The process of meeting people by chance, until they become song friends, and continuing to maintain a good relationship is like a TV series. The sequence of first acquaintance and accidental encounters is full of drama, but also true. feel.
Xiaonan is the public relations manager of a headhunting company. Working in a headhunting firm relies on interpersonal relationships. Many people think that it is difficult for the 22-year-old Xiaonan to develop quickly in this environment with a network of connections.
However, the objective facts surprised even the company’s senior executives: in the third month after joining the company, Xiaonan pulled a designer from an advertising company to work for another advertising company that she had longed for. Chief Designer; within five months, she made several big deals one after another. Seeing her achievements, many people were extremely surprised: How could this little girl get her talent at such a young age? In response, Xiao Nan smiled slightly: You should pay attention to popularity when doing things. Only people with connections can do good things.
In fact, Xiaonan’s impressive performance is mainly due to her being a person with goals and plans. Xiaonan is a girl who is good at communication. In her words: It is endless fun to deal with all kinds of people! Because through communication, not only can you solve some of your own difficult problems, but you can also get what you want from your friends. something.
The more relationships you have, the easier it will be. Therefore, Xiaonan, who always follows her own plan in everything she does, also specially formulated her own plan for interpersonal relationships. She said that interacting with people should have a purpose and not deal with each other casually. Many times we need help from friends, partners, and customers. You may not know each other today, but you may become friends, partners, and customers one day in the future. Therefore, you should remember the many people who have had a casual encounter or acquaintance with you by category, and then selectively build a good relationship with them.
Indeed, not all interpersonal relationships are beneficial to you, so you should list your own interpersonal relationship plans based on your own needs and goals. Next, we provide you with a template, hoping that you can find an interpersonal relationship planning solution that suits you.
List of 100 celebrities you want to know
The process of encountering people by chance, until they become friends, and continuing to maintain a good relationship is like a TV show The series, a series of first acquaintances and accidents, is full of drama, but has a sense of reality.
However, if you just hold the mentality of "I want to meet all kinds of people" without making a plan, then even if there are people from various fields who have "fatal encounters with you" ” and you won’t be able to develop the kind of human connection with him that you want.
If you can make a plan, list the names of those people who will play a key role in your future development, and say to yourself: I hope to get to know him, and I must find a way to let him Be my friend. Then, your positive attitude will prompt you to seize the opportunity to make friends with him and let him become a member of your interpersonal relationship.
Therefore, if you have a subjective desire to get to know important people, you should take effective actions, such as cutting out the deeds of important people you want to get to know reported in newspapers and magazines. Stick it on the notepad and record other people's comments about them until you see the person's name and you know what happened to him and what kind of person he is.
If you have these preparations, then you will know what topics you should talk to the other person when you meet him for the first time. Even if you only have a minute to talk, you will make your first acquaintance enjoyable, natural, and interesting. When the other person sees that you pay so much attention to him and actually know so much about him, he will also become interested in you and remember you deeply when he first met you.
Otherwise, the best you can do is exchange business cards or nod. In that way, you can only say "I have met someone" to people, but you cannot say "I know someone", and this is no different from meeting your celebrity idol by chance on the street or in the supermarket. If you rush to find a topic in order to get closer to you, you will probably miss the point because you have not made the slightest preparation for him and do not know everything about him.
Even if you rack your brains, it won't help your relationship. You are still a "stranger" you have met.
So, if you want to get to know someone, you should actively prepare to get to know him. If you plan ahead, you will always have a better chance of winning. Therefore, you must make your own "celebrity list."
Look for people who can help you at critical moments
Good interpersonal relationships do not mean the more people you know, the better, because you have only one purpose of getting to know people extensively, which is hope Can develop themselves, I hope there will be a noble person among them who can help them at critical moments. However, although you know a lot of people, they may not all be of great help to you. On the contrary, it is those people who are not favored by you who can step forward at critical moments and save you from dire straits.
In fact, building our own interpersonal relationships is similar to studying. The purpose of reading a lot of books is not simply to increase the number of books you have read, nor to show off to others how many books you have read, but to encounter a good book that you can put down, read over and over again, and benefit from endlessly. Book.
The only way for us to find this good book is to read it one by one. Only after reading thousands of books can we find that good book, and that rarely happens. Occasionally, I happen to discover a book while reading it. So you have to read a lot to find your favorites.
However, many young people now think that this job is as troublesome as a famous director choosing a role, and they always try to skip this step. In fact, this mentality of eager for quick success is not helpful. Only by going through this process down-to-earth and step by step can you find the person you really need, even though you have to repeat the trivial steps of interacting with someone again and again.
Distinguish between different states of interpersonal relationships
Everyone you know cannot fully play the role they should play as people in the network, so they can certainly be distinguished as " People who are still in contact" and "have rarely contacted" or "have no contact at all". For these three types of relationships in your network, you can distinguish them by organizing the business cards you have on hand.
In the relationships that are closely related to us, there will still be some that will be abandoned by us and enter the "trash can". And those relationships that are severed rarely have the possibility of resurrection.
So, when you are sorting out your business cards, you will sadly find that there are surprisingly few close connections, but among those few connections, there are actually people with extremely high titles and famous names. People, but the relationship with them is cruelly stagnant, and has little value to you; and those business cards that have not been used at all are relationships that will not produce value at all.
Based on this important reason, we have to search and filter business cards in order to hope that those relationships that are originally closely connected will not be killed due to our own negligence, in order to hope that those relationships with few contacts will be able to have some opportunities. Resurrection next.
In addition, we should also limit the relationships that are frequently contacted and cannot allow them to expand, because your energy does not allow you to have frequent and useless relationships. Therefore, you need to limit those business cards, such as limiting them to three or four business card books. When these Rolodexes are full, you have to continue a thorough review and put those relationships that are no longer closely connected into the Rolodex that are rarely in contact.
The process of doing these trivial things is the process of sorting out your interpersonal relationships. It will make you feel that although the people in the interpersonal network have not changed much, their role is still there. Qualitative changes are quietly taking place.
If you want to have a glorious future, you must have a detailed plan for your life; if you want to have the ability to easily create the future, you must rely on your own interpersonal relationships. The premise is to plan your interpersonal relationships well, distinguish between interpersonal relationships in different situations, make your own list of celebrities, and then find the noble people who can help you at critical moments.