However, 54% of the respondents said that they have no real friends in the workplace and do not want to be friends with colleagues. These people think that the workplace is like a battlefield, and colleagues are competitors. Being friends with colleagues can only plant a time bomb for themselves, because he knows your shortcomings and even has something on you. Objectively speaking, the relationship between colleagues is really different from that of personal friends. Colleagues work together, there is cooperation and competition, and many times there will be conflicts of interest. However, the relationship between colleagues is so important. The success of work can't be separated from the cooperation of colleagues. Many problems that can't be solved will be solved in the communication with colleagues. Colleagues can put forward opinions and suggestions on your work performance, fair competition with colleagues will promote your continuous learning and growth, and harmonious understanding among colleagues will keep you happy at work. Office workers spend most of their time with their colleagues and have little chance to make friends with people outside their colleagues. If you don't make friends with colleagues around you, you can't talk about your troubles and relieve your stress in time. Worry and stress accumulate day after day, which is extremely unfavorable to physical and mental health. Therefore, it is very necessary to become good partners with colleagues and friends with those who have more in common. But as mentioned above, the relationship between colleagues is both cooperative and competitive, and there are often conflicts of interest. This requires us not to treat colleagues and friends among colleagues like ordinary friends. Therefore, it is necessary for us to master the principles of colleagues' communication and understand the matters needing attention in colleagues' communication. Zi You, a student of Confucius, once said: "It's a shame to count the princes; The number of friends is sparse. " (The Analects of Confucius, Liren, April 26) If it is translated into today's words, it is: serving leaders and treating friends and colleagues, if it is too cumbersome, it will lead to humiliation or alienation. Therefore, keeping a distance and keeping a sense of proportion are the principles that should be observed when becoming partners and friends with colleagues. "Distance produces beauty". In the communication between colleagues, we should leave each other room for independent activities, so as to produce aesthetic feeling. Keeping a proper distance reflects both respect for others and a means of self-protection. Some people are afraid to be friends with colleagues, mainly because they are worried that something will fall into the hands of colleagues. I don't know which day the "handle" will become a "Grenade" and blow themselves to pieces. In fact, this "handle" is often given to each other by yourself. When you don't pay attention to keep your distance, tell your colleagues what you shouldn't say, your privacy, and the people in the organization, you will bury a "mine" around you. This mine may explode at any time in the entanglement of competition, power and interests, even in gossip. Once it explodes, you will have to peel off your skin if you don't die. When you treat your colleagues, even if you are kind, you should pay attention to your discretion. Confucius said to Zi Gong that when advising others, we should "give advice and be good at it. If we can't stop, we should not humiliate ourselves" (The Analects of Confucius, Yan Yuan, December 23). Confucius means: to treat the shortcomings of colleagues, we should advise them faithfully and guide them in good faith. If he still doesn't change, forget it and don't ask for insults. Therefore, to be partners and friends with colleagues, we should keep a proper distance and master the discretion of intimacy. At work, everyone wants to perform better and win their ideal position, honor and interests, so competition is inevitable; Everyone lives under the same roof, and it is inevitable that there will be bumps and bumps, and friction will become commonplace. If these things and problems are not handled well, they will hurt the friendly relationship between colleagues. Therefore, it is very necessary to master some matters needing attention in getting along with colleagues. There are six main points for attention in getting along with colleagues: first, pay attention to anyone who has work contact with you. When you were a student, you can only choose people who share your interests and personality, but you must never do so after you enter the organization and become a social person. There is a paragraph in the Analects of Confucius Zi Zhang that can give us some inspiration. This paragraph is like this: