Sheng often thinks about failure, thinking about the ending as soon as he goes on stage.
As the saying goes, "extremes meet, outstanding people are outstanding, outstanding people are outstanding." Liu Yuxi's phrase "In the old days, Wang Xietang flew into the homes of ordinary people" tells how many ups and downs, sharing weal and woe, and changing dynasties. People in their heyday are like boiling water. If they don't cool down quickly, they will soon evaporate without a trace. Only those who know how to "take care of the situation" can avoid the coming murder and be truly outstanding.
Zeng Guofan, a famous figure in the late Qing Dynasty, knows a truth: Gao Zhen's power is dominant, and its prosperity will decline. So he quickly and decisively showed weakness and avoided an upcoming power struggle, even a fatal disaster. This is a wise move, and such "scheming" and foresight are worth learning and imitating by future generations.
Conquering Tianjing is the biggest victory since Zeng Guofan led the expedition. The popularity of Zeng Guofan and Ceng Guoquan brothers reached its zenith. The Qing government rewarded these heroes for their "hard work and hard preparation". Zeng Guofan was awarded the title of Prince of Taibao, the title of first-class Marquis, hereditary replacement, and Henaan with eyes; Ceng Guoquan was named Prince Shao Bao, First Earl and Binocular Hualing. Zeng Guofan was very grateful for such a big reward: "I am the most rewarding code in the world, and I am shaking with shame this time. How should I report it? "
However, all this is only a superficial glory for Zeng Guofan and his brothers. Secretly, the Zeng Guofan brothers are faced with numerous turbulent "eddies", and the energy generated by these eddies is enough to drag them into the abyss of perdition.
After Tianjing was conquered, Zeng Guofan was no longer an assistant minister of the Ministry of War in the former capital, and one's intimate party followers and students had spread all over the southeast, from the governor to the prefect. At the same time, it also controlled the "lean" 50 thousand Xiang army, which undoubtedly brought great threat to the rule of the Qing government. After the fall of Tianjing, the biggest worry of the Qing government was no longer the remnants of the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom, but the military and political power of Zeng Guofan, the governor of Liangjiang with increasing military power, and the Han landlord class centered on Xiang Army. This requires the Qing government to proceed from the overall strategy of central and local governments, centralization and decentralization, and this special political demand determines Zeng Guofan's fate of being seized of power after his success.
After the fall of Tianjing, the Qing government began to restrict the expansion of Zeng Guofan's power. The Qing government took advantage of the inherent contradictions in the Xiang army to quickly promote and support Zeng Guofan's generals, and their status improved rapidly, even reaching the same level as Zeng Guofan's. When the left-wing Xiang Army formed an alliance with Shen Baozhen and broke away from Zeng Guofan to challenge him, the Qing government made great use of it, secretly supported Zuo, Shen and Zeng Guofan, and disintegrated Zeng Guofan's power from the inside. On the other hand, Ceng Guoquan tried its best to suppress it, so as not to give it a chance to raise its head. Although he was promoted to the governor of Zhejiang, he was not allowed to do anything on the pretext that he had not yet arrived.
Facing Zeng Guofan's tendency of "a wily rabbit dies, a running dog cooks, birds are exhausted, a good bow hides, the enemy is defeated, and the adviser dies", how to get rid of the immediate predicament is indeed an urgent problem to be solved. In fact, some time before the fall of Tianjing, Zeng Guofan had already thought about how to end up after success. After the fall of Beijing that day, in the face of the suspicion of the imperial court and all kinds of embarrassing actions that followed, Zeng Guofan had long been ignorant and prepared psychologically. If you want to do well in the end, you must cut off your wings.
Zeng Guofan often reminds himself to pay attention to the cruel historical lesson that "being rich often leads to suffering". He is well aware of the feudal rules of "a sly rabbit dies, a running dog cooks, birds are exhausted, a good bow hides, the enemy is destroyed, and the counselor dies". Therefore, only by pushing the United States to make contributions can we maintain prosperity and protect Thailand. When Zeng Guofan arrived in Jiangning from Anqing, the "package" plan was fully mature.
After Zeng Guofan arrived in Nanking, he decided to abolish Xiang Yong on July 4th. In the seventh day of July, he told the Qing court that "there are too many ministers and troops, which is to abolish 30,000 to 40,000 people to save money."
