Thank you, this is actually very simple. Extroverts can regain energy through social interaction, while introverts consume energy through social interactions.

There are two kinds of people in this world. One kind of person is always tormented by desire. His heart is always turned toward the outside world, trying to chase everything and seek to discover new things; the other kind of person is always tormented by desire. Tormented inside, his mind focuses more on himself and only thinks and analyzes the outside world with an objective attitude. Some even have no interest. On the contrary, they try to avoid everything in the world. They like to be exposed to objective information. through contact with the outside world. Jung called the former type of person an extrovert, and the latter type of person an introvert.

In 1913, Swiss psychologist Jung proposed the personality type theory of introversion and extroversion based on "psychological tendencies". Later, he fully clarified these two personality types in his book "Psychological Typology". Jung classified personality types based on libido tendencies. If an individual's libido activities tend toward the external environment, he or she is an extrovert; if the libidinal activities tend toward oneself, he or she is an introvert.

Extraverted (extroverted) people value the external world, are social, active, cheerful, confident, enterprising, interested in everything around them, and easily adapt to changes in the environment.

Introverted (introverted) people value the subjective world, are fond of contemplation, and are good at introspection. They are often immersed in the intoxication of self-appreciation. They are withdrawn, lack self-confidence, shy, indifferent, reticent, and have difficulty adapting. changes in environment. Extraversion and introversion are the two major attitude types of personality.

Basically no one is definitely an introvert or an extrovert. Everyone is a composite type. One type is dominant, and then introversion and extroversion are divided into eight types. In general, extroverts can restore energy through social interaction, while introverts consume energy when socializing and rejuvenate when alone (except with close people). The energy of introverts basically comes from introspection and thinking, which requires a peaceful mind and a clear mind. Once they enter a noisy social situation, they will be nervous, restless, reserved,,, etc. This is similar to vitality. There is a lot to say. Feeling tired, boring social interactions are tiring, and even poor organization of language can cause misunderstandings. In the eyes of extroverts, introverts are basically narcissists, nerds, neurotics, dictators, little friends, and in another word, sultry. The type mentioned in the question is obviously an introvert. He is willing to socialize, which is really good.

For an introvert, the more he can express the characteristics of a lively extrovert, joyful, unrestrained, and comfortable, the stronger his heart will be, the higher his maturity, perfection, and self-sufficiency. It must be improved and learned. As mentioned before, there are eight specific types of introversion and extroversion. Of course, there are also examples of introversion and sociability, such as Confucius.

No matter what group of people we are in, we can always meet these two types of people with different personalities. Some people are good at action, like action, and like to be in contact with the world, while some people prefer to stay in their own thinking world and avoid everything that is unnecessary and meaningless. If you can enjoy yourself, it is actually a good state. Everyone has his own spiritual garden, and he can enjoy it and feel content. But humans are social animals, and it is natural to be alone and lonely. If you feel distressed and uncomfortable because of this, that is not good. I personally think that I like to be able to enjoy solitude, experience tranquility, and feel things that others cannot feel. At the same time, I can bravely face the world, bring affinity and kindness to people around me, be positive and optimistic, and have the courage to explore new things. .

If you want to introduce it in detail, it will be divided into three parts. I have marked the key parts in bold.

1. Introversion type (you can compare it yourself)

2. How did the phenomenon of treating social interaction as a burden come about?

3. Improvement (which Which personality type is more adaptable to society? )

1. Type

Jung pointed out that individual psychological activities have four basic functions: feeling, thinking, emotion and intuition. Feelings tell you that something exists; thinking tells you what it is; emotions tell you whether it is satisfactory; and intuition tells you where it comes from and where it is going.

According to Jung, intuition allows people to reason in the absence of factual data.

Based on the combination of the above two attitudes and four functions, Jung described eight functional types of personality.

(1) Extraverted thinking type: This type of person is both extraverted and biased in thinking function. Their thinking is characterized by being based on objective data and stimulating their thinking process with external information. Scientists are extraverted thinking types. They understand the objective world, explain natural phenomena, discover natural laws, and thus create theoretical systems. Jung believed that extraverted thinking was most fully developed in two scientists, Darwin and Einstein. People with extraverted thinking tend to be emotionally repressed and may even exhibit personality traits such as coldness and arrogance.

(2) Introverted thinking type: This type of person is both introverted and biased towards thinking function. In addition to thinking about external information, they also think about their own inner spiritual world. They are interested in the ideas themselves and collect facts from the external world in order to verify their own ideas. Philosophers fall into this category. Jung pointed out that the German philosopher Kant was a standard introverted thinking person. People with introverted thinking have personality characteristics such as emotional repression, indifference, indulgence in fantasy, stubbornness, willfulness and pride.

(3) Extraverted Emotional Type: This type of person is both extraverted and emotional. Their emotions correspond to objective situations and general values. Jung pointed out that people with extraverted feeling type are most obvious in their "love choices". They don't think much about the other person's personality traits, but consider the other person's identity, age, family, etc. People with extraverted feeling type have repressed thinking, exposed emotions, love to communicate, and seek harmony with the outside world.

(4) Introverted feeling type: This type of person is both introverted and biased towards emotional functions. Their emotions are motivated by intrinsic subjective factors. People with the introverted feeling type have repressed thinking, hide their emotions deep in their hearts, and are taciturn.

(5) Extraverted Sensing Type: This type of person is both extraverted and biased towards the sensing function. They are clear-headed and willing to accumulate experience in the outside world, but they do not pursue things too deeply. Extraverted Sensing people like to seek pleasure and excitement. Their emotions are generally shallow and their intuition is suppressed.

