1. Whenever I feel that I lack confidence, I say to myself, "I can do it!"
2. Seeing that others are doing well, say to yourself, "In fact, I can do better than him!"
3. Make full preparations and lay a foundation for building self-confidence, which requires usual efforts.
4. Be optimistic. Optimism is a kind of mental outlook that people are full of confidence in the future of their career, and it is the quality of successful people. Generally speaking, confident people are always optimists. It is this optimism that makes children's self-confidence gradually develop and consolidate.
5. Have strong perseverance. Edison believed that self-confidence and strong will were the most obvious signs of great men. He said, "No matter how the environment changes, his original intention and hope will not change at all, but he will eventually overcome obstacles and achieve the expected goal." People with strong self-confidence generally have strong perseverance, and perseverance is always combined with energy to form the quality of perseverance. A person with strong perseverance will not be proud of success, nor will he be discouraged by failure; Success can urge him to keep forging ahead, and failure can also inspire him to make persistent efforts. Perseverance and self-confidence also promote each other. Hawking, a professor at Cambridge University in England, is regarded as one of the greatest physicists since Einstein. Hawking supported decades of efforts with firm belief and made amazing achievements in the field of astrophysics. His book A Brief History of Time was translated into 365,438+0 languages and sold 6 million copies.
6. Try to build self-confidence with small success. Successfully accomplish some small things and find the feeling of success. I gradually established my self-confidence.
7. Attribute the failure correctly, and then make improvement according to your own shortcomings.
Simple:
Do anything you like, such as playing, skating, climbing mountains and going outdoors.
Go to nature, let your heart calm down, come back and think about it, and self-confidence takes root from your heart!
You are your own master!
I am my own God!
Life goes on, no matter what tomorrow, look forward.
Complex:
Carnegie, a famous American adult education expert, found that there are no natural timid, shy and blushing people in the world. These psychological abnormalities are induced by some experiences in the process of human growth. Since it is the day after tomorrow, it can be overcome. Carnegie also said: "There is no one in the world who is not timid, shy or blushing, including myself. Everyone has it, but the degree and duration are different. " Psychologists tell us that people who are timid, shy and blushing are often particularly sensitive to interpersonal relationships, which is what people say is "too thin-skinned." Psychologically, such people care too much about what others think of them, but lack the confidence they deserve. I dare not express my feelings in public, which not only makes me tired, but also makes others feel uncomfortable.
Why can some people control their nervousness in the shortest time, so that people can hardly see obvious "symptoms", while some people, especially some female friends, often show blushing, rapid heartbeat and even trembling lips?
A woman is the first college student in China after the resumption of the college entrance examination. In her own words, she studied at school and later joined the work, and her academic performance and professional skills can be said to be the best among her peers. But she is timid by nature, afraid of dealing with strangers, and blushes when she speaks. Sometimes she has to take part in some social activities with her work or husband, but she always feels uncomfortable. What saddens her most is that at the beginning of the year, the unit had to compete for departmental posts, and one of the hurdles was the "policy address". She didn't have enough courage and courage and finally had to give up. Her major and qualifications are by no means inferior to others, but it is this inferiority complex composed of "timidity and shyness" that holds her back! In fact, it can be said that her "idea" is holding her back. At the same time, her lack of openness and singleness is also the main reason for her inferiority.
Psychologists tell us that to overcome all kinds of bad performances of shyness, we must first change our mentality, and then carry out necessary psychological debugging and training.
Training methods to overcome inferiority complex
Method 1: Hold your head high and walk flexibly when walking.
Psychologists tell us that lazy posture and slow pace will encourage people's negative thoughts; Changing the posture and speed of walking can change the mentality. You never realize this at ordinary times, do you? Try it from now on!
Method 2: Raise your eyes, look straight ahead and look straight at others.
Psychologists tell us that not facing others means inferiority; Facing others shows honesty and confidence. At the same time, talking to others and looking into others' eyes is also a polite expression.
Method 3: Speak in public.
Carnegie said: public speaking is an effective breakthrough to overcome shyness and enhance people's self-confidence and enthusiasm. This method can be said to be the most effective way to overcome inferiority complex. Think about it, does your inferiority complex happen in this situation many times? You have to understand that everyone is afraid to speak in public, but to varying degrees. So don't miss any opportunity of public speaking.
Method 4: stand out in front of everyone. Psychologists tell us that everything that succeeds is noticeable. Try to walk back and forth in the empty carriage when taking the subway or bus, or deliberately cross the front row when entering the venue. And choose the front seat to exercise yourself.
1 1 the principle of enhancing self-confidence
Everyone can endure disasters and misfortunes and overcome them. Some people may not believe that they can do it, but human beings have an amazing internal source. As long as we use it, it can lead us through the difficulties. We are stronger than we think.
Rule 1: Have hope for yourself first. If you don't even have the confidence to change yourself, then don't look down … be tolerant of yourself and make things look simpler.
Rule 2: Act confident, which will make you brave. Imagine that your body has accepted the challenge, indicating that you are not completely afraid.
Rule 3: Stop and think. Others faced setbacks and difficulties, but they overcame them. Since others can do it, of course you can.
