I am obsessed with the blind date man who is deeply in love with his ex-wife
A blogger’s self-report:
You and I met each other through an introduction, and we felt the same every time we met. Better, he and I are both divorced, and we have no children. I have been dating him for more than ten days. During these days, we talked on the phone for about half an hour every day. It was obvious that he liked me. Maybe he also found that I have a strong personality. However, these more than ten days were like being in love. Same, they feel good about each other. The third time we met, I sat with his friend for a while. The next afternoon, he sent me a text message saying that he couldn’t let go of his ex-wife and couldn’t talk to me. He said that he couldn’t let go of her yet and that he couldn’t let go of her and didn’t know. How long does it take to get out? I don't know if he listened to his friend or something else. We had a good date last night, but we broke up the next afternoon. I was really sad at the time and didn't want to accept it.
My family's economic conditions are relatively good. I work in the city and in a government department. He works as a teacher in the countryside but not far away. His family is relatively poor and has many sisters. He has lived with his ex-wife for four years and has a strong relationship. They opened a store together, and he invested all his money and emotions. Now they are separated and still have debts. His ex-wife now owns the store. His ex-wife was his first love. They have been separated for a year. Now his ex-wife has a boyfriend and has heard that it is impossible to come back to him. However, they often chat online and he always fantasizes about remarrying.
He is 32 years old, and I am one year older than him. I may be more impatient when dating him, and talking about getting married soon and buying a house also makes him feel more stressed. But I have been divorced for more than two years and have come out of the shadows, so I really want a relationship, but he is not in that state (I didn’t know about it for more than 10 days of dating at the time). To be honest, I like him very much because he It meets my requirements for choosing a mate. I am a woman with a strong personality and very independent in all aspects. He seems to mind a little. Of course, the main reason is that he can't let go of his ex-wife.
When he texted me about breaking up, I contacted him a week later through text messages, and he responded immediately. Later, I texted and chatted on Q for a short period of time, but I didn’t mention anything about feelings anymore. . Later he found me and apologized to me for saying that impulsively that day, but said that he really couldn't let go of his ex-wife now and had no choice. They say I'm a good woman, but that doesn't mean they can be together if I'm a good woman. They say they just want to be friends.
After he returned, I sent him an email. The letter was very extreme. Because I was very angry at the time and hurt his self-esteem. After he read the letter, he immediately deleted my Q number and blacklisted my phone number. The next day after he read the letter, I asked him to call me back after being introduced. I found out that he was in a bad mood that night after reading the letter and slept poorly. The way he spoke immediately changed, saying that it was impossible for us. It's impossible to be together in the future, he wants to see his ex-wife. After that, I sent him messages from time to time, but he never responded. Once, he resent the message I sent him, the only time. I also sent him an email to apologize and texted him to apologize, but there was no response.
Now I regret writing that letter. Originally it was him rejecting me, but this letter turned into me rejecting him and hurting him. Now I can't make calls and won't reply to text messages. Can I still pursue him? Because I have been waiting for more than two years without being able to meet the person I want to marry. If I hurt him, can I still get him back?
I have talked to many friends, and they all told me to give up, because they haven’t started yet, they don’t have any feelings, and they ignore me, so what else can I do? But I really don’t want to give up, because I’m getting older and can’t find anyone who I think meets my requirements. I want to contact him as a friend now and see if we can develop in the future. Is this okay? I’m very troubled and I really don’t want to let go. Although I don’t know if it’s worth it, I can’t!
Blogger analysis:
Why is she chasing him to get married like a madman? Two reasons:
1. She put herself into the role of his ex-wife and fully appreciated his affection, infatuation, single-mindedness and dedication. She thought that as long as she married him, he would be like her. Love her as much as I love my ex-wife.
They had only met three times, and he must have a face that she thought was particularly innocent and handsome. Their phone calls for more than ten days were almost all about him talking about his ex-wife. She initially wanted to get to know him by learning about his last marriage, but she became fascinated as she listened. He is a teacher, of course he is very eloquent, and his voice is full of emotion and perfection. He portrays himself as a man who is passionately in love with his first wife, devotes himself to her, is forced to divorce, but still loves her deeply and longs for remarriage.
Such a man who values ??love and justice, is seriously injured, and still loves madly is what she has been pursuing since she was a girl, and now she finally meets him. She thought that as long as she clung to him, he would probably marry her and let her enjoy the treatment of his ex-wife. Moreover, his ex-wife already has a boyfriend and it is impossible to get back together with him. There is no reason for her to let him go if he rejects her.
Why did he immediately change his face and refuse to date her again after the third meeting? The reason is simple: because he found that his confession was going to bring him trouble, and she was already forcing marriage. In order to avoid entanglement and not offend the introducer, he quickly stepped on the brakes! In the past ten days or so, he has indeed been quite enthusiastic towards her, because no woman has ever been willing to listen to his in-depth analysis of the reasons for his divorce from his ex-wife, or to listen to his deep remembrance of all the love he had with his ex-wife. Only she listened very much. The fascination is very emotional and actively arouses his desire to talk. He confided for many days in a row, and he had almost finished it. While he was confiding, she kept talking about herself, and urged him to buy a house and get married, which made him suddenly lose the desire to confide and feel Very annoying.
2. She has been divorced once, but has no emotional experience at all. It would be understandable if she couldn't stop having sex with him, but she is still stuck in the spiritual love stage of her teenage years. She wants to marry him because he matches her sexual fantasy object, which shows that she is very naive. It can be seen that she was not really emotionally invested in her first marriage. If you don't invest emotionally, you won't get experience, and naturally you won't get growth. Her first marriage can only be in two situations: 1. A marriage arranged by her parents. She couldn't get along with him and often quarreled and fought until they divorced; 2. She was deceived by a liar. A man pretended to love her very much, and she enjoyed being loved so much that she had a flash marriage with him. After the marriage, he revealed his true colors. She became angry because she didn't fall in love with him, so she immediately asked him to pay back the money and took revenge on him severely. The two hurt each other and ended up getting divorced, leaving her speechless. She said it took her two years to get out of the shadows, and it took her two years to get rid of the hatred in her heart.
She is a crazy woman and it is difficult for her to get married again.