There are two reasons why the relationship between friends has become weak: First, the distance between time and space has gradually widened; Second, the gap between social resources, status and knowledge has widened.

First, the distance between time and space

It may be a little helpless to say this, but many friendships are staged, and time and space are the two biggest killers to kill friendship.

Once, the combination of time and space allowed us to enjoy a pleasant journey together. At the fork road, you said you were going to see whales in the sea, and I said I was going to see deer in the forest, so we parted ways. But we are not strangers overnight. At first, we kept in touch. You show me the photos of whales and I'll tell you what the deer looks like. However, after no longer participating in each other's lives, it gradually became difficult to start the topic, and the previous tacit understanding gradually disappeared.

Many times, superficial conversations, no timely replies, and abrupt chats have made each other clearly feel that this connection has become an interruption. Adults have a delicate sensitive and caring consciousness. Once they feel the resignation and indifference of the other party, they rarely take the initiative again. After all, everyone is busy.

So you see, nothing happened, no specific waves, no big fight, and even no conclusion, but we just stopped contacting each other. Then, we not only disappeared into each other's lives, but also blurred into each other's memories.

under the erosion of time and the barrier of distance, our contact with that person was cut off silently, quietly and irresistibly.

"Being pushed away and following the flow of life, the stranger in the coming year is the closest XXX yesterday." Probably, this is "I don't know what I like at first, but I'm already in the middle of the song."

Second, the gap between social resources, status and knowledge has widened

Although it is somewhat direct, it is still necessary to admit that one of the reasons for the weakening of the relationship between friends is that the gap between social resources, status and knowledge has widened, and he can't understand your anguish. For you, his hesitation may be some kind of disguised show-off.

They have nothing to say, so they can only reminisce about the past until they were chewed repeatedly, which is tasteless and tasteless. Because of their feelings, they are afraid of being accused of being snobbish, and they have to barely maintain the mutual affection of praise. Of course, there are many friendships that transcend class, but their knowledge and speculative power must be equal. Many young friends can only be remembered; Many people who become attached to each other because of kindness are only suitable for repaying kindness. Friends are people who need to exchange ideas, not just feelings.

I feel more and more that we should seek friends from fellow travelers, instead of dragging friends along. At the fork in the road, it's good to say goodbye gently. It's better to say "Happy New Year" during the Chinese New Year than to say "Happy New Year" when two people don't like each other.

In the process of going their separate ways, old friends keep losing, but in the new environment, they can't establish a relationship that can make up for this loss. In my opinion, it is the joint efforts of the two that have led to the feeling of "losing friends". Many people have this experience: after graduation, it seems that it is becoming more and more difficult to meet new friends, and it is difficult for the social circle to expand outside work. Colleagues can eat together, chat together and play together, but it seems not easy to become particularly good bosom friends.

This is normal. After all, people get together for work, not to make friends. Besides, when friendship is mixed with business, it will become more complicated and worry more. But these are not the most important things. The real problem seems to be that we are less and less willing to spend energy to make friends. Because I'm too tired from work, I want to stay alone and have more rest when I have time, and I don't want to spend my energy socially. Because it is too much trouble to understand a person from scratch, I have no mood and enthusiasm when I was young; Because I have too many things to do, making friends is no longer the focus of my life ...

The old ones are constantly losing, and the new ones are not replenished, so it seems that there are really fewer and fewer friends.