While deposing Xiang, he was also invited to his hometown to recuperate. What Ceng Guoquan did when he captured Tianjin became a target of public criticism. At the same time, the Qing government was most worried about him, fearing that he would climb the mountains and gather followers, so he wanted to leave the military camp early and not let him go to Zhejiang as governor. Helpless, Zeng Guofan had to take advantage of his serious illness, open the governor's office in Zhejiang and go back to his hometown to recuperate. Soon, the Qing government recognized Zeng Guofan's performance and rewarded Ceng Guoquan with six or two people as comfort. Ceng Guoquan was confused, but Zeng Guofan knew the stakes and tried to convince him.
Later, Ceng Guoquan returned to his hometown, and his resentment was hard to shake off, which led to a serious illness. From then on, he declined everything politely, until the spring of Tongzhi five years, when the Qing government ordered him to be the governor of Hubei, he didn't go to his post. The plan of taking retreat as progress and retiring to protect officials has impressed future generations. The abolition of Xiang Army is a typical event of Zeng Guofan's seeking things first and "thinking about it when he is excited".
Zeng Guofan has always advocated that "when you are rich, you should always think about it." When you come on stage, you will have money. You must remember this second language. "
The higher a person's status, the greater his fame and fortune, the easier it is to bosse around and get carried away, and the more resentment and jealousy he encounters at this time. For more than a century, Zeng Guofan was worshipped by many great men and celebrities and became the last spiritual idol in feudal times, which had a lot to do with his bumper harvest of evening performances.
Zeng Guofan once comforted and warned his younger brother, saying: We are now in an excellent era, and I am doing all the housework alone. You should be an aboveboard person wholeheartedly. Fame comes out, faith comes out, even if you answer casually, you will be fine. So don't be greedy for money and don't take advantage.
It can be seen that Zeng Guofan is associated with fame and wealth and greed, and the insatiable person is notorious; A generous person has a clear reputation. Once your reputation is widely known, you can be informal. Zeng Guofan's knowledge can be described as high, even a little cunning. He regards a good reputation as the foundation of an adult, which should be correct and clear, and cannot put the cart before the horse.
Zeng Guofan attached great importance to family fame and reputation. In order to maintain the family's fame and reputation, he can be said to have done his best.
As the saying goes, a tree attracts the wind. Due to the great cause of the family, several brothers are big officials in the court, so there are many rumors about their brothers outside.
Zeng Guofan heard the accusation of their brother's evil deeds more than once. After listening to it, he didn't want to keep it a secret, so he told them one by one. Either blame them directly or persuade them euphemistically. If there is, I hope they will correct them, and if not, I will encourage them.
It is precisely because of Zeng Guofan's foresight and painstaking management that the great honor and political assets of the Zeng family have been preserved. After Zeng Guofan conquered Tianjing, his personal prestige and military strength reached the peak. Many of his subordinates suggested that Zeng Guofan send troops to revolt to restore the Han nationality. Zeng Guofan politely declined this point, and showed his intention with a couplet of "countless flowers depend on heaven, rivers and mountains know themselves".
Zeng Guofan served as an official all his life, especially after reaching the top, cutting off his wings to help him spend the "Xuan of life and death". At the end of feudalism, he finally gained the reputation of "saint", which has been praised by later generations.
There is room for everything, and there is no harm in taking a step back.
The most elusive thing in the world is the human heart. Some people usually smirk, but they are actually tougher and blacker than anyone else. For this backstabbing villain, the worst policy is to hide, and the 36-meter "hiding" is the best scheme; Take the middle policy as the system and subdue others; The best policy is to get rid of it, to rebel, to get rid of it is to get rid of it.
The last of the "36 strategies" is "walking is the best policy". The original plan said: "The whole division will avoid the enemy, and there will be no blame and chaos when left." It does not violate the normal law of using troops to retreat, avoid the enemy, advance with retreat, and wait to defeat the enemy.
Walking, on the surface, seems to be a retreat, but in fact it is the highest tactic. Very practical, giving people a feeling that "it is better to stay out of the house than to show off your cleverness."
Walking strategy, in terms of being a man and doing things, has the saying of "taking retreat as progress". Retreat for progress is not a symbol of cowardice, but a manifestation of "scheming". Su Dongpo and Cheng Xiucai wrote: "I will give my life to God, listen to its operation, go with the flow, and stop when it is low, so there is nothing wrong." Su Dongpo advocates that people should follow God's will and advance and retreat. Just like nature has sunny days, the moon has a full moon, the seasons have winter and summer, and the weather is warm and cold. All good things are just people's good wishes, and life is rarely smooth sailing.