Rule 4: Remember: Your life moves at a certain pace. If you feel depressed and can't face life, you may sink to the bottom. But if you remain confident, you may use the power that pulled you down at that time to jump out of the valley.
Rule 5: Remember: It is easier to feel depressed and discouraged at night than during the day. Confidence rises with the sun.
Rule 6: Nothing is impossible except the unexpected.
Rule 7: Most of us are more confident than we think.
Rule 8: The best way to overcome embarrassment and shyness is to be interested in others and think of them. Then timidity will miraculously disappear. Do something for others, be friendly, and you will be pleasantly surprised in return.
Rule 9: Only one person can cure your shyness and anxiety, and that is yourself. There is nothing better than "forget me". When you feel timid, shy and embarrassed, immediately focus on other things. If you are giving a speech, don't think about anything except the theme. Never mind what others think of you and your speech. Forget yourself and go on with your speech.
Law 10: As long as you make up your mind, you can overcome any fear. Because please remember: fear has nowhere to hide except in your mind.
Law 1 1: When you are afraid, focus on what you have to do. If you are fully prepared, you won't be afraid.
Now that I'm in a good mood, what to do next. If you want a friend, you must first know what a friend is! Although friends are the friendliest or most reliable contacts in the social circle, human nature is complex, so when interacting with friends, we should also carefully consider and distinguish between relatives and friends. By nature, most people who become friends have similar interests and personalities, similar interests, similar educational level, lofty personality, empathy and so on. In terms of communication reasons, there are embarrassing friends, friends who never turn their faces, friends who are in need, friends who are friends of gentlemen, friends who have forgotten the past, friends who have met once, friends who live in the market, friends who live in the past and friends who have old friends. No matter what the reason is, friends, after contact for a period of time, should have a choice, should have relatives and friends. For example, some friends are sincere and pure, and naturally they can be sincere and caring; However, some of them are invested in you for some utilitarian purpose. Once the benefits are not achieved or you are too poor to be useful to him, he will leave you Such friends can't be close. What's more, it is better to keep a certain distance.
Then there is how to get along with friends:
There are no two identical leaves in the world. Although friends have similar temperament, similar interests and similar temperament, after all, a friend is a living person, and there will always be some differences with you, some shortcomings and secrets that you don't want people to know. Therefore, when communicating with friends, don't idealize your friends, and don't take "I" as a reference for all your words and deeds. First of all, you should tolerate your friend's shortcomings. Therefore, once we find his shortcomings, we should tolerate them generously, choose the right time and method, and sincerely help him overcome them. Secondly, let friends keep themselves. When you communicate with your friends, you can't insist that your friends must be your "copies". Let friends have their own hobbies and personalities. If you arbitrarily ask your friends for hobbies, just like you, then your friends will leave you. Third, respect the privacy of friends. Don't let your friends report everything to you. It seems that friends who don't talk to you about things are unfaithful to you, not friends. If you are so overbearing and demand your friends with such idealized standards, your friends will also resent you. China has a very philosophical saying that "extremes meet". In life, anything that goes too far will go to the opposite side. The same is true of communication between friends. The past is very close and prone to cracks. Only by grasping a moderate degree can the friendship between friends become eternal. This is because everyone's culture, morality, personality, attitude towards life, work potential and family situation are different. The size of this difference is sometimes proportional to the frequency of communication between friends, that is, the more frequent and intimate the communication, the greater the pull. Therefore, communication between friends, regardless of time, distance, etc. Should be kept apart from each other, in order to achieve the artistic conception of "wanting more, feeling deeply", to be happy with the arrival of friends and miss them because of their departure. It's just that friends often ask for things from each other. However, some people often make demands beyond the scope of principles and objective reality. For example, some friends entrust you with things beyond your ability to bear love, and there is nothing you can do; Some friends entrust you with something against your subjective will, and so on. If you encounter such a situation, as a friend, you should say "no" decisively. Because, first of all, you violate the principle, once caught, you and your friends will become prisoners or violators; Secondly, you can't do anything beyond your love. If you don't explain the situation and refuse, it will hurt your friendship because you didn't do it. Thirdly, if you don't refuse something against your will, it will affect your mood of making friends with you, and it will also hinder you from paying attention to the ways and means when entrusting friends, and you can't be blunt and rash. Common methods; First, you can patiently dissuade and state your interests; Second, you can explain the situation solidly and let your friends understand your difficulties; The third is to make a detour, handle it tactfully, and skillfully use other methods to help complete the things entrusted by friends. People communicate with friends for friendship, but friends may have other social circles besides you. Therefore, you should first allow your friends to communicate with people who disagree with you. Be generous when you find that the other person you make friends with is the one who has had friction with you. If you blame your friend for this, your friend will be in a dilemma. Secondly, don't confine the circle of friends to your space. If you "bind" your friends around you regardless of whether others like it or not, it will only be counterproductive. Because, even if you "bind" your friend's body, you can't "bind" your friend's heart. Most friends will hate you and leave you.
The last point is your advantage. Between friends, the conversation should be straightforward, generous and kind, and unpretentious. Only in this way can we show our natural qualities. That's your essence. Why bother? It's nothing if you can't blend in with them. As long as you make yourself better, you will naturally have real friends.
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