Everyone in life may have been betrayed by others. Such things happen because of the interests and purposes of the other party. Although everyone is uncomfortable, they can face the reality. However, there is another situation that is hard for everyone to accept and tolerate, that is, the betrayer is the closest person to him. This is undoubtedly a strange, unimaginable and impossible thing for the betrayed party, and his heart will be hit hard and even fatal. Not only will there be obvious strong reactions, but the most painful thing is to question and shake the feelings of both sides, and it is often difficult to get out of this pain. So how do you get out of the pain of being betrayed by someone close to you? It should be decided as appropriate.

First, the difference between betraying an idea and an idea.

There is a popular saying? You shot me in the back, and I still believe the gun went off? This sentence describes two very close soldiers. Under special circumstances and crisis situations, one of the soldiers betrayed another companion out of his own selfishness and fired a shot at the other side. The wounded soldier who was betrayed finally took a forgiving attitude towards him after perceiving each other's intentions.

This phenomenon is not uncommon in life. Under some special circumstances, some close people, for their own selfish interests, made the wrong choice in the case of poor ideas, thus making things that are sorry for the closest people. Whatever the reason, this kind of thing is an emotional injury to the betrayer, which is human nature, but at this time, as the betrayed party, after the result appears, you should not lose your mind and do extreme things on impulse.

When the betrayed party finds out the ins and outs of the matter, it knows and understands that the other party made a mistake through carelessness. At this time, it is necessary to comprehensively evaluate and judge from the aspects of quality, personality, intimacy between each other, and past performance towards you, and weigh the pros and cons. If the judgment is really possible or worth continuing to be intimate, then you should not be ruthless and cling to it. You should know that people are not sages, and there are mistakes.

In addition, you can put yourself in the shoes and see if you can stand the consideration of human weakness in this situation or other special circumstances. In the face of facts, the correct approach should be to adopt an attitude of understanding, tolerance, forgiveness and trust, and give them a chance to correct their mistakes. In addition, after this incident, the betrayer will feel guilty and shadowed, his conscience will be condemned, and he will feel uneasy. Then he will continue to make up for it, and he may make up for it and do it better. Once he knows his mistakes and can correct them, he will be excellent.

If the injured party haggles over every ounce and does not forgive the wrong party, it will not only make others lose the opportunity to correct their mistakes, but also indulge themselves in pain. If you let go of each other's mistakes and learn to let go, you will give them a chance to change themselves and start over. At the same time, you will also liberate your heart and become relieved, and you will not lose someone close to you. Why not?

Second, intentional betrayal.

As the saying goes? Separation of heart and abdomen? 、? It is difficult to draw a dragon and a tiger, but it is difficult to know each other's faces. The other, contrary to a momentary gaffe, is betrayed by someone close to you, because there is something wrong with the other person's character and disposition. He is completely selfish, self-centered, and puts personal interests above everything else. Once there is conflict and contradiction between interests and emotions, the other party will not hesitate to sell their feelings for interests and abandon their feelings and relationships for individuals.

The reason why this kind of person didn't show all this at first seems to be in line with people's recognized code of conduct and moral norms, and he can't see anything special, and then he can be friendly with you and become close to you. That's because during the interaction, you have a smooth sunshine, live in peace, and have no substantive interests and conflicts. The other person has no chance to expose his own essence and nature, and can normally get in close contact with you.

Once a special environmental experiment concerns one's own interests, he will be desperate for his own self-interest, completely abandon moral constraints, betray his closest people, and even sacrifice the other's interests. This betrayal is caused by an extremely selfish nature. Doing so is purely an instinctive self-expression, just depending on the environment and conditions and whether it involves interests.

Once this type of person betrays you, it may appear more than once or twice, possibly many times. As long as there is a similar situation, it will continue to appear and happen. Once you find this kind of betrayal, you should know that you are careless in making friends and meet inappropriate people. You should stay away from each other, even make a clean break with them, and then go their separate ways, because such people are safe and what people call villains. Their essence is mercenary, selfish and shameless.

If you don't wake up after being betrayed by the other party, forgive the other party unprincipled, continue to associate with it and stay close, then the other party will hurt you at any time. When you constantly encounter this phenomenon, you will have unbearable great anger. At this time, as the betrayed party, you will not only suffer losses and injuries, but also suffer numerous blows. The price paid for this is meaningless and valuable. You will know your personal understanding of the story of the farmer and the snake.

Will you, as the saying goes, let yourself often fall into fear and worry and completely give up the illusion of each other? Not to be taunted, can you afford to hide? , can we? Stay out of it? Slowly distance ourselves from each other, get rid of intimacy, go their separate ways, stay away from each other as early as possible, just like two parallel lines, so that we can live in peace and avoid more unnecessary harm.