Zhuangzi once said that poverty is all fun; Su Shi said, advance and retreat freely. Zhuangzi's unsociable attitude and Dongpo's advance and retreat both refer to a strategy. Poor communication refers to people's actual situation, and advance and retreat refers to people's subjective attitude and behavior. Zhuangzi believes that only by conforming to nature and not demanding can we live a free and happy life. Su Shi believes that people can advance and retreat freely only if they are content with the trend of the times and apply the laws of nature. From this perspective, advancing and retreating is the truth and wisdom of being a man.
We often say, "Don't be a man, don't talk all the time." Lian Po is stubborn and despises Lin Xiangru. Finally, he had to offer a humble apology to Lin Xiangru. Zheng Zhuanggong talks too much, but he has no choice but to dig ground and springs, so he goes to see his mother. Therefore, as the saying goes, "Leave a line in everything so that we can meet again in the future." You can leave room for everything and avoid going to extremes. Especially when weighing the gains and losses of advance and retreat, we must pay attention to moderation and try to stop at a good time.
Although spring is good, there is always an end. Life is the same, everyone has highs and lows. People are not as good as the sky, and flowers are not as good as the sky. Just like shuffling cards, one can't win forever. A good deck of cards is often the beginning of a bad one. Therefore, accepting the good is the biggest winner. This is the true meaning of being a man. When you meet people, whether they are same-sex confidants or opposite-sex friends, you should have a sense of moderation. A friendship between gentlemen is as light as water, which can not only avoid the tiring and profitable ending, but also show the true feelings in a plain friendship. The more inseparable friends are, the easier it is to turn against each other. Therefore, the ancients warned: "When you are grateful, you should retreat, and you can rest when you are proud." Even loving couples, who have been close for a long time, will love the elderly one day. Qin Shaoyou, a poet in the Northern Song Dynasty, said: "If two people love each other for a long time, they will be there sooner or later." This is not only the psychological comfort of Lao Yan's separated couple, but also the way to make friends as a person.
Don't take advantage of yourself.
One should never do everything, all the benefits will be exhausted. In this way, although you reach the first level when you are in power, others will reach the fifteenth level when they are out of power, and you may end up in a tragic end. Therefore, when you have interests, you must share a piece of it. This is called "convenience for others, convenience for yourself".
Hu Xueyan, a famous "Red Top Merchant" in Qing Dynasty, lived in officialdom and shopping malls all his life. He is a genius, and a very important principle of his life is "sharing benefits and resources". This makes him an immortal legend.
Doing business in Hu Xueyan, he always puts popularity first. "popularity" means that employees are loyal to the enterprise and wholeheartedly; Externality refers to the mutual support and understanding of peers.
Hu Xueyan has his unique views on money, among which it is very important to share a piece of the cake with others and enjoy the success.
On one occasion, Hu Xueyan got the news and brought in a batch of advanced and sophisticated arms from the outside. The news was further confirmed at once, and Hu Xueyan knew that it was a good deal and it would be profitable. He immediately contacted foreign businessmen, and with his sophisticated experience, clever wrist, and his reputation and prestige in the arms industry, Hu Xueyan soon made this batch of arms business.
Just when the spring breeze was in full swing, he heard from his friends in the business world that he was accused of doing business inhumanely. Originally, foreign businessmen were going to sell this batch of arms to another colleague in the arms industry at a price lower than that of Hu Xueyan, but that colleague bought it at a higher price without payment, which deprived him of a good opportunity to make money.
Hu Xueyan was ashamed of his recklessness. He immediately called his colleagues to discuss how to deal with it. The colleague knew Hu Xueyan's influence in the arms industry, and was afraid that Hu Xueyan would be embarrassed with himself in the future business, and it would be difficult to make a condition sheet. So he had to infer that since the business was done by boss Hu, he only wanted to leave them a bowl of rice in the future.
It seems that things can be solved so easily, but Hu Xueyan doesn't. He asked his colleague to "sell" the arms to him at the same foreign price, so that this colleague could eat the difference without paying, not to mention taking risks. As soon as the matter was settled, Hu Xueyan immediately subsidized the difference to the colleague. That colleague admires Hu Xueyan's business ethics.
