Faced with this situation, maybe we can ask ourselves first, "Is she really talking about me?" "Can I control each other's behavior?" "What can I control?" .
In fact, as you know, you can't control each other's behavior unless you want to have a deeper contact with her, so that both sides can get to know each other better and then gradually influence each other, but this is a long process. Therefore, at present, the most feasible way is to adjust your cognition of this matter.
You can try to use Alice's emotional ABC theory to help you deal with emotions:
"A" refers to objective events,
"B" refers to your belief (what do you think of A),
"C" refers to the influence of objective events on you.
Alice thinks that A is not controlled by our subjective will, but we can control B, so different B can bring different C.
According to the above theory, let's analyze your problems: A (objective fact) = "How did she do? How do you evaluate you?" B (what do you think) = "She just said me and denied me", and C (result) = "You feel scared and troubled".
So, if you want to solve the problem you are facing, you may need to deal with your beliefs first and see what you want to put in brackets.
A (objective fact) = "What did she do, how did she evaluate you", B (what do you think) =? ",c (result) =" f (c) ".