Some friends are often troubled by their inability to talk and communicate and their introverted personality. Let me tell you below.

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Method 1. Have lofty thoughts. Your thoughts, moral character, feelings and cultivation will affect the thoughts, moral character, feelings and culture of the audience intentionally or unintentionally. training. In a speech, only when the persuader has noble ideological cultivation can his words be persuasive. This is the truth that teaching by example is better than teaching by words.

Method 2. Eloquence can also be practiced in primary school culture. If we want to speak to others, we must first have it ourselves. Don't underestimate speaking. Talking too much does not mean that we are talkative. The few words we speak, just these few minutes and these few sentences, as long as we have rich speaking ability. Prepare a small book and record the ideas, methods, good words and sentences you see in newspapers, magazines, and texts every day. Take it out and read it when you have time. Over time, you will form your own thoughts and have your own identity. insights, and also has its own vocabulary library. When he speaks, he speaks clearly and clearly, and he doesn't feel like he's running out of words to say. He can even come up with amazing witticisms. This is the result of accumulation.

Method 3. Be far-sighted. Whether we are giving speeches, conversations, or debates, we are all dealing with people, either speeches or individual individuals. But no matter whether there are many people or few people, no one wants to waste time listening to those old clichés that everyone knows. If you always follow what others say and never have your own opinions or opinions, then you will never become a respected and popular speaker, conversationalist, and debater. You can never conquer your friends.

Method 4. Train your speaking ability and make friends with more eloquent friends to improve your speaking ability. Don't blindly talk nonsense. If you say it out loud, your friends will think it's a bunch of nonsense. Why bother?

2. How to be eloquent

Some friends are often troubled by their poor speech and communication and introverted personality. Some characters are developed over many years. So can you change this kind of personality and develop the ability to be good at communication? As the saying goes: "A state of affairs is easy to change, but a character is hard to change." This is actually not entirely true. "Difficult to move" does not mean that it cannot be moved. People develop and change. With the reform and opening up of society, the frequency of personal communication, the increase of social practice, and the broadening of knowledge, personal concepts, consciousness, and personality will undergo major changes. As long as you consciously pay attention to changing your personality, you will get good results. In addition, we must establish confidence, position ourselves correctly, find ourselves, and value ourselves correctly. We must not be arrogant or belittle ourselves, we must not have self-esteem, and we must not be overwhelmed by a sense of inferiority. We should live among people modestly and prudently, neither humble nor arrogant.

In terms of character building, you can make the following efforts: First, make yourself lovable and hope to become a good friend of others.

Method 1: When you encounter troubles, you might as well assume that you are in a happy and carefree state. Over time, you can naturally develop an optimistic character.

Method 2: Capture the other person’s mentality, pick up topics that the other person is interested in, and talk about them.

Method 3: When talking to friends, you must pay attention to your words and deeds. Don't be glib or praise your strengths. Don't you have any shortcomings? So you have to be steady in your actions to make others like you.

Method 4: Don’t expect perfection from yourself. Also pay attention to your sense of humor.

Secondly, before you start building friendships with others, think about whether you are truly interested in others and whether they can make you happy.

Method 1: Be friendly.

Method 2: Accept other people’s personalities and opinions, and do not force others to change.

Method 3: Pay attention to personal style, and do not blindly contribute to your friends. The principle of mutual help should be the principle of friendship.

Method 4: Tell your friends about your feelings and thoughts, but pay attention to the depth of interaction to avoid embarrassing situations.

Method 5: You must understand that true friends have the following characteristics: they will not put you down to improve themselves; they will keep your secrets; they will not slander you; they will not mind how you dress; Will sever ties.

Method 6: Some friends will say, "Friends are there for critical moments. Doesn't this sentence sound so awkward?

When something happens, just call your friends when you think of them. , then why don’t you make phone calls when you have nothing to do? Remember: get together when you have nothing to do, and don’t think of your friends when something happens! Don’t make fair-weather friends, and don’t make friends who are two-sided. If you are a friend, the best thing is to take a wine bottle and smack him quietly from behind.

Method 7: Some netizens will say, "What should I do if I betray my friend?"