Such negotiations kill three birds with one stone, Hu Xueyan still made this good deal; Didn't offend that colleague; Won the heartfelt goodwill of that colleague and gained a high reputation among peers. This shrewd wrist and superb "scheming" have increasingly consolidated his position in the business world and become a magic weapon for him to gallop through the business world.
It is a concrete manifestation of Hu Xueyan's harmonious way of doing things that he doesn't take advantage of people's danger to rob people of their jobs. He has always adhered to this principle, which has earned him an excellent reputation in the business world.
Hu Xueyan has been doing business outside for a long time. Although he doesn't want to be an official, he is not famous in dealing with people in the scene, which makes him look humble, so he bought a top hat. Later, Wang Youling occupied three important positions and neglected the Maritime Bureau in Hangzhou. Just as Hu Xueyan succeeded in donating officials, Wang Youling said that he would appoint Hu Xueyan as a member of the Maritime Safety Administration, which is equivalent to Wang Youling's agent in the Maritime Safety Administration.
To this, Hu Xueyan thought. His reason is also very simple, but ordinary people just can't do it. The point is that Hu Xueyan will take a step back and think about others. Hu Xueyan told Wang Youling that there was a man in the MSA who was old and junior. If you step down, you should be replaced by Committee member Zhou. If we rashly put Hu Xueyan in this position, it would be tantamount to robbing Commissioner Zhou of his due benefits. Anyway, Commissioner Zhou has been subdued by him. If Zhou is the responsible agent, he will still discuss everything with Hu Xueyan, which is equal to Hu Xueyan's behind-the-scenes agent. In this case, you should reward the position of the agent to Commissioner Zhou.
In this way, Hu Xueyan not only avoided taking away the benefits of Commissioner Zhou, but also avoided setting up a potential enemy for himself in the future. Therefore, his "giving up" is far-sighted and far-sighted.
With the same idea, Hu Xueyan once helped Wang Youling. Wang Youling is proud of officialdom, and has served as the magistrate of Huzhou, the magistrate of Wucheng County and the Maritime Safety Administration. Wang Youling received an official order in late April, and people around him suggested that he take over the post of minister on May 1. The reason for this suggestion is simple: take office as soon as possible and embrace the Dragon Boat Festival as soon as possible.
In the Qing Dynasty, the official system was dim, and red envelopes, kickbacks, filial piety and bribery were openly implemented, which became the norm. As far as the atmosphere is concerned, there are "charcoal worship" in winter, "ice worship" in summer, and extra income in three festivals a year, which is called "festival worship". Zhejiang Province has always been fertile soil in the south of the Yangtze River, Huzhou Prefecture is even more fertile soil, and there are many kinds of filial piety. In late April, Wang Youling was appointed as the magistrate of Huzhou, and his wise men advised him to get on the road quickly and hand over on May 1st. In this way, you can be "respectful" when you first take office.
Wang Youling asked Hu Xueyan's opinion on this, but Hu Xueyan said: "Money will always be spent one day, but friendship with friends will be hopeless if it is offended!" He suggested that Wang Youling wait until after the Dragon Boat Festival before taking office.
Hu Xueyan's proposal is considered in many aspects. Wang Youling was not the first magistrate in Huzhou, but there was a magistrate before him. Some people have stayed in Huzhou magistrate yamen for so long and are counting on the Dragon Boat Festival. Wang Youling can seize this position and win the respect of his predecessor. Of course, it makes sense. However, in this way, this is actually the problem of the predecessor. Of course, it's ok at present, but there is no guarantee that it will happen in the future. If it happens at a critical moment in the future and the wall falls and everyone pushes it down, it will be impossible.
Hu Xueyan deeply understands that you can't take away all the benefits, and you can't wipe everything clean. You must think of each other and give each other a piece of cake when you are good, so that there will be no resentment. If you lose power, others will fall. Hu Xueyan understands the "scheming" of being a man and avoids possible traps several times. He is a generation of business wizards and worth emulating.
Be generous and trivial.
You have to forgive others and forgive others. People live in this world on an equal footing, and there is no big conflict of interest. "Time waits for no one" can turn small things into big things, and it will add a lot of unnecessary troubles, which is not good for anyone. So be a man, learn to be tolerant and learn to be kind.
