He and I used to be close friends, but we were very unhappy and finally gave up this friendship.
My classmate's family is very rich, I don't know exactly how much, but the city where his family lives is the richest city here, and his family is the richest person there.
Students' academic performance is not very good, and they don't like reading. In his words, it is: "What's the use of reading? Aren't those college students working for my dad? "
After his father hired eight or nine tutors, he entered our school with the lowest score and became the most fashionable person in the school. He changed from car to car, and he was covered with famous brands. The key is to be very good at playing, which dish is the best, and he knows all the latest clothes.
My family comes from the countryside. Like 99.9% of my classmates, we passed the single-plank bridge, so we study and work step by step.
I met him by chance. At that time, I was the logistics of the school art troupe. The school held a singing contest, and he also signed up. He is very popular because he is rich and has a good musical instrument.
Although I have heard his name before, I have never really touched him. I found him very straightforward and generous, probably because he was rich, so he was generous and spent a lot of money.
He is also good at our logistics. During the rehearsal, he bought milk tea, drinks and snacks for everyone from time to time, and everyone liked him very much.
On the day of the game, he dressed very handsome, except that he was a little short and looked like a star. After he took the stage, the girls in the audience screamed constantly. He sang very well and finally won the second prize.
He was very happy after winning the prize, so he invited the judges and the whole community to eat in the most luxurious Japanese restaurant in the city. I was shocked when I saw the menu. A beef rice (that is, beef 1: 1.2 rice) actually costs 299 yuan!
Seeing our embarrassment, he waved his hand and ordered directly. I was so worried about this meal that I didn't eat it at all.
Although the activity is over, he is still in contact with me and another senior. He always invites us out to play from time to time, sometimes to eat delicious food, sometimes to go to bars, and of course he pays the bill every time.
At first, like others, I felt that the rich second generation respected themselves by being friends with themselves, and I felt very proud. But then something happened, which made me feel that being friends with him became a burden.
The thing is, I didn't go home because I had to work that summer vacation He knew he would invite me to his house to play.
There is a famous scenic spot in his home (needless to say, it is easy to recognize). Actually, I've always wanted to go, but I just didn't get a chance.
Of course, I refused, because going there means that I can't work, and it also means that the living expenses for next semester are not settled.
After he knew it, he even said: Nothing, just consider it a job for me. I will give you 100 yuan a day's salary.
It was 2009, and 100 yuan a day was a high salary.
But I had a sense of humiliation in my heart and refused at that time.
But then he called me again, saying that as long as I went, I would add it to 200 yuan every day. At this time, my senior also called me and asked me to go with them.
At that time, I thought he was disrespectful, so I had a fire in my heart and resolutely disagreed.
He also thought I was angry for no reason, so we didn't contact each other all summer. One day after school started, I came back from working outside the school and saw him driving a sports car next to me.
He is fooling around with sunglasses. He waved to me and said, how much can you earn by working for a summer vacation without coming to my house?
I didn't want to talk to him, so I turned my head and went to school. As a result, he chased me after me because his car was so cool that people next to me looked at me like watching a good show. I can't wait to find the crack in the ground.
He was angry when he saw that I ignored him. Later, he came to see me every day. People who don't know think he is pursuing me. In fact, only I know, that's because he has always been responsive and no one has ever refused him, so he wants to get this face back.
This situation continued until the next semester of junior year. He fell in love with the beauty queen of our school and had no time to come to me.
I was relieved at first, but somehow I came out and I was dumped by him. Many girls in school still laugh at me behind my back, saying that I want to find a rich second generation.
Everywhere I go, I can see people's unfriendly eyes. I was almost depressed during that time. Fortunately, I was busy with my studies and work, so I didn't have much time to pay attention to them.
After graduating from college, we went our separate ways. After graduation, we have no contact at all, but my senior occasionally mentions him, saying that his father's business is getting bigger and bigger, and now the whole family has moved to Shanghai. Moreover, he is already in contact, and the other party is also everyone's daughter, which can be said to be suitable.
A few days before the National Day of 20 19, I suddenly received a strange phone call. As soon as the other person spoke, I knew it was him. He apologized to me first, saying that he was so naive ten years ago that he didn't consider my self-esteem at all.
He also said that he was getting married on National Day and invited me to have a drink.
I accepted his apology and sincerely wished him well, but declined to attend the party, because for me, we are no longer people in the same world, so there is no need to be friends again.
What's it like to be friends with rich people? I think there are people with high quality and low quality. Ten years ago, my classmate was the kind of rich man with low quality. Making friends with him was a very bad experience.
