Generally speaking, staring at others with your eyes when interacting with others helps to make the communication atmosphere more harmonious.
Michael from England? Argyle is a pioneer in studying social psychology and body language skills. He found that Europeans and Americans spend 665,438+0% of their time staring at each other when they are in contact with people. Moreover, when two people are talking, if A likes B very much, then A will often cast a very concerned look at B, which can make B feel A's affection for him. If we are chatting with many people, it is easy for us to judge who he is concerned about by the direction in which everyone looks.
If three men are chatting with a woman, it is likely that all three men are looking at the only woman, and the woman may look at the three men alternately and make independent eye contact with them.
However, women's eyes usually stay on the man they like for a long time. If you look closely, you will find that when you look at the man you like, your pupils will unconsciously enlarge.
When two people's eyes meet for the first time, one will always look away first, and it is often the weak who looks away first. For example, when a man and a woman make eye contact for the first time, it is often the gentle and demure woman who looks away first, while the man will insist on staring at the woman, which is quite strong and has a sense of conquest.
If the speaker looks at us for a long time when we express our opinions, but he still doesn't look away after we express our opinions, it will often make us feel very uncomfortable.
Therefore, in communication, we should learn to look at each other sincerely, instead of staring at each other all the time. Regarding the eyes, we need to pay attention to the following aspects.
(1) Different eyes will produce different emotions.
When we are dealing with others, some people will make us feel very comfortable, some people will make us feel very nervous, and some people will even make us feel that he is not credible at all. All relationships begin with eye contact. Different people's eyes look at different positions and represent different emotions, which will naturally produce completely different communication results. Generally speaking, it is the most comfortable to look at the triangle formed by the other person's eyes and mouth.
(2) Fuzzy gaze area
We usually think that the gaze focused on the triangle area of the other person's eyes and mouth is the most suitable gaze for social interaction, and it is the area where we should stare at each other in ordinary social interaction.
If this triangle expands outward, the area that the eyes point to extends downward from the other person's eyes until the triangle formed by the body parts below the chin (such as the other person's chest, abdomen, etc.). ) is the area where ambiguous eyes point.
When a man looks at a woman with ambiguous eyes, he usually looks at the triangular area formed by the other person's eyes and chest.
The triangular area formed by the eyes and the chest is the area where men will look when expressing ambiguous meaning to each other. This kind of look only applies to communication between the two sexes.
Compared with men, women's gaze range may be wider, the ambiguous gaze area will be relatively expanded, and the viewpoint may extend to the legs.
Women's broad horizons can make it very easy for them to see each other clearly without being discovered by each other.
Men are prone to the focus of attention, such as looking to the chest and lips. And such eyes are often strongly reprimanded and scolded by the opposite sex.
(3) the area looked majestic.
If a person's eyes fall on the triangular area above the eyes-a point between the eyes and the forehead, his eyes will give people a sense of majesty and oppression.
When leaders look at their subordinates, they often turn their attention to this area. When subordinates make some mistakes, leaders will stare at each other for longer and their eyes will not move. At this time, even if the leader does not say it, it has already made the subordinates feel chilling.
Seeing this area will produce a certain sense of dignity, and it should be used selectively in social occasions. When you meet someone for the first time, if you want to leave a friendly and cordial impression on the other person, you'd better not look at the triangular area formed by the center of his eyes and forehead. This majestic look will make them very uneasy and nervous. Of course, if you meet someone who annoys you, it will be very effective to protest with such dignified eyes.
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