There is no doubt that tolerance is the embodiment of noble quality. But seeing someone do something bad, but hiding something for him seems to conflict with people's usual principles of life. Lv Kun of Amin Dynasty also believed that treating others with courtesy could make him open-minded. Some people naturally doubt that Lv Kun is absolutely right. This is the great wisdom of being a man, which was used many times by the ancients.
In ancient Southern Song Dynasty, there was a man named Shen Daoqian. He had a vegetable garden and planted radishes. On this day, Shen Daoqian came home from outside and found a man stealing his radish. He quickly dodged until the man stole enough. Another time, someone pulled bamboo shoots behind his house, and Shen Daoqian sent someone to say to the person who pulled bamboo shoots: "This bamboo shoot can grow into a bamboo forest. You don't have to pull it out, I'll give you something better. " He asked someone to buy a big bamboo shoot for the man, but the man didn't accept it in shame. Shen Daoqian had the big bamboo shoots sent directly to the man's house. Shen Daoqian's family is poor, and he often takes his children to the fields to pick up wheat ears. Occasionally, when other gleaner competed for the ears of wheat, he would give all the ears of wheat he picked to his competitors, who were very ashamed.
Cao Sujie, Cao Cao's great grandfather, is famous for his kindness. Once, a neighbor's pig ran away. This pig looks exactly like Cao Jie's. Neighbors found the Cao family and said it was his pig. Cao Jie gave the pig to his neighbor without arguing with him. Later, the neighbor's pig was found. Knowing that he was wrong, he sent Cao Jie's pig back and apologized again and again. Cao Jie just smiled and didn't blame the neighbors.
The ancients in these two stories hid something for the sake of "others being bad". On the surface, Shen Daoqian and Cao Jie are nothing more than cowardice. But in fact, they show generosity and kindness. Stealing radishes and pulling bamboo shoots for wheat ears is a bad behavior, but it is also the helplessness of the poor. Why do you feel deeply responsible? Hiding something from him can make him feel ashamed and change. Neighbors mistook pigs for selfish ones, but after all, losing pigs is a great loss for ordinary people, and it is understandable to worry about misunderstanding. The ancients thought of others wholeheartedly, preferring to suffer by themselves, which is the embodiment of being broad-minded and kind to others.
What needs to be made clear is that Lv Kun's "hiding others is not good" means hiding "others"-the common faults of our neighbors, colleagues and friends, especially the faults committed against ourselves, which are "contradictions among the people". It is by no means a cover-up crime, and this cannot be confused.
Don't use rude methods to publicly expose the general "bad" of comrades, but be kind to others and make them feel ashamed and introspected, otherwise it may hurt comrades' self-esteem and even make things worse. There are lessons in this respect. During the "Cultural Revolution", "taking class struggle as the key link" was implemented, and some common problems of many comrades were not even problems at all. How many human tragedies have been caused as a result! The relationship between people has become very tense, and it is painful to think about it. The "Cultural Revolution" destroyed people's virtues, which still leaves a legacy, but it also corrected some drawbacks of the market economy and society, making many people indifferent, selfish and mean, lacking mutual trust and friendliness, leaving only interests.
If there is no basis, we will casually doubt the bad of others. Doesn't this mean that we lack the most basic trust in others and a broad mind of kindness and kindness?
Being a man is a very simple thing. Mutual suspicion and suspicion complicate simple and clear problems, but a little generosity can ease the contradictions between people. Why not?
It is better to make friends than to make enemies.
There may be deep-rooted hatred between people, but please remember: hostility is increasing bit by bit, and it can also be weakened bit by bit. There is an old saying in China: Hatred must be settled, but not settled. Under the same roof, it is better to make fewer enemies and mature without raising your head.
It is inevitable that there will be festivals between people. People with "scheming" will roll with the punches and minimize the problems, but it also takes skill to resolve hostility.
"How to turn an enemy into a friend" is a profound knowledge in the office battlefield.
Once colleagues competed with you for a position, but today you are the heads of different departments. Although there is no direct contact, but who knows the future situation? So you have to pave the way for the future.
If you invite someone or give him a gift for no reason, it is too abrupt and beneath you, so you should bide your time. For example, find out his date of birth from the personnel department, hold a small birthday party in the company, and take the initiative to raise money to give him a gift ... Remember, no one can resist kindness.
