want to accomplish a specific task, he/she will always give you encouragement and support. To put it simply, what he/she does to you is different from that of your parents. He/she will never turn against you or hurt you because of money, interests or love. You can even tell him/her your bank card password and give him/her the key to the safe. Such a friend can almost make you 100% trust. There is only one such friend at most.
The second category: ordinary friends
Ordinary friends are composed of your neighbors, classmates, colleagues and strangers who meet by chance, mainly from "acquaintances", regardless of age, education, hobbies, region and gender; Good relations can be instantly upgraded to ordinary friends. The purpose of this kind of friend is to make you no longer isolated, lonely, bored and helpless. You can chat, play ball, play chess, eat, travel, karaoke and so on. The number of people is generally around 10. The biggest advantage is that there are many friends and it is convenient to do things. The disadvantages are obvious. People who know their faces but don't know their hearts may laugh at you and bully you when you are down and out. Frame you when your career is booming; When your love is sweet, please step in. In short, although the number of such friends is large, it is indispensable to prevent people.
The third category: acquaintances
"Acquaintance" means that you have met this person in a certain occasion (such as the English corner in the park or the chance meeting on the wine table), which is similar to meeting him by chance, and you don't fully understand him at all. Generally speaking, after meeting, they say hello and ask questions. There should be no upper limit on the number of such people, and they are the people we see the most, in all fields and cities. The main targets include: old classmates, your superiors, netizens, your teachers/coaches/trainers, your schoolmates and so on. No matter what the object is, you can always put any one of them in the category of your ordinary friends.
The fourth category: boyfriend and girlfriend
Needless to say, everyone should know what friends they are, right? Can be produced from "ordinary friends" or "intimate friends". Of course, there can only be one.
Anyway, why don't you have any friends? I believe you have no friends, but you can't say that you don't have a third kind of "acquaintance". We know that acquaintances can be included in the category of "ordinary friends" at any time. Do you include acquaintances in your "ordinary friends"? If not, try including one. Maybe you'll be surprised after a while. As long as you follow the development process of "strangers → acquaintances → ordinary friends", you will succeed! Believe in yourself!
This is the way to make friends that I read in an inspirational book. Actually, it's not that you don't have friends, but that you don't treat people around you as friends. As long as you treat every "acquaintance" around you sincerely, treat them as your indispensable friends, and always consider problems from their standpoint, everyone will be friends. Gradually, you will find that there are more and more friends around you, and your life circle will become bigger and bigger. When you are in trouble, the hot hands around you will become more and more dense. Try my method.