1. How to deal with the relationship with classmates in the dormitory
Interpersonal relationships in the dormitory are an issue worthy of attention. Due to different living habits and mutual misunderstandings, students living in this group feel particularly awkward. Some students feel very distressed when they are isolated by their roommates. "I don't know why, maybe I don't pay much attention to the way I speak. I felt that everyone started to talk to me in a sarcastic tone. I accidentally said something about that classmate, and everyone helped her. I felt very depressed and felt that I would not respond. The dormitory was boring. I was afraid that I would cause more trouble if I said the wrong thing, so I got up very early every day, carried my schoolbag to the classroom to read, and went back to the dormitory very late at night. Sometimes even if I couldn’t see in, I didn’t want to go back to the dormitory, so I just gathered around We walked around the playground, going around and around, until it was almost lights out before returning to the dormitory. "My classmates who lived in the same dormitory were also sad. "A classmate in our dormitory was very extreme, but he has been isolated now, but I am also very sad now. I am worried because it is not easy to create a confrontational situation in the dormitory. In fact, I feel that the classmate is not useless, and I also want to talk to her, but everyone ignores her. If I take the initiative to be nice to her, it will inevitably lead to the same result. , ignored by everyone." Some students, even if this situation does not happen, still feel that they are not very happy in the dormitory, "Our relationship in the dormitory is okay, there are no quarrels, but everyone is very polite and has nothing to say, which makes it boring. "This may be a problem that college students may encounter. How to deal with the relationship between classmates in the dormitory?
First of all, we must face up to this problem. Look for more problems in yourself and the impact they have on interpersonal relationships in the dormitory. Frequent interactions and differences in classmates’ personalities and experiences have resulted in various frictions and conflicts. Dormitory conflicts are prominently manifested in various trivial matters; littering, making noise, small amounts of money, casual smoking, disordered work and rest, speech, hegemony, and If intimacy is too high, if you are not appropriate, you can adjust your living habits appropriately, change your way of speaking, and do it in a way that others can accept and understand.
Secondly, strive for more communication. Don’t avoid communication because everyone has some misunderstandings. Instead, you should take the initiative to communicate with everyone and participate in everyone’s discussions and activities. Only in this way can we better understand ourselves and others, eliminate misunderstandings between each other, and strengthen mutual understanding and trust.
Third, be broad-minded and be more understanding and tolerant of others. A college student in the new world should be open to all rivers and absorb more of the advantages of others. He should be more understanding and tolerant of the shortcomings of others. He should not be too grudgey and caring about trivial disputes that arise in life. Forget what should be forgotten and forgive what should be forgiven. Forgiveness, understanding should be understood, don’t take it too seriously. As the saying goes, "You are smart in big things, but you are confused in small things." Use your limited energy on doing important things, such as studying well.
Again, treat others with sincerity. People always abide by the principle of reciprocity in interpersonal relationships unconsciously. If you show your sincerity, you will be rewarded accordingly. Some people are afraid that their shortcomings will affect their image in the minds of others if others see them. Psychological research proves that people do not like a person who is perfect in all aspects, but a person who is excellent in all aspects and is excellent. People with some shortcomings are the most popular. So you don't have to worry about your shortcomings, you have to have enough confidence in this.
Finally, praise others from the bottom of your heart, learn to appreciate and praise others, and say at least one comforting word every day, such as: "You are great!" "Your hair looks great!" Words of praise will be praised to bring happiness and arouse positive emotional reactions. Emotions are contagious, that is, they will also be transmitted to people around you and bring happiness to everyone around you. "Happiness" will dissolve the deadlock in interpersonal relationships and make dormitory relationships harmonious.
2. How to deal with the relationship with other students
First of all, learn to smile. On campus, you may run into classmates anytime and anywhere. When you meet someone you don't know well, it's enough to smile, look at each other, and just nod by. If you meet someone you know well, you can also say hello or two. Smile is a symbol, a symbol that expresses "I like you, I like to know you, and I like to be in contact with you." In the material world, there is the law of conservation of energy. In the emotional world, it is also the law of conservation of energy. Treat others as you treat them.