If the other party is promoted to a new position, this is the best time. Write a greeting card with heartfelt wishes. If other colleagues hold a celebration dinner for him, you should also take time to attend, no matter how busy you are. Otherwise, invite each other to lunch in private. In addition to congratulations, we might as well talk more about the joys and sorrows of everyone at work and keep silent about the unpleasant things in the past to narrow the distance between the two sides.
Remember, we must seize the opportunity to do these well-intentioned work in advance, otherwise it will be too late to act until you have a direct confrontation with him, which will only give people a feeling of "philistine"
You work silently and faithfully, but all the colleagues in the company have changed. Old colleagues have found other jobs, and more and more new colleagues make them feel out of place. Because you haven't paid much attention to the personnel changes around you, and you haven't deliberately become familiar with them.
Remedy is not difficult. Pick a special day (just to make a name for yourself), such as successfully completing a plan or your birthday, and invite your colleagues to have a meal. This meal means a lot. Don't forget the following tasks: Taking the opportunity to learn more about the background of each colleague, both public and private, will be of great benefit to you and facilitate your future work.
Join their lunch circle if you are a little familiar with it. Of course, it is not necessary to do this every day. It is too abrupt and may not be suitable for you. It is enough to keep in touch two days a week and get some information from the company. Besides lunch, it's also a good idea to have some fun after work. After leaving the office, everyone will relax, speak more casually and get to know each other more easily.
In addition, you should do business when you are familiar with it, but if you are free, you might as well lend a helping hand to your colleagues. Proactive attack is a must!
People are emotional animals, and working in a pleasant atmosphere can get twice the result with half the effort. It is better to care more about others, be considerate of others, increase intimacy and do things more easily. From today on, try to be a popular colleague! If you succeed, your chances of promotion will be greatly increased in the future!
A smile is the sharpest weapon. When you ask your colleague to complete the document, say "please" and add a smile, he will be infected by your friendliness and make special efforts; Or a colleague gives you a prepared plan, don't forget to thank him and smile. This is not only polite, but also an expression of gratitude. Anyone likes to be praised. Say something that others like to hear, as long as it is not a lie, it is not a conscience discovery. Don't yell at your colleagues. This is not only impolite and unfriendly, but also shows that you lack confidence.
Even if you encounter a difficult knot and feel extremely depressed, you need to smile, put aside your troubles, talk and laugh with your colleagues, dilute your bad mood and concentrate on your work.
Don't sweep the snow in front of your house. If your colleagues need your help, don't be stingy. Do your best. Even if you can't get a return immediately, your investment will not be in vain. At least he will think you are a great person.
If you did something wrong and affected others, apologize quickly! Not many people dare to admit their mistakes, which naturally left a deep impression on each other. Also, put yourself in the other's shoes and give support everywhere. No one will not like you.
You and a colleague have different views on something and don't give in to each other, so there is a verbal conflict. You ask yourself, you are too frank and tired. And your biggest failure is that you have listed all the mistakes made by this colleague in the past three months. Now, you feel regret, hope to reverse the bad situation, and are willing to apologize to each other. However, it seems that your colleagues are still in extreme disappointment and distress, which teaches you to apologize.
In fact, the best and most effective strategy is to simply apologize to him: "I'm sorry, I really went too far, and I promise I won't do it again."
If you bring up the past and try to defend something, it will only lead to the next time.
Conflict, at the same time shows that you lack sincerity, and people will never believe you in the future. Remember, your goal is to ease the atmosphere and make friends with colleagues. So it's best to wait for the other person's mood to improve or calm down before formally apologizing.
The so-called narrow access, your sworn enemy, or people who make enemies, is transferred to your department, which is closely related to your work. Now that the facts are in front of you, you must deal with them.
You can't forget your resentment. However, there are several principles that need to be observed.
First of all, no matter which time you make enemies, who is right or wrong, don't get involved in the discussion of work, and never mention anything again, so as not to distinguish between public and private. If the other person touches the scar first, please stare at him calmly and say, "I won't recall the unpleasant things in the past, especially during work hours, so as not to affect my mood."
Put on a selfless gesture. Maybe you have worked with your other half, and everything is tacit understanding and trust, but you must make everything clear to this new colleague to avoid misunderstanding, leading to unpleasant events or worsening heart disease. For example, when explaining a task, you must clearly point out the goal of the task, the completion date and the planning of the report. Don't take it for granted
In short, you should treat all people and things on the principle of making friends and making up instead of getting married, and no one will refuse sincerity.
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