Interesting overseas facts: Who pays for the first date between British men and women
It has long been regarded as a "natural" rule that the man pays for the first date.
Now, men and women have long been equal politically and legally, and the glass ceiling (the invisible obstacle that women encounter in promotion) has also been removed to a certain extent. , there are many women who make more money than men. In addition, the financial crisis is making everyone tighten their belts. Today there are many women who have successful careers and earn more money than men. So, do women still expect men to be generous? Are men still willing to dig into their pockets? At the end of May, a well-known financial management company discovered that it is easy to change the situation, but hard to change the nature... Pretending? Who pays for the first date?
(The first number is the female answer, the second number is the male answer)
The man pays the bill: 11, 22
The woman should express her willingness to share but the man will ultimately pay the bill: 14 , 8
The woman pays the bill: 0, 0
AA system: 14, 6
Each pays his own: 2, 1
Pay the most money: 0, 0
Pay the invitation: 12, 7
Have you ever had such an experience: candlelight flickering, music playing gracefully, accompanied by After fine wine and delicious food, I began to think: Could he be my Mr Right (or, in other words, Prince Charming, the destination of love)? After having a full meal and wine, the waiter brought the bill, and there was silence... Two hours of flirting, beautiful fantasies about this life. , it was an instant failure! Last year, a survey by the British dating website ukdating.com found that 90% of British women still love the "gentlemanly demeanor" of a man taking the initiative to pay for the first date. In February last year, a survey of more than 1,000 registered users by Toptable, a London-based food ordering company, found that three out of 10 women would indeed suggest "Let's make it AA", but half of them were just pretending. The financial management company "moneysavingexpert.com" (financial management expert) launched an online quiz titled "Do Old Dating Traditions Still Applicable Today" on May 26 this year, asking readers to vote on who should pay the bill on the first date and what the answer is. Post your opinion in the forum. Within a few days, nearly 10,000 British people expressed their views, and the forum almost exploded. It can be seen that this issue still causes a stir in the hearts of many British people.
The survey found that a clear majority, nearly 60%, believed that the man should pay the bill. Taking a closer look, there are more than 1,000 women who think that the man should pay the bill of course, while only 10 women think that the woman should pay the bill. The former is 100 times the latter.
If you are a girl, you can enjoy it. Most men also answered that they should pay the bill. The number of men who think that the woman should pay the bill is very small (46 people). When converted into a percentage, it becomes a negligible zero! There are also fewer men (6) who think that men and women should have an AA system. In women (14).
Who said that the British gentleman is going to die?
British feminists "set fire to the bra" (a symbol of inequality between men and women) in the 1970s, but why did they mention it? Paying the bill, is it still a double standard? The most important thing may still be the influence of tradition. Although the times have progressed, British society's expectations for the roles of men and women still remain at the level of "men farm and women weave" to a certain extent: men go out to hunt (pursue careers), and women manage the home and raise the next generation.
A man who takes the initiative to pay for the first date sends a signal that is interpreted as: It is an honor for you to accompany me today, and I am willing to protect and take care of you. A man's payment, like opening the door or making way for a woman, is still regarded by many as a romantic gentlemanly demeanor, and is even a standard for judging a man's affection. One day, I heard a female expert on love and marriage issues on the radio (I can’t remember the name clearly) saying that when a man dates a woman, he hopes to leave a good impression on her.
Although the woman also hopes to leave a good impression, the law of nature is that the male dances with his colorful tail and the female shyly picks and chooses. I don't have first-hand experience with today's "dating scene," but, for married couples, men still give women more gifts. A girlfriend once said that after experiencing the pain of giving birth, every penny a man spends on a woman is worth it. Women are responsible for raising the next generation, and they invest more emotionally and physically in marriage. I wonder if we can conclude that men need to compensate women forever?
Who pays for dates? Different age groups will have different answers
Searched in many British media and websites Ichiban discovered that there is a clear generation gap when it comes to paying for a first date. The older people are, the more they firmly believe that men should foot the bill. Those born in the 1980s and 1990s are more inclined to the AA system. Not long ago, I discussed this issue with a British boy born in the 1980s. He said who pays for a date now depends on how you invite the other person. If you say, "Can I invite you to...", it means you must pay the bill; if you say, "Shall we go out together? Where do you want to go?", in the end, the man may pay the bill, or it may be AA, Because you have given the other party the opportunity to choose a place that they can afford; but if you ask, "Do you want to treat me to dinner?", what is waiting for you may be a sandwich that has been left for several days, and that's not the case. Maybe he was blinded by the other party. Such a mystery, if I had to start over, I would choose to learn from US President Obama, when I first went on a date with my wife, went for a walk, and then went to a museum. By not spending money, you avoid the minefield of paying bills.
Cannibals have short mouths?
When I was dating, there was a saying that a boy’s attitude toward paying bills reflected the progress of his relationship with a girl. Paying without looking at the bill at all means that the pursuit has just begun; starting to pay attention means that the pursuit has been achieved; complaining that it is too expensive means that the relationship has entered a stable stage; a girl paying the bill? It means that the two are about to get married soon (or have already), and the economy Power changes hands. So, who pays for the first date, does it have any impact on the future direction of the relationship? If you listen to what the sisters have to say on the moneysavingexpert.com forum, you may come to a "crucial" conclusion. Comments generally say that paying the bill represents a man’s demeanor and attitude towards women. If you go on a first date and spend the whole night worrying about how much the woman will eat, drink, and whether she will pay the bill, isn't it a waste of time? How can you prove his focus and sincerity? People who have been there have said it first hand, if he is not willing to pay for the first date, after marriage, Wouldn't they be more greedy? Only a small number of people firmly advocate "AA", but the starting point is not to insist on equality between men and women, but to worry about "short-mouthed". By paying yourself, the other party will have no unrealistic expectations, and you won’t have to feel that you owe the other party and need to repay it with some kind of promise.
Sisters, can we really use paying the bill as a criterion to test a man’s affection? ;