Top ten methods to teach you how to teach your children well!

1 Self-positioning: Don’t be a teacher, be a friend

Teachers must strictly perform their duties as teachers at school. When they return home, they should immediately change their roles and become a gentle and virtuous good person. Mom, a cheerful and fun-loving father, should be your children’s friends.

Teachers are the managers of students at school. They are solemn and serious in front of students, but they still habitually act as authorities and teachers at home. This approach is inappropriate. Children have to face many teachers at school, which will cause some tension. This tension needs to be relieved when you return home. However, if you still appear as a teacher when you return home, the child's tension will not be relieved. School The double pressure from the family will affect the child's brain development and psychological development.

2 Refuse to be "gentle": Make children full of vitality

Generally speaking, teachers' lifestyles are relatively stable and quiet. This kind of lifestyle is the most beneficial to children's learning, so the proportion of teachers' children who are "problem students" is very small. However, this kind of stable, regular, and quiet life is also harmful to children and may cause children to lack adaptability. Once life is irregular, children will have difficulty adapting, are afraid of challenging activities and life, and have poor survival ability.

Parents who are teachers should avoid making their children’s lives too quiet, too regular, and too quiet. They can appropriately allow their children to participate in more intense sports activities, such as basketball, football, etc., while strengthening their physical fitness. , improve the body's movement balance ability and reaction speed; you can also arrange some challenging activities for them. In practical activities, children will inevitably encounter various problems and practical difficulties, and strive to solve problems and overcome them. The difficult process is the process of enhancing their resilience. So that when we really encounter any problems in the future, our children will suffer a big loss.

3 Expand horizons: Cultivate children’s independent personality

Teachers have a small interpersonal circle and are generally simple and unsociable. This kind of living environment is not a big problem for the teachers themselves, but it will be a great restriction for the children of teachers, especially the children of teachers in urban primary and secondary schools. Parents' lack of network resources and lack of social activities virtually limit the children's activity space, and the children's field of vision will be relatively narrow.

To change this situation, teachers must start from themselves, pay attention to the trend of the times, create opportunities for children to understand different aspects of reality, and cultivate children's perception of society. Take your children out for walks to enhance their experience, encourage them to interact with people at different levels, and dare to establish their own opinions in unfamiliar environments. You can create various conditions to expand your children's horizons, take them on outings, attend interest classes, volunteer in welfare homes, study certain animals and plants with concentration, go to streets and alleys to look for the footprints of urban development, etc. These beneficial activities can be done as long as Encouraging children to insist on doing one or two things will greatly change the child's feelings about life, enhance the child's desire to actively communicate with others, improve the child's ability to feel the beauty of practice, and help cultivate the child's independent personality.

4 Don’t do it all: guide children to understand themselves

Although teachers have a small social circle, they have connections in education, so the problem of “difficulty in going to school” in society is very important to teachers. It doesn't exist anymore. But the question of whether a child should attend the school where he or she teaches depends on the circumstances. Education experts advise that it is best not to place your children in a school where you teach. Children in the school where they teach are bound to be taken care of by their colleagues, and everything goes smoothly for the child, which is not conducive to the formation of the child's independent personality.

Teachers must not be self-righteous and always plan the future for their children. Teachers can help children understand themselves and then realize themselves, but don’t think that if you follow your plan, your children will become what you want them to be. After all, children are not machines.

5 Based on reality: the big book of teaching well in society

The moral atmosphere of teachers’ families is generally relatively good, and it is easy for children to develop good moral character. However, some psychological problems of children are easily affected by teachers. Misunderstood as a moral issue.

Teachers are accustomed to using obedience and well-behavedness as an important measure of students' moral development, and regard children who do not listen to instructions and behave unconventionally as underachievers. Long-term professional habits make most teachers worry that their children will eventually become poor or bad students like a particularly difficult child in the class, and sometimes even project the shortcomings of poor students onto their own children.

