Children need friends, and childhood friendships are very precious. The lack of friends not only makes a child's childhood extremely lonely, but is also extremely detrimental to the child's physical and mental health. Therefore, smart parents do not allow their children to make friends, but they should help their children make friends. So what kind of guidance should parents give their children about making friends? How can parents help their children when they make bad friends?

1. First, tell your children the necessary prerequisites for communication.

When children are excited and preparing to enter school, parents must consciously guide them in choosing friends. Parents should tell their children to make friends with upright people, honest people, people who love the community, and people who love learning, and not to associate with people of low moral character and bad habits. Because the children are young and have little experience, in addition to being reasonable, parents should also introduce some stories about famous people making friends, such as the great friendship between Marx and Engels, the relationship between Lu Xun and Qu Qiubai, etc., so that they can realize the importance of choosing friends and what they should do. What kind of friends to choose.

In short, it is to encourage children to make friends with like-minded interests and good conduct.

2. Respect the child’s wishes and respect the child’s friends.

In the process of children's interactions, although they need parental guidance, parents must also respect their wishes and allow them to have a certain degree of autonomy. When it comes to choosing friends, parents and children often have different opinions. As long as the other person's conduct is not too bad, try to respect the children's opinions first, and then provide active guidance and help during their interactions.

When dealing with their children’s friends, parents should also do the following:

(1) Open your home to your children’s friends. Don’t keep little ones out of the house just because you’re worried about them making a mess in the house.

(2) Warmly welcome and receive your children’s friends.

In doing so, you can not only show your respect for your children, but also further strengthen your relationship with your children.

3. Appreciate the strengths of your children’s friends and guide your children to learn from each other’s strengths.

Appreciate the strengths of children’s friends, and allow children to actively learn and overcome their own shortcomings in interactions with children. Xiaoqiang has a bad habit of throwing his things around all the time, only to be unable to find them when he needs them. Later, he met a little girl named Qianqian from his neighbor's house, and the two often played together. Xiaoqiang's mother found that Qianqian loved to be clean and her things were always kept in order. So, her mother asked Xiaoqiang: "Are you and Qianqian good friends?" "Of course!" Xiaoqiang answered her mother. "Good friends should learn from each other. You see how much Qianqian loves to be clean and always packs her things neatly. Can you do it? If you can't do it, Qianqian may not be good friends with you. "Later, Xiaoqiang really got rid of the bad habit of throwing things away, and his things were tidied up. In fact, children learning from each other is the same as adults learning from each other in interactions, except that children’s learning is simpler and more direct, and this is exactly what children need.

4. Create opportunities for children and help them learn to communicate in interactions.

In recent years, activities such as "summer camps" have been held frequently at home and abroad, with the purpose of guiding young people to learn to communicate and develop "leadership qualities" from childhood. When a teenager interacts with peers, if he is a popular person, he will have an important position in the peer group, which will not only cultivate his unique leadership qualities, but also help him get rid of his dependence on his parents as early as possible. And become an outstanding talent with strong independent consciousness.

Of course, when interacting with people and making friends, you will inevitably encounter children with different family backgrounds and different personalities. If your child can learn to deal with classmates with various personalities during interactions, it will be a valuable asset. When entering society, you can have both sides of the situation, and you will not lose various development opportunities due to poor communication.

5. When the child makes bad friends.

In case this happens to their children, parents must not adopt simple and crude methods, but should carefully carry out ideological education and take active preventive measures.

Generally speaking, when children make bad friends and make mistakes, the vast majority of children will feel both regret and fear. This is exactly why parents educate them carefully. Good opportunity. If parents adopt simple and crude methods, it will cause their children to develop antagonism and even break the rules, leading them to go further and further down the wrong path.

The correct approach should be to patiently clarify the situation first, and then sincerely communicate emotionally with the child, explaining that the child's mistakes are not only the child's own responsibility, but also the parents' neglect of precautions and insufficient care. responsibility. After finding the spiritual resonance point between the parents and the child, we can then educate the child to improve his or her understanding, and then discuss with him specific measures on how to take strict precautions. If necessary, you should also contact the school and relevant parties to terminate the child's association with bad friends.

When children make friends, parents must take the helm in the general direction, respect their children’s wishes in small details, and respect their children’s friends so that children can make friends with others normally and freely. This is not only conducive to the formation of a child's sound personality and the comprehensive development of the child's mind, but also conducive to the child's ability to learn the strengths of others and learn skills to integrate into society.