Nowadays, a typical family usually consists of four old people, a pair of parents and a child. In such a family environment, the child has become accustomed to everyone taking him as the center, and grandparents and parents take meticulous care of him, which makes the child unconsciously develop an overly self-centered character, and he/she is unwilling to share these loves with others.

We often see that in the family, children threaten to throw things in anger and run away from home in order not to let their parents have two treasures. If we don't do a good job in ideological work for Dabao, we will welcome the birth of Bauer. Then Dabao may be jealous and resentful of Bauer, deliberately beating Bauer, and even hope that we can enjoy everyone's attention without Bauer, which may cause serious harm to Bauer.

Therefore, the arrival of the second child needs many considerations, and both adults and children need to be fully prepared.

Many parents want a second child in order to give their children more company. We all know that the only child is too lonely. As adults who have experienced the life of an only child, they know how important playmates are to their children. This feeling is more than just classmates and friends. They are not the kind of partners who go home separately after school, nor are they children who just go home for a while on weekends.

Parents must first understand the reasons for welcoming a second child. Every child is unique and should be treated fairly when he comes to this world. Don't lose big because of small things-just care about Bauer's life and don't let Dabao's heart feel unbalanced in being loved.

Some parents will say: raise children to prevent old age. Then there are many benefits to raising many children. If parents are old and sick or there are any changes at home, they need material support and spiritual support. The two children in the second-child family can discuss it and share the money with each other, which will not be difficult.

But at the same time, when you want to have two treasures, you should also make material preparations for it. Two children is a long second war.

Moreover, children are parents', not for children. Don't instill in Dabao before Bauer was born: all brothers and sisters are younger than you, so leave everything to him/her in the future! Children who don't feel balanced love are easy to fall into rudeness.

Qi Yuan said that debater Fu Seoul said that his son had discussed the issue of a second child, and the child's answer could not help but make people laugh!

Fu Hancheng: Shall I give you a little friend to play with?

Son: I have classmates to play with me!

Fu Seoul: Students play with you during the day, and younger brothers and sisters play with you at night.

Son: Mom, do you just play all day?

This conversation of my son made the audience laugh, but it was thought-provoking. Parents think that their children are lonely and need a partner, which is actually taken for granted by parents. Perhaps, your boss is a lively child, who likes to make friends and knows how to socialize. He doesn't need his brother and sister to play with him at all.

Actors Hook and Sha Yi have a pair of lovely sons, and Sha Yi also took the "Carassius auratus Brothers" to the parent-child variety show, and their feelings are very good. Moreover, the elder brother cares about the younger brother but doesn't spoil him. However, Hooke revealed in an interview program that the birth of his younger brother Xiaoyuer once made his older brother Anji suffer mental trauma.

1, tell ta: you are the child of mom and dad, and you will always be our baby. This will never change because of who.

When a child knows that his parents want a second child, his first reaction must be that another person will compete with me for my parents' love.

He will worry, fear, and even blame himself, blaming himself for being bad, which is why mom and dad want a younger brother and sister.

2. discussing this matter with children in advance is actually a process of giving children a full psychological construction.

If it is in the parents' plan, discuss this topic with ta during the usual parent-child communication time, and observe ta's reaction first. If you agree, that's good!

If you don't agree, you can talk to the teaching assistant about the benefits of Bauer. Give ta time to think about it, and don't force ta to accept it after Bauer arrives.

Remember! Children are independent individuals. It is a sound way of thinking for ta that parents choose to have an equal dialogue with ta. Ta will feel respect and affirmation in it, and will also respect others.

David fuster said, "When you have only one child, you are parents. When you have two children, you are the referee. "

Never be selfish between two children. Parents don't come forward to solve their problems. Guiding children to solve problems by themselves is the best way, so that children will learn how to get along with others.

After arriving in Bauer, they will also learn to protect and warm ta and become responsible children.