Secondly, don’t lose face. This means that when you encounter something that we don’t know, don’t understand, or don’t know, we must be open-minded and dare to admit it. Any attitude and behavior that covers up, avoids, or conceals is harmful to interpersonal relationships, because interpersonal relationships require sincerity.
Third, be emotionless. When we have different views on a certain classmate, something, or a certain requirement, and feel unhappy, we must remind ourselves, "The outside world is the outside world, and I am me." I should be emotionally independent from the outside world, not subject to outside influence or interference, and maintain stability and calmness. This is extremely important. Many quarrels and fights are caused by conflicts between classmates because these students are too impulsive when facing things and cannot control their emotions rationally. Therefore, we must be responsible for all our emotions, even if it seems that others have clearly provoked us. This is the mental health of a fully self-respecting person.
Fourth, have the courage to say "no". This is very important. As long as we say "no" without emotion, it is a rational decision. This provision is influential. The most taboo thing is that we are unhappy and at the same time obey others, do things and say things that are against our will with our unhappy emotions. Over time, we will lose ourselves. Drinkers will make the mistake of cutting their feet to fit their shoes.
Fifth, independence first and relationship. Don't treat relationships as life-saving straws. Whenever you encounter problems or difficulties, you should be the first to deal with them, and you should try to solve them yourself and overcome them. If we weaken ourselves and always crave care, guidance, and safety from the outside world, then we will always be children who are afraid of risks and have no creativity. And a relationship that relies too much on others will not last long. The relationship between many of our female classmates is too close and too dependent on each other. This will only bring pressure and constraints to both parties. To the right without distance will only suffocate both parties.
Sixth, we have others in our hearts. At this time, other people are not what others think of us, but their needs are worthy of our attention, their pain is worthy of our sympathy, their strengths are worthy of our learning, their difficulties are worthy of our help, and we are not doing it just to have a good relationship. In doing so, we can help someone close to our military attache, and we can sympathize with our enemy. We can learn from heretics and understand that even criminals have needs that deserve our attention.
3. How to deal with the relationship with teachers
In universities, teachers play many different roles: imparters of cultural knowledge, guides of students’ future and life path, The student's psychologist, the student's close friend, etc. Teachers have the hardest work. They are like candles and paving stones, dedicating themselves to illuminating others. They live and teach for their own careers. They only contribute to their students and ask nothing for anything. So teachers should be respected by students, so how to respect teachers?
First, respect the teacher’s work and teach every class well. Respecting a teacher is an action, and it is also a kind of respect that comes from the deepest part of the heart. Classroom teaching needs the recognition and support of every student.
Second, listen to the teacher’s teachings with an open mind and strictly follow the teacher’s requirements. In daily study and life, teachers will teach us a lot of knowledge and principles of life. As a student, listening to the coming teachings with an open mind and strictly following the teacher's requirements is not only a responsibility to oneself, but also to the teacher's labor. The respect of the first middle school will also give the teacher the greatest comfort.
Third, be polite to the teacher. When you meet a teacher on the road, greet him proactively and enthusiastically with a smile. When the teacher goes to bed, you should get up to greet him, stop playing games or other things, and listen to the teacher's instructions. When the teacher leaves, you should get up and see him off. When you meet a teacher while riding a bicycle, you should take the initiative to get off the bike.
Fourth, when the teacher speaks, you should applaud enthusiastically and in a controlled manner, and do not applaud randomly or boo.
Fifth, if you have any opinions about the teacher, you should raise them through proper channels. , Do not contradict or curse in person. After making a mistake, you should face the teacher's criticism.
Sixth, let the teacher go first when entering or exiting the door or going up or down the stairs. When receiving items from the teacher, stand up and take them with both hands. Do not make random calls to the teacher. When sweeping the floor, the teacher must stop when passing by.
Seventh, you must ask for leave according to the procedures when going out.
Eighth, stand up and answer the teacher’s questions. Listen carefully, be humble, and learn to use modest honorifics.
Ninth, do what you can for the teacher, and take the initiative to help the teacher when you see him having difficulties.