Caring for others is also a science. Different levels of care should be determined according to different relationships, and try not to be counterproductive.

1. ***Love, empathy. Caring for others should be based on love, consider issues from the other person's perspective, and truly understand the other person's feelings at that time.

2. Give others what they really need, "Be anxious about what others need, think about what others want." The more care the better, try to focus on the right spots, just like scratching an itch in the right place, which will make the other person feel comfortable.

? 3. Respect the other party. If the other party doesn’t want to talk, just pay attention. Maybe the other person just needs to vent, needs someone to listen, and doesn't need a response. As long as you are a good listener obediently, don't say anything about me at this time, let alone belittle their current mood.

4. Sometimes silence is also a kind of concern. Adolescent children wake up angry for no reason every day. Don't be too wordy at this time, just quietly do the logistics and give them a certain amount of space. Being too verbose can lead to head-on conflict, and good intentions can turn into bad things.

5. Don’t reveal casual accusations in your care. This must be remembered. The closer the person is, the more likely it is to make such mistakes. Don't be condescending and don't make verbal accusations.

6. When the other party is emotionally unstable, just wait. At this time, the concern is mainly reflected in actions, short words to comfort, and in-depth conversations should be done after the emotion has stabilized.

7. Faced with different opinions, seek common ground while reserving differences. Don't interfere in other people's decisions in the name of caring.

8. Even if it is good intention, you must pay attention to the way of expression, and pay more attention to the tone, intonation, and wording.

9. Care should be in line with one’s identity and should not be overly concerned, otherwise it will easily cause misunderstanding by others. For different objects, we must show polite and measured care. For example, it is inappropriate for a man with a family to send his single female colleague home every day.