"Body language" often plays an important role in communication. You should carefully observe others and then slowly develop your own ability to use "body language" in conversations.
Human expressions are very rich, and using gestures to express subtle emotions can attract others far more than relying on words alone.
Before you start speaking, you cannot ignore that the listener will judge the level of your speech from the speaker's state. Those who only pay attention to the content of what they say without paying attention to their posture will speak poorly.
When a person faces an audience, he must have courage, straighten his chest, and look directly at your audience. In addition, for the speaker, looking at the listener's head can understand his reaction to his speech; when the head is pointed neatly towards him, it means that the other person is listening to him; his head can't help but move back and forth, which is a reaction to his words. Tired of hearing the reaction.
After getting used to looking at the audience’s heads, you also need to look for people who nod. There must be well-intentioned listeners among the audience. They will nod their heads and say "that's right" to every word you say. This kind of person is a supporter of your point of view, so you should focus on this kind of person and have the feeling of "listening". If you have the courage to shout with yourself, your words will become more fluent.
On the podium, your behavior should be generous and natural. Don't keep shaking your clothes or scratching your head with your hands, because doing so will not only distract the listener, but also show your lack of self-control. On the podium, no matter what action you take, if it cannot increase the attention of the audience, there is absolutely no reason why it will not have any effect. If it cannot have a good effect, it will only have a bad effect. So you have to stand your ground and show that you are in complete control of your actions, which means you have mental self-possession.
Before you speak, you should take a deep breath and look up at the audience for a moment. If there's a lot of noise in the audience, you should wait a little longer for everyone to quiet down.
Put your chest up. This is something you should practice every day. Then once you stand in front of the audience, you will do it unconsciously.
Gestures can add significant impact to your speech. Necessary gestures will enhance the effect of your speech, attract the audience's attention to the words you say, and help them find the focus of your words. The use of gestures can also make the speaker more inspiring. It is worth noting that the use of gestures must conform to the content of your speech, your personality, the atmosphere of the speech venue and other environments. In particular, gestures are not speeches and cannot replace speeches. Gestures can distract the attention of the audience.
When making a good gesture, the swing range should be larger. It is best to start the gesture from the shoulders, so that it will look more generous and beautiful. Be careful not to end any gesture too quickly. For example, when you straighten your index finger to help you develop a certain paragraph of thought, it is best to maintain this posture until you finish speaking this sentence, otherwise this seemingly small mistake will often cause very serious consequences. Effect. Because it can cause your original key points to be misunderstood, and people will regard small areas as your main points. Just do everything in the most natural posture.
In short, your "body language" is the capital for your speech to gain approval and establish your personality. The first step in interpersonal interaction is often physical contact. Moderate contact can enhance your charm. We know that charisma includes honesty, caring, humility and competence. Through the intimate behavior of physical contact, you can indeed express a certain amount of goodwill and let the other person feel your sincerity and care. If you act proactively, it means that you are polite and open-minded. In this way, after the other party gains a sense of security and self-confidence, they will feel that it is right to come to you, which will affirm your talents and abilities. This series of physical interactions will be received by the rational and emotional centers, interpreted, and finally formed into an impression, which is the impression others have of you.
But interpersonal interaction is a two-way process, and wishful thinking will not work. For example, if a female colleague comes to the company to report, she probably does not want you to express welcome with a hug, let alone a kiss.
According to research, there are several types of physical contact that can leave a bad impression on others, such as violating the safe distance of "arm's length", making body movements that are too large, sexually suggestive movements, or being a bit pretentious. They are all called brothers. These will cause others to feel unhappy, and they will think that you are rude, scheming, or have a weak mind and are not trustworthy. They will also think that you may not have the ability to solve their problems, so they will not be able to leave you too much. Good impression.
Because body language contains a high degree of privacy and not everyone is willing to accept it, body language has certain flaws. If you express the wrong feelings and have the wrong meaning, it will make people think that you are overbearing and do not respect others at all; otherwise, you have low emotional intelligence and do not even understand the most basic rules.
Therefore, more body language is not better, nor is less body language better. It is most important to know how to use it correctly, so that it is just right and the guests and hosts enjoy themselves. Over or under, the consequences may be serious.
The key to body posture is very simple, which is to straighten your waist, raise your head and chest, and lean your body slightly forward. This posture means that you are honest, have nothing to hide, and are willing to contact people, indicating that you like to make friends.
When you walk into a crowd, the correct posture is "face to face", that is, eye to eye, chest to chest. According to research, if two people do not meet each other correctly, for example, if I look next to you and you look next to me, there will be nothing to say to each other. In fact, everyone who loves to chat knows this. If you don’t know it, it means you are a little shy and should correct it quickly.
If you are speaking to a large group of people, it is best to face the center and make sure everyone can see your face and hear your voice. Do not mutter to yourself or lower your head to talk to a few people. Talk privately to each other; of course, don't turn your head to the side so that some people can only look at the back of your head; others like to glance around, as if looking for an escape door, preparing to "escape". These are all examples of errors. Your eyes represent your sincerity. When you see someone watching from the sidelines, convey your goodwill with gaze, nod, and smile, and then use gestures to guide them to join in the interaction.
The "safe distance" has a range, and it applies to every communication situation. You should not cross this limit, but you can try to approach the lower limit as much as possible to highlight your affinity. It is enough to maintain a distance of about 45 to 60 centimeters with more familiar friends. If you are meeting someone for the first time, extend the distance to about 120 centimeters, but do not exceed it. If it is too far away, it will appear less sincere.
The correct way is to look at the other person very gently and don't let your eyes wander. Otherwise, it means that you are guilty or have no sincerity in dealing with the other person.
Smiling is the best public relations language, but it must be natural and relaxed. Forcing a smile will only have negative effects. Of course, it is not good to have an expressionless face. There is no joy, anger, sorrow or joy on your face, which means that you are very "autistic" and you must be too lazy to speak. Finally, remember to look at other people’s faces rather than staring at the wall or ceiling. To let others feel your mood, you must also understand other people's mood in order to achieve the so-called "soul communication".
Body language may seem trivial, but it fully reflects a person's psychological state, personality traits and values. As long as you can understand the secrets, you will have more chips and a higher advantage than others.