Listen to what they say.

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@ Sun (radio program host &; Sound beautification instructor)

(1) The difference in work and rest time is only a matter of living habits. Different people must have different living habits and different families. It is better to agree with this and accept it from the heart, so you won't feel sad.

Since we became attached to our roommates, we have accepted and cherished each other. Two people define the bottom line of their communication, and then live in peace, friendly cooperation and even intimate life on this bottom line. If you have a bottom line that you can't accept, then change the dormitory. But generally speaking, it's not that serious.

(3) In the event of a dispute, we must communicate to ensure that there is no misunderstanding, and it is best to propose a solution and the principle of getting along in the future. In the spirit of solving problems rather than intensifying contradictions, there is definitely nothing they can't handle.

(4) How to enter the society if the roommate relationship is not handled well? Think of the dormitory as a practical base for stepping into society and dealing with people.

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@ Zhang Xian (national second-level psychological counselor)

Postgraduate entrance examination is very hard. You may have to go out early and come back late, and study every day. But as your roommate, he is not a postgraduate candidate, so he may play games. You get up early because you influenced him, and you want to go to bed early because he influenced you. I think so.

In this process, I guess you may be more forbearing. When you have no choice, you will tell him in a more euphemistic way that you are influenced by him. If I were your roommate, I didn't receive a clear message, and I influenced you, I might continue to do so, because I might not want to change my schedule in order to let you go to the postgraduate entrance examination.

But if I can receive your message and tell me that I will really affect your rest, if this will destroy our relationship, then I may make some changes to maintain our relationship with you. And when I make some sacrifices for you, if you can see that our relationship has improved, then I am willing to keep it like this.

I think if you really have a problem with your roommate, it may not just be a matter of time. In addition, it is not only the roommate's responsibility to encounter any difficulties in the postgraduate entrance examination, you can put yourself in the other's shoes.

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@ Hu Jun (Psychological Counselor)

Hello, my friend, it seems that there is a conflict between you and your roommate's review time, or you are very dissatisfied with your roommate's schedule, which has caused anxiety and affected your mood and learning efficiency. In this case, you need to adjust your current state to adapt, because it is not easy for you to change each other, and then adjust your study time to learn in a more flexible way.

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Shi Guo (psychologist)

I think you should study in the study room and library during the day, not in the dormitory.

So disharmony time should be different from getting up early at night. The disharmony is mainly caused by lights and noise.

I remember when I was in high school, a friend in my dormitory got up at 5: 30 every morning, and the other seven of us arrived at 6: 30. But we don't know that he goes out every day because his movements are gentle.

When I was in college, I had a roommate who was in poor health and went to bed before 10 every day. So, he sleeps with his own blindfold. It's amazing to see someone sleeping with an eye patch for the first time. It turns out that he started from junior high school. In order not to affect his rest, we are becoming more and more gentle and speak more and more softly.

My advice to you is: according to your different schedules, communicate well with your roommates and make an agreement that does not affect each other. I don't think it will be difficult. Don't be discouraged when the other person can't do it at once. Give a few gentle hints, and it will get better slowly.

Being able to live in the same room is a kind of fate. Don't assume that the other person is a bad person. When we have bad presuppositions, we close our hearts and can't realize our wishes.

I don't know, did you find any method or inspiration from my description?

Respect each other's differences in work and rest.

If you get up early, be gentle. If you go to bed late, be gentle and put on an eye patch. If you still can't sleep, listen to some sleep-helping music.

Focus on the problem you want to solve, not complain.

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