Sincere people help each other, no matter how much; One more ungrateful person is unnecessary, and you are not negotiable.
"With many friends, the road is easy", but the following people are really not suitable for being friends, so they must stay away.
1. A person with a kind and dark face is a person in front of him and a ghost behind him.
As a man, I am most afraid of doing things in front of me and behind my back. Whatever you do behind your back is a sign of insincerity. If you know, you will be afraid. Such a person, with ulterior motives, is an enemy or a friend, and will be confused for a while, but you will be led by him invisibly. He is good at talking, and he speaks well, which makes you think he is a good man.
A person with a kind and black face is like a basin of warm water. You are a frog in warm water, and you unconsciously fall into his trap, which makes people hard to prevent. For example, if you work in the real estate sector, or you are a leader, he often invites you to eat and drink and treats you as a relative. You think this person is very reliable, has been dating for a long time, and has not made any unreasonable demands. But one day, you find that he helped others get some real estate documents in your name, and he can make a profit from it. In case things get out, he can escape, but you can't escape. He lied to you.
Know people, know faces, but don't know hearts. When you meet someone with a kind face and a black face, stay away. Or he's behind it, but you just don't know it. By the time you found out, it was too late. You must be the one who suffered the loss.
2. People whose interests are supreme associate with others and covet money.
Some people take the initiative to associate with you for money or status, but they don't really want to be friends with you. A friend of mine, Lao Zhang, is forty-eight this year. I was very happy when he called me. He took the initiative to recommend two of my articles to a newspaper and adopted them. After that, he and I often communicated through WeChat and promoted each other in words. On the 9th of last month, he said that he was on a business trip, lost his wallet and needed to borrow money to go home. I transferred 1000 yuan to him before he bought the ticket and got home smoothly. However, I don't want this thousand dollars, because he has blacked me out. I really can't figure it out. 1000 yuan need to go around such a big circle?
The ancients said: "People die for wealth, birds die for food." If someone takes the initiative to please you, it may be for another purpose, not as simple as you think. You'd better stay away from profit-oriented people. That is, you have no conflict of interest with him, but he will turn against you at any time because of money. In his eyes, friendship is nothing at all, far less than money and status.
People who have no moral bottom line often do immoral things.
Be a man, don't entangle with rotten people, the more entangled, the more tired you are. But some people like to tangle with rotten people, because he is an inferior person himself and likes to profit from some messy things. For example, when others are fighting, he will take the initiative to approach, and then take the opportunity to blackmail others with the stronger party, and he can also divide the spoils from it; When someone else stole it, he found out, didn't call the police, but cooperated with others and stole more things, so that he could get a piece of the action.
When you meet a person who has no moral bottom line, if you have contact with him, then you will be implicated in what he has done. My classmate, Zhang Zhou, had contacts with several gangsters in the society when he was in college. On one occasion, several gangsters robbed, and Zhang Zhou didn't participate, but just helped them watch the motorcycle. As a result, Zhang Zhou was designated as an accomplice and was punished by the school.
Be a man, understand people, be clean, and do things in a down-to-earth manner. Don't associate with people who have no moral bottom line. No matter how many benefits others give you, don't accept them. The source of their money is unknown, so you should be careful.
People who are unlearned still think they are "swift horses".
"Never too old to learn", if a person does a thing well or even has no clue, it is mostly because he is not smart enough to complain. If you don't study hard, complain that society doesn't give you opportunities, and complain that people around you are too indifferent, you will become more and more impatient and confused.
If a person wants to mix in society, he must have a skill, even a variety of skills. If you stay with people who don't like learning, you will become poorer and poorer. When a person thinks he is a swift horse, he is actually a lazy horse, a vulgar horse, and a horse that does not strive for progress. You know, "Bole" didn't wait for it, didn't ask for it, but was discovered by others because it shone.
Don't make friends with ignorant people, don't join the group of "complaining every day" and don't be a self-righteous person. You should learn to be your own bole and become shining gold.
People who like eating and drinking like useless socializing.
Some people like lively occasions. He is the loudest and most boastful in any group. With him, you think he is a successful person, an omnipotent person, and a person who can solve any trouble. But if you really want something, you will be pushed from pillar to post if you find it. Even if you promise, you can't do it. Find a bunch of excuses and push the troublesome things around.
Useless socializing is just a waste of time. If you are with people who eat and drink, you are wasting your time. If you get drunk and collapse, it's even worse. Smart people concentrate on their work. When they are free, they should be quiet and enjoy being alone.
6. People in have it both ways are simply unreliable.
Someone asked you out yesterday, but today you changed your mind, because another person asked him out and others gave him more benefits. If you are a businessman, a customer makes a deal with you and agrees to deliver the goods to you on a certain day, but on that day, he will raise the price because someone has paid a high price for the goods.
Some people just chat with you and become friends, but every once in a while, they can turn against you, and he joins a group that is tit for tat with you. Some people think of you and get your help when they are down and out, but when you are down and out, they disappear. He avoided you like a plague, even stepping on you.
In a word, these people are all from have it both ways, and they are all mercenary. You can't associate with him, otherwise, when you rely on them, you will be chilling and lose interest.
"A hero has three gangs and a fence has three stakes", but some people, you would rather go alone than go with him. Who are the real friends? Once you are down and out, you will understand.