(6) Introverted Sensing Type: This type of person is both introverted and biased towards sensing functions. They stay away from the external objective world and are often immersed in their own subjective world of feelings. For people with an extraverted feeling type, their perceptions come from the external world and are a direct reflection of objective objects, while for people with an introverted feeling type, their perceptions are deeply affected by their own psychological state and seem to come from the depths of their own souls. They are artistic and have suppressed intuition.

(7) Extraverted intuitive type: This type of person is both extroverted and biased towards intuitive functions. They strive to discover a variety of possibilities from the objective world and constantly seek new possibilities. They have a keen sense of all kinds of things that are still in their infancy but have potential for development, and they constantly pursue the novelty of objective things. Extraverted intuitive people can be the initiators of new ventures, but they cannot follow through. Jung believed that businessmen, contractors, brokers, etc. usually fall into this type of person.

(8) Introverted intuitive type: This type of person is both introverted and biased towards intuitive functions. They strive to discover various possibilities from spiritual phenomena, do not care about external things, are divorced from reality, are good at fantasy, and have novel ideas, but they are a bit strange. Jung believed that artists are introverted intuitive types.

2. How did the phenomenon of treating social interaction as a burden come about?

Modern psychologists associate introversion and extraversion with brain structure. You can also see the dimension of extraversion in the picture above. Interconnected with the excitatory and inhibitory processes of the cerebral cortex. I saw that this is written in genes, and the acquired environment and modification will naturally change. Introverted people are relatively sensitive and find it difficult to cope with social interactions. However, after having social experience, it is because humans are social animals and have the ability to integrate into the crowd. If necessary, I put on a mask. Extrovert mask.

I think there are three reasons for this phenomenon of avoiding social interaction and treating social interaction as a burden

1. I really don’t like social interaction, don’t like casual acquaintances, don’t like Boring conversations, tiredness from talking too much, and boring social interactions make people feel meaningless. In addition, sometimes if you don’t know how to deal with it, you will become more resistant and avoid it.

2. Lack of skills and experience, social frustration, the more contact we have, the more nervous, uncomfortable, and uncomfortable we feel. Just like the experiments we did when we were children, the paramecium will naturally run away when it is stimulated.

3. Sensitive and vulnerable. Not all people are friendly. When encountering certain people or certain things, sensitive people will suffer far more harm than others imagine.

So this is a vicious cycle. The more you resist and escape, the less experienced you are, and the more you cannot bear the harm, the more harm you will receive. If you are this type, you need to solve it from the root and face it with determination and courage.

3. Improvement

Which personality type is better able to adapt to society?

Most people think that extroverts are better able to adapt to society because they are eloquent, can make friends wherever they go, and will not suffer any loss wherever they go; introverts are different, they don’t like to talk, and they don’t like to talk. There are social deficiencies, the personality is not that cheerful, it is easy to suffer when going out, the ability to adapt to the environment is not strong, etc. Psychology believes that these two personalities have their own advantages and disadvantages. Jung believed that extroverts are sociable, cheerful, frank, adaptable, and adventurous; introverts like to be quiet, thoughtful, full of fantasy, good at exploring, withdrawn, and unwilling to appear in public. Introverts are worse at social interaction than extroverts, while extroverts are not as good at introspection, which is detrimental to personal development. So, which personality type is better able to adapt to society?

Jung believed that every person’s personality lies somewhere along the continuum between very introverted and very extroverted. We will best adapt to society if we can move freely along the continuum of introversion and extroversion when necessary. These are the two personalities of "extroversion and introversion" and "introversion and extroversion". People with these two personalities are better able to adapt to society. When they need to be introspective, extroverts can become introverts, which is extroversion; when they need to be social, introverts can become extroverts, which is introversion. Both have the characteristics of introversion and extroversion, and can adapt to the actual situation. Such a person has actually overcome the shortcomings of introversion or extroversion and has gradually grown into a complete person.

Hermaphroditism is the way to go!

If you can keep a clear mind in social interactions, stay silent, analyze, get positive feedback, open your heart to make friends, and meet When something happens, wave your hands and tell yourself that it’s no big deal. If you practice slowly and improve slowly, you will find that less and less energy is consumed. If you can generate a pattern, you can treat certain feedback as your own. The fun of progress, the beneficial information obtained as a reward, will naturally be handy.

Treat social interaction as the only way to improve yourself, just like when we exercise, we will be very tired and sore, especially when we do leg exercises, it feels so sore and refreshing. Just yesterday morning when Smith was squatting, the personal trainer suddenly told me that every time you squat, your blood rushes into your prostate like a wave, making you young and strong, you know. After hearing this, I groaned and made two more sets, and I didn’t even bite my teeth and said it was sour. You see, people, it’s that simple.

I used to reflect on myself a lot. Although I have a lot of friends, Sometimes I feel "self-pitying", thinking that my heart is already very strong. Sometimes I scold others and talk about self-pity. I hate you the most. You people just don't work hard! But in fact, you will also be controlled by your personality. No, in fact it is It's ridiculous that I'm often controlled by my personality. A person can enjoy what he likes and escape, but he must have the ability to cope and become a complete person both internally and externally to be considered mature.

There is an answer with more than 30,000 likes on Zhihu. The question asks, why do some people seem to be friendly but always stay alone?

Being friendly to others is a trait, while being a loner is a character.

Maybe after you have the ability to cope with social interactions, you still don’t like to socialize. It doesn’t matter. By that time, you will be strong enough to “freely choose what to do.”

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