The following. Let me tell you, friends who betray their friends will often be called "running dogs". For such people, they will be beaten every time they see them. As the saying goes, "Hit people don't slap people in the face. The more you say this, delete your face to death. It's better to follow your mouth." Hit him, so that he can remember the consequences of betraying your friends. Don't forget the most important thing after beating him: "Give him a cigarette. If he doesn't take it, catch it. If you catch it, die." Li hit. Remember, when making friends, don’t care about the other person’s family conditions, the most important thing is the person. Friends with good conditions are the most likely to betray their friends, and rich people do not need to curry favor with them.

3. Speaking is an art. Ways to overcome nervousness when speaking in front of others

Many people have very unnatural expressions when speaking in front of many people. In addition to being prone to stage fright, They often say a few ugly words or words that they did not expect, which surprises them.

In fact, the main reason for this phenomenon is the lack of psychological preparation and practical training, which can be completely overcome through the following training methods.

Method 1. Try to relax yourself

Most people who are nervous when speaking in front of others have disordered breathing, reduced oxygen intake, and their minds are temporarily stuck in a state of dementia when they want to speak, so they cannot speak. Say it according to the words you are thinking of.

In a sense, "breathing" and "breath" mean the same thing, so adjusting breathing means "quieting the breath."

Abnormal situations that occur when speaking are usually in this sequence: stage fright...disordered breathing...sluggish mental reaction...speaking in fragmented words. So adjusting your breathing will normalize these conditions.

While speaking, keep your whole body in a relaxed state, take a deep breath quietly, and add a little more force when exhaling.

In this way, my heart will be at ease. In addition, laughter has a great effect on relieving tension throughout the body. Smiling can regulate breathing, and can also make the mind more responsive and focused.

Method 2. Practice some good topics

In daily entertainment, we can always pay attention to people’s topics, which ones are attractive and which ones are not? Why? What is the reason? ?When you speak yourself, consciously practice saying things that can arouse other people's interest, while avoiding topics that cause undesirable effects.

Method 3. Train to avoid bad topics

What topics should be avoided? For yourself, you should first avoid things that you don’t understand at all. Having a half-understood, half-understood, and confused statement will not only bring no benefit to others, but will also leave a bad impression of being frivolous. It would be even more embarrassing if someone asks you questions about these and you can't answer them. The second thing is to avoid topics that you are not interested in. Imagine that you are not even interested in what you are talking about. How can you expect the other person to become excited with your topic? If you force yourself to be high-spirited, you will only suffer from fatigue. Bitter, others may also see your insincerity.

Method 4. Training to enrich topic content

With a topic, you must also have content to talk about. The content comes from life, from your observations and feelings about life. We can often see a person's rich connotations and passionate feelings about life from his words.

Such people are always passionate about many people and things around them. It is difficult to imagine that a cold and unenthusiastic person would happily talk to you about something that is popular on the street.

Method 5. Train self-evaluation of language skills

Is the meaning of the words tactful? Is the topic just right? Is the speech to the point and to the point? Is the articulation clear and understandable? Is the speech nagging and trivial? The volume of the speech is moderate? The speech speed is neither urgent nor slow? Is there a catchphrase in the speech? Is the speech concise and powerful? Is the wording appropriate and silent? Are there any redundant connecting words in the speech? Is the speech true and specific? Is it sufficient? Express the purpose of speaking? Are you able to put yourself in the other person's shoes when speaking? Are you speaking in an undivided and focused manner? Does your speech contain self-bragging? Does it talk non-stop? Does it hurt others? Can you communicate with others sincerely? Are you polite? Can you consider the situation when speaking? Can you master speaking skills? Can you grasp the opportunity to speak skillfully? Can you listen to others attentively?

Although, when we are socializing with others and talking, It's impossible to be pleasant and interesting all the time, but a well-trained conversational style can really help you make a good impression.

Conversing with people in public places is a social behavior. Like other social behaviors, there are certain rules for talking, and every educated person should abide by them. There are also many things to pay attention to when talking to people, what can be said and what cannot be said.

Some experts summarize these into the following items: do not talk about the shortcomings and weaknesses that the other party deeply regrets; do not talk bad things about bosses, colleagues and some friends; do not talk about other people’s secrets; Don’t talk about things like the recession and tight money; don’t talk about some ridiculous and pornographic things; don’t ask about women’s age, marriage status, family property, etc.; don’t complain about personal grievances and complaints; don’t talk about some unclear private rights and wrongs. ; Avoid unpleasant details about the disease; avoid boasting about your achievements and pride.