●The art of getting along with husband and wife

When young friends are in love, in order to please each other, they behave kindly and beautifully, and their words are particularly refined. After marriage, when the woman has a home and the man has a wife, some people relax, become carefree, return to their true nature, and live a normal life. Normalization must be present, and the art of getting along cannot be eliminated. The so-called art is not a trick, but one must be kind to each other, be able to speak, and pursue a close relationship between husband and wife.

If you think that nice words belong to the scope of use before marriage, you would misunderstand. In terms of quality, sweet words between husband and wife are not "past tense" but always "present tense". Even if the old lady casually Just say: "Old man, come here!" It can also be said sincerely. Couples who are in adolescence of life should always use words to warm each other, and say "I love you", "You are so beautiful", "You are in good spirits today" in the right words, which will satisfy each other. A smile from the recipient is equivalent to writing a receipt. Don't be careless and push back someone's kindness by saying, "Don't make such a fake move!" "Did you lie? Are you planning to say this to others?" "I still don't know what changed you? If you have nothing to do, wash the pile of dirty clothes you changed out of." On the surface, these words may sound ungrateful. Husbands must be tolerant and don't take things too seriously. If things get serious and arguments arise, the harmonious atmosphere may be torn to pieces.

To create a harmonious family and a harmonious relationship between husband and wife, in front of other people in the family and outsiders, husband and wife should talk more about each other’s strengths, advantages, and lovable aspects, and their respect for each other’s status and status. The value is fully affirmed, and such a marriage is unbreakable. If you look down on or trample on each other intentionally or unintentionally, the stability of the family will be lost. Some sharp-tongued wives always sit on the high platform and scold men arrogantly: "I'm full when I see you!" "If you can't do anything, you will cuddle up in the nest and know the kang." Men are reduced to nothing, couples turn against each other, and quarrels become commonplace. Even if the shell of the family is still preserved, the inside has fallen apart, and you have things and I have things.

The most important thing for a husband and wife to stay together is to talk to each other, to achieve mutual understanding, to know each other, to support each other, to be one body, to share happiness, to share hardships, and to be lucky when traveling. , being affectionate, encountering ups and downs, complaining about God and scolding mother, are low-grade "concrete", the house leaks and the walls crack, it can only be understood.

In a happy family, humorous words fly from time to time. Humor is the lubricant of life and the color bar of joy. Humor can eliminate silence, humor can relieve worries, humor can resolve unhappiness, and humor can enliven the atmosphere. A couple had a quarrel. His wife ignored him for several days and even wrote a divorce application, asking him to sign it. He felt that the matter was a bit big and wanted to break the deadlock. Suddenly I received a letter from the newspaper office, which was a rejection of the manuscript. There was a rejection note without filling in the name: "Comrade ××, the manuscript has been received and after consideration, it is not intended to be adopted. It is hereby returned. Thank you." He was suddenly inspired, filled in his wife's name on the rejection slip, and returned it to her along with the divorce application. His wife opened it and read it, smiled, and landed her soft fist on him, "You ghost elf" ! ”

2) First of all, the relationship between husband and wife is based on mutual affection, which is generated by contact, and the process of communication is completely like making friends. In this sense, couples should treat each other as friends, and both parties should treat each other well like friends.

Secondly, once the relationship between husband and wife is established, it means that they have to live together and live under the same roof. Over time, due to differences in personality and ways of doing things, conflicts will inevitably arise. When there is friction, what couples should pay attention to when getting along is: not to blame the other party entirely, but to learn to find and appreciate the other party's advantages and treat his shortcomings objectively. The old saying "A wise man will make a mistake after a thousand worries; a fool will make a gain after a thousand worries", which shows the duality of human beings. Smart people sometimes become confused and fools sometimes become wise. Everyone has a combination of strengths and weaknesses.

Therefore, as long as you can look at your wife or husband correctly with an appreciative eye, you will definitely be able to find the shining bright spots in him or her. Then, you will feel more and more that this is what you love, and you will never miss it. Regretful choice.

Life is short, and acquaintance requires fate, which contains a sense of God's will. So since we are destined to meet each other, fall in love and become husband and wife, this is a gift of life. We should accept this providence and treat it well. Cherish this emotion and carefully weave it with the love of both parties, making it the comfort of life and spiritual sustenance.

3) An international marriage counseling organization has summarized the "eight essentials" for couples to get along better:

1. Never get angry with two people at the same time, even if it is about different things. Otherwise, you will add fuel to the fire and inevitably burn yourself or the other person.

2. Never speak loudly to your significant other unless the house is on fire and it is important to escape.

3. If two people quarrel, if there must be a winner, give the victory to your significant other.

4. If you feel that you have to criticize the other person this time, then please remember that when you criticize, you should be full of sincere love, considerate and tactful, and let the other person know that you point out this problem because you love him or her.

5. Never bring up the past mistakes of the other person, especially during an argument.

6. Even if you forget the whole world, you can't forget each other.

7. Resolve differences as soon as possible, don't rest until they are resolved, don't let them stay overnight.

8. Say at least one word of thanks or appreciation to your significant other every day.

In fact, these eight items are all clichéd things. They seem simple but difficult to do. However, I believe that as long as we treat our love with heart, we will be happy one day!

You also have to explore, summarize, feel, and experience life yourself!

I wish you happiness