Every child needs to go through a process of learning to socialize, get along, and learn to say no and accept rejection. Especially when a child starts to have social needs around the age of 3, he or she will always want to be with some children. Playing together is of the same age or older, so that the process of getting along can give children a sense of pleasure, recognition and satisfaction. However, every child has different temperament and preferences. If you ask him to play, he may not be willing to play with you, especially if you are young, have different language communication and play habits, and may be rejected. For children, After being rejected, you are often unhappy, disappointed, and may even cry. What to do when your child says other kids don't want to play with him

First, deal with your child's emotions and listen to them. "You wanted to play with this child, but she rejected you, and you were sad." The purpose of this is to let the child match his emotion with the name of the emotion, and he will know what is going on inside him.

Second, recognize your child’s emotions and accept them. "Yes, it is sad. Do you need mommy to accompany you?" If you are a teacher, ask your child, "Do you need the teacher to accompany you? Young children usually need companionship, but if the child is older, she will refuse to accompany you. , because the child has the ability to handle emotions, he thinks he can handle it on his own.

Third, when the child's emotions have been dealt with, then handle the incident. "This child has the right to refuse to play with you, then. "It's his choice" is difficult to accept at first, but parents and adults think about it: this is the truth of this society, and others do have the right to refuse. So let the children recognize the truth.

Fourth, If the child is older, then you can guide him to figure out what to do. “What can you do if he doesn’t play with you? ” Some children may say “I will find others to play with” or “I will play by myself for a while.” In any case, the child solves his or her own problem by thinking of his or her own solution, and the purpose of this is to guide the child and help him or her Develop your own problem-solving abilities.

Fifth, teach children specific and practical language expressions. We usually need to teach our children how to fully express their thoughts during interpersonal communication. Be proactive when it comes to problems. For example, if you want to play with your best friend but are turned down, you can say "I don't like what you're doing. We're good friends and I want us to play together" or "I feel like you're unhappy, did I do something wrong? Or "We have always been good friends, but today you suddenly stopped playing with me. Why?" We can't stay with our children all the time. The best help is to give her methods and skills so that you can have the confidence to make choices and solve problems.