Teachers don’t have to worry too much that their children will become bad. The problem is that you should pay attention to whether your children will become too cowardly and be bullied. You must teach your children how to protect themselves. In order for children to understand society, they must understand what bad things are and who are the bad people. Never lock your child in a "sterile soundproof box". Otherwise, when the child goes out into the society, he will find that there are too many "intrigues" and "scams" in the society. At that time, he will be very distressed and may collapse. .

6 Role reversal: Leave unhappiness at home

Many people do not understand the work of teachers. They do not understand that behind a few lessons, several times more preparation is required. , it requires several times more corrections than several classes, and several times more time than several classes to study students. Teachers can stop the work on their hands, but there is no time limit for the work in their hearts.

Nowadays, society has high demands on teachers, and parents have high expectations for their children. However, students have very complex thoughts and a large number of students. It is easy to bring unhappy problems home. This is actually wrong. . Before walking into the house, you should warn yourself: Don’t bring unpleasant things home. As soon as I get home, I should change my role immediately and make the family warm and harmonious. This will hint to myself that I will open the door again in the future. Teachers keep things at work in their minds at school and things at home at home. This is a thought habit or psychological habit. Developing such a habit is necessary to create a good family atmosphere. .

7 Reasonable expectations: How can children be perfect if they are not sages?

Teachers often deal with outstanding children at school, and sometimes praise outstanding children intentionally or unintentionally. If you go home and compare excellent children with children with problems, most children will not accept it.

As teachers, parents should pay attention to some strategies when facing such children: Do not compare too much, otherwise your children will develop an inferiority complex or a rebellious mentality. You can let those outstanding children play at home or make friends with your own children, which will influence your children subtly. However, the obvious comparison of good and bad children is detrimental to the growth of your children. As the educator Confucius said: "When you see a good person, think about it; when you see an unworthy person, you have to introspect yourself." Also, "Choose the good ones and follow them, and change the bad ones."

Hope your children will become successful. It is the wish of every parent to hope that their daughters will become successful. However, when we treat our children, we should recognize their current reality. Our expectations for them should not be too high, we should not put too much pressure on our children to study, and we should not put our children and their children at the same time. Compared with the best students in the class, because human intelligence is diverse, we should treat our children with a normal mentality. When the children's grades decline, we should not criticize them too much, but should be more Help them find out the reasons and help them master the methods of solving problems.

8 Peaceful attitude: Give children twelve points of patience

Teachers often have an occupational disease. They have enough patience with students, don’t bother with questions, and can teach them time and time again. Solve problems for students again and again, because this is your responsibility as a teacher; once you return home and face the questions asked by your children, you often cannot talk to your children calmly. This is a very common phenomenon and is reasonable. But when you return home, you are the mother and father, not the teacher, answering students' questions. After the role reversal, you will have a peaceful attitude. If the child has a problem, I will help him solve it and leave enough time to communicate with the child. , listen to or solve your child's problems as a friend.

9 Role Model: Love knowledge and pay attention to re-education

Most teachers graduated from normal colleges and universities, have learned and mastered a lot of educational knowledge, and have also trained many outstanding students. , sometimes they don’t think of updating their knowledge, and even a large number of front-line teachers lose their perception of new knowledge and are generally stuck in tedious and complicated routine work.

The backward concepts and outdated teaching strategies of such teachers will be brought home accordingly, causing shortcomings in the growth of children's personality and personality.

Parents are role models for their children. If parents who deal with knowledge all day long do not actually love knowledge, their children will not sincerely respect knowledge subconsciously. Only by constantly updating their knowledge and improving their own quality can teachers achieve good results in teaching, create harmony at home, and maintain a good parent-child relationship. No matter what stage of growth a child is in, if parents can communicate with them as a true teacher, then no matter how ordinary the child is, he or she will stand out.

10 Start from the Heart: Communication creates beauty

Teachers have to attend classes and communicate with students every day at school. They talk too much and don’t want to say anything when they get home. . This is indeed a professional issue. As teachers, after understanding this phenomenon, parents should take the initiative to communicate and communicate with their children on an equal footing. On the one hand, they can close the parent-child relationship, and on the other hand, they can discover their children's problems in time and help them solve them. Every day, they discover and solve little by little, and gradually You will find that your child starts to become outstanding.