First, the rich are more self-centered.
Because this classmate was born with a golden spoon, it can be said that he has been responsive since he was a child. Such a person has a special ego, and only by being with him can he be constantly accommodated.
Compared with my classmates, he always makes arrangements when we go out to play, and they seldom consider whether we are happy or not.
Second, the consumption concept of the rich is different from ours.
In the world of rich people, spending one or two thousand dollars is just like spending one or two hundred dollars. We often feel out of place when we play together.
Once I went shopping with my classmates. As soon as he went, he went straight to the famous brand store and bought tens of thousands of clothes and bags. I could only watch.
Even if he says he pays, I don't want it, because I don't think it's necessary.
Third, you will lose yourself if you stay with rich people for a long time.
Rich people don't need to worry about their future, and they don't care about house prices and prices. They just get drunk every day.
If you stay with them for a long time, you will think that you don't need to worry about these things. If one day, rich people stop paying for him, he will complain that the world is unfair.
Just like my senior, after my classmates got married, they spent less time together. She often complains that she doesn't have as good a background as her classmates, and her man doesn't have as rich parents as her classmates. In short, she can't go back to her real life. I feel very sorry.
In short, friendship, like love, also needs to pay attention to the right match. If you are not at the same level, you might as well not be friends. After all, when we were worried about three yuan of cabbage, they were already carrying 30 thousand bags and driving a sports car worth three million in a city with dozens of houses.
Let me answer this question. Many of my husband's friends are leaders and bosses. To put it bluntly, they are either rich or expensive. Let's make a tobacco hotel, it can't compare with them. They give their husbands red cards every time they play cards, but they never ask for them once (my husband can't play cards). Every time I call my husband for dinner, I will attend if I have time, and I will make it clear if I don't have time. We also invite them from time to time. Of course, our spending power is not as good as theirs, and they have not abandoned it.
Friends go to the store for tea and chat almost every day. My husband's Hu is the most arrogant and weak person in China. They pack cigarettes for each other and never dislike each other. As long as business is introduced to us, we guarantee fair price and high quality.
Friends often drink tea in the shop. They often bring tea to the shop from time to time, and sometimes they are busy with business. They also help load cars and help us carry goods on the road. In short, my husband is not good at words, but he is really lucky to have a group of good friends.
I have a rich girlfriend, and following her really opened my eyes. She often drives 9 1 1 to pick me up to go shopping in Hangzhou Building and have a big meal outside the West Lake Building. She often gives me high-grade bags and clothes, and has been spending money to take me to travel abroad. That feeling is great.
Zhang Shuangshuang and Xia Qiao are college classmates. Zhang Shuangshuang is a girl from an ordinary family, but her parents are kind and harmonious, so she has developed a careless, lively and cheerful personality. Xia Qiao's parents are both university professors, but because her parents divorced when she was a child, although her family conditions are good, she is cautious and insecure.
The growing environment from small to large has created two girls' different personalities. However, in this way, two girls with different personalities became good friends.
When we first met, Xia Qiao thought Zhang Shuangshuang's dress was too corny, and she was determined to transform her.
Xia Qiao gave Shuang Shuang her coat and used bag, and she wanted to transform her into what she wanted.
But Shuang Shuang, who is cheerful, thinks that her clothes are really rustic, and everything in Xia Qiao is good. She embraced Xia Qiao's transformation. The two have found the harmony between supply and demand, and the relationship has always been harmonious.
After graduating from college, they worked together in an airline and became flight attendants.
Soon after, Xia Qiao married someone and started from scratch with her husband. It didn't take long for the business to grow. It was 2008, and the monthly income of husband and wife could reach one million yuan. Xia Qiao became a full-time wife, doing nothing and having no friends every day. Shuang Shuang became the only object she could show off.
Whenever he has time, Xia Qiao drives a Porsche 9 1 1 to pick it up, and they go shopping in Hangzhou Building and buy brand-name clothes together. Then go to a small restaurant near the West Lake for dinner. At that time, Shuang Shuang was still working as a flight attendant, and her monthly income of more than 10,000 yuan was far from that of Xia Qiao. But I followed Xia Qiao and opened my eyes.
I didn't see anything wrong with this carelessness, so Xia Qiao left her clothes and invited herself to dinner. There is also a limousine shuttle. I wonder how cool it is.
And Xia Qiao is also very happy to enjoy the fun brought by this effort. She likes the feeling of listening to her words and accepting her gifts. This feeling made her feel safe and satisfied her vanity.
However, suddenly one day, Xia Qiao found that Shuang Shuang was no longer the girl under her control. She is self-conscious and rebellious, which makes her unprepared and angry.
The first time I was hacked by Yintai Department Store, I went to buy a windbreaker and happily ran to show off with Xia Qiao. Xia Qiao was dark at that time: "How did you buy such ugly clothes?" I asked Shuang Shuang to return it, but Shuang Shuang liked the dress very much and didn't want to return it. Although in the end, Xia Qiao had to drag Shuang Shuang to return the clothes. But because of cool resistance and disobedience, the more I think about it, the more angry I get, and I directly hacked her.
Shuang Shuang is a little puzzling, her perception is very poor, and she doesn't understand what happened. Less than three days later, Xia Qiao secretly added her friends. Shuang Shuang also put down a big stone in his heart. This is the first time I was hacked by Xia Qiao. I didn't expect Xia Qiao to use the method of discrediting friends to deal with Shuang Shuang in the future.
Xia Qiao once again invited Shuang Shuang to Hong Kong for a sumptuous dinner. Xia Qiao wants to take her to eat high-end French food, Japanese food and Italian food. Shuang Shuang stopped at the rice noodle shop in the street and insisted on spicy food. Xia Qiao was so angry that she scolded her on the spot: "You don't eat so much delicious food. I still eat spicy food when I come to Hong Kong. It is really unprecedented. " It was this unpleasant time that made Shuang Shuang feel the inequality for the first time, and felt the feeling of looking up to people. However, apart from a little unpleasant feeling, Shuang Shuang didn't think much, and still regarded Xia Qiao as his best friend.
A good friend of Shuang Shuang invited her to Thailand, and she readily agreed. Have a good time.
I learned that she went abroad to play with other friends. Xia Qiao was out of breath, which made her unconscious again. When Shuang Shuang bought a present for Xia Qiao, she found it was dark again. Fortunately, Shuang Shuang has learned her temper. After a while, when she comes to her senses, coax her again.
After being blacked out for the last time, Shuang Shuang invited Xia Qiao to Thailand again. But unexpectedly, this time, it became a trip for two people to break up.
Two people were taking pictures on the beach in bikinis. Someone came to chat up and wanted to take a group photo, but what they were looking for was refreshing. Xia Qiao felt a little sick. After playing for a long time, I said I was tired and wanted to go back to the hotel to rest.
Cool, but let her go back to the hotel by herself and insist on a guide to accompany her shopping. Xia Qiao said that she couldn't find the way back to the hotel and asked her to accompany her, but she ignored it and insisted on going shopping.
The next day, Xia Qiao will go back. When flying, the seats for two people are not arranged together. Shuang Shuang asked Xia Qiao if he wanted to change together. Xia Qiao ignored her anger. Shuang Shuang also began to sulk.
As soon as I got off the bus, Xia Qiao fainted and then came to his senses. This time both of them are sulking and determined not to admit defeat. After returning from Thailand, the two never contacted each other again. Time has passed for more than two years.
Two years of changes and tests. In more than two years, great changes have taken place in Xia Qiao's life. Her husband's business plummeted, her family changed, and her grandmother, who loved her most, died. Apart from being cool, Xia Qiao has no other friends, and the great change of life makes Xia Qiao suffer from depression. In fact, she has been waiting for Shuang Shuang to come back, but her strong self-esteem won't allow her to take the first step.
These two years coincided with the pregnancy and childbirth, so I didn't have time to take care of Xia Qiao's life. It was not until two years later that she learned that Xia Qiao's depression was very serious.
Seeing this exciting phone call without warning, Xia Qiao was at a loss. It took a long time to get through, but I didn't know what to say.
Shuang Shuang didn't say hello on the phone. He asked directly, "Hey, are you sick?" I want to see you. Shall we meet outside? "In the following time, Shuang Shuang accompanied Xia Qiao, encouraged her, supported her, and walked out of the gloom of depression together. Two years later, two good friends finally came together again. To be exact, from this moment on, two people became real friends!
What's it like to be friends with rich people? If the economic base is too different, people with a little self-esteem can't stand the feeling of being despised, ignored and controlled. It is not so easy to take advantage of the rich by eating people with soft lips and taking people short. How long can an unequal relationship last?
I have to admit that it is difficult for people with too different economic conditions to become true friends.
If you have a good relationship and get along well with each other, it means that you still have needs.
For example, Chacho and Frost:
Xia Qiao needs a sense of security, vanity satisfaction and psychological comfort in Shuang Shuang. For her, the heart is barren and the spiritual world is empty. It can be said rudely that there is only money