Communications between people begin with "conversation". "Conversation" is an effective means to make friends, get closer, and communicate ideologically. Many things involve finding the common ground between the two parties in casual conversations, generating a kind of resonance mentally and psychologically, reaching a kind of common consciousness, and thus gaining the recognition of others. Conversation is the best way to communicate, spark buzz, and make friends.

Under normal circumstances, when meeting someone for the first time, both parties will feel nervous and awkward. But as long as both parties can find the most common points and have the same topics, they can easily get closer to each other. For example, if both parties have left their hometowns to find jobs, graduated from the same school, and know the same people, they will feel cordial during the conversation.

For another example, when they first meet, one party asks the other party, "Where are you from?" or "Which school did you graduate from?" If the other party answers: "I am from Hangzhou." He will then say: "Hangzhou! I have been there. I remember that the most distinctive local products are..." In this way, within a few minutes, the two of them can have a very lively chat. It's warm, like a friend I haven't seen for many years.

When facing a stranger, you have to find a way to make the other person's feelings for you "blow". Once the feelings of the other person are "buzzed", the stranger will be the one talking to you. Become a good friend.

Two armed police soldiers got on the bus from a county in Zhejiang and sat in the same row of seats.

"Hello, where will you get off?" one of them asked the other person.

"To the terminal, how about you?"

"Me too, where are you going in Zhejiang?"

"I went to Hangzhou to meet my girlfriend, you Are you from here?"

"No, I am visiting relatives from out of town."

After the verbal testing by both parties, both parties are familiar with this city and Zhejiang. We know each other very well, they are all outsiders, so their similarities will be clear to each other. After the two people discovered that the other party had similar sexual preferences, they started talking very enthusiastically, and even invited each other to be their guests after getting off the bus.

When meeting someone for the first time, in order to have a meaningful, interesting and enjoyable conversation, both parties must establish a topic of mutual interest. Some people think that if we are strangers and meet for the first time, how can we share topics of interest? Not really. Living in the same era and in the same land, as long as we are good at searching, there is no need to worry about not having the same language.

A primary school teacher and a mason, there seems to be no common ground between them. However, if the mason is a parent of a primary school student, then the two can express their opinions and exchange views on how to educate their children; if the primary school teacher is building or repairing a house, then the two can discuss how to purchase building materials and choose Communicate information and discuss construction plans.

As long as both parties pay attention and test, it is not difficult to find that each other has the same views on a certain issue, the same interests and hobbies in a certain aspect, and a certain type of things that everyone is most concerned about. Some people feel reserved and embarrassed in front of new acquaintances, but they just haven't discovered topics of mutual interest.

There are many ways to find ***similarities, such as ***similar living environments, ***similar work tasks, ***similar traveling directions, ***similar living habits, etc. , as long as we find out with our hearts, it is not difficult to break the situation of having nothing to say to strangers.

A stranger is not scary in front of you. What is scary is that you dare not talk to him. As long as you chat with them proactively and enthusiastically, try to find the most common points of conversation with them, and win the other person's favor, this will shorten the distance between you.