Excessively strict parenting may lead to the following problems in children:

1. Emotional problems: Children may suffer from depression, anxiety, depression and other emotional problems because they feel that they are constantly pressure and harsh demands, unable to get emotional support and comfort.

2. Damaged self-esteem: Overly strict parenting may give children a sense of inferiority. They may feel that they cannot meet their parents' expectations, leading to damaged self-esteem.

3. Social problems: Children may have difficulty socializing because they may lack self-confidence and adaptability, and may be afraid of making mistakes or suffering criticism from their parents.

4. Resistance: Children may have a rebellious and rebellious mentality. They may try to escape from their parents' control, causing tension in family relationships.

Here are the ways to deal with children and overly strict parenting:

1. Self-reflection and awareness: Parents should self-examine and recognize the negative impact of their strict ways on their children. Understand the motivations behind overly harsh behavior, such as having too high expectations for your child's future or your own emotional stress.

2. Establish trust and communication: It is very important to establish good communication and trust relationships with children. Parents should listen to their children's feelings and thoughts, respect their opinions, and encourage them to express their needs and problems.

3. Flexible family rules and reward and punishment mechanisms: Parents can formulate flexible family rules to allow children appropriate autonomy and choice, and set up reasonable reward and punishment mechanisms to guide and correct behavior when necessary. .

4. Positive encouragement and support: Parents should give their children positive encouragement and support, and pay attention to their growth and efforts, not just their achievements. Give your children affirmation and praise to help them develop a positive self-image.

5. Seek professional help: If family relationships and children's mental health problems are serious, parents can seek the help of a professional psychological counselor or family therapist for more in-depth support and guidance.

Example:

I once helped a pair of parents deal with the problem of being too strict with their children. We conducted family counseling together, and the parents began to reflect on their own parenting methods and gradually became aware of the negative impact their excessive strictness had on their children. I encourage them to change the way they interact with their children and develop a more open and trusting communication relationship. They learn to listen to their children, understand their children's needs, and begin to use positive encouragement and support to motivate their children. Over time, the children gradually showed better emotional regulation and self-confidence, and family relationships improved.