They are shy for a reason: (1) don't like being watched and observed. (2) They will feel anxious in some new situations and places, especially when they leave their primary caregivers.
(3) They feel small. (4) They will lose themselves in large groups. (5) They are worried about their looks or that they will make a fool of themselves.
(6) They may also feel embarrassed because they don't say anything.
To keep a positive attitude towards shy children, you can say:
( 1)? Seemingly happy children also feel wobbly and uneasy. Everyone is pursuing his own path. It often doesn't go well at first, and you're not alone. ?
(2)? It usually takes some time to make friends, at least when you expect to find them, you may find them. ?
(3)? You are a lovely child with a lovely personality. When you show your inner things and share them with others, they will be happy to be your friends. You should make yourself feel confident, and it will get better. ?
(4)? Interestingly, friends develop from the first to another, so the hardest thing is to make friends with the first one. ?
(5) Guide children with obscure words. For example:? How do you think Chloe will spend her holiday? You can ask her when you see her. ?
How to help shy children make friends, this 14 secret must be known:
1. When you go out to participate in social occasions, remember to take your child, whether it is a cafe, a park or an exhibition hall, he will gradually adapt to the new environment. Bring him something to play with, so that he won't stick to you, but don't push him aside.
2. Keep the regularity and familiarity of family life as much as possible to help them feel safe and reliable elsewhere.
3. Encourage children to participate in local small group activities, such as sports, drama or singing activities specially held for children. This can help him express himself more confidently in front of his peers and become his true self.
4. If possible, invite friends and bring children, but not too much, so that children will not feel too stressed.
5. If your child is transferring to another school, whether it is preschool to kindergarten, kindergarten to primary school, or primary school to junior high school, try to find friends who will go to the new school together in advance. Help him get to know some classmates before entering school.
6. If you have time, attend school meetings and see other parents (Weibo); If your child is invited to perform, you can go to see it, so that he will feel more secure.
7. When a shy child starts to talk and wants to say something or ask some questions, pay enough attention to him, stop what you are doing, listen carefully and ask further questions to arouse his further thinking. If he feels important to you, he will feel more confident among his peers.
8. Don't blame and reprimand children when they make mistakes.
9. Try not to make negative comments on any part of your child's body, even in a joking tone. Careless comments on hair, ears or body shape may make children notice these problems and cause anxiety.
10, trust him and take care of him. Give him some advice on how to cultivate self-confidence and decide when you can try it.
1 1. Find a book about children's age to solve some children's difficulties in making friends and social anxiety.
12. Older children can easily establish school-based social networks after school.
13, approaching pets may help shy children feel more comfortable when approaching other friends.
14. If you make friends with children younger than yourself, you will feel less threatened or not afraid.
If your child has been troubled by shyness and hates being alone, but seems to be rarely troubled and feels good about himself, this is of course good. However, it should be noted that children may be used to their shyness, and it is not a necessary and healthy way to protect themselves by hiding shyness. For example, when guests come, children will hide far away, claiming that they have urgent homework, or being immersed in computers and books, or even friends will come to play with them.
Everyone likes to stay in the comfort zone, which is normal. This familiar behavior allows them to steadily expand the boundaries of their comfort zone and feel a comfortable expression and stride. If you think that children are alone for a long time, they are usually quiet and have little communication, and there is no balanced and healthy social interaction at school, you should communicate these concerns with school teachers.
Solitude may become a habit, however, in the long run, it may breed some exaggerated fears, fantasies and even mental health problems. Children's rich experience can make social interaction more comfortable and flexible, and it is likely to make you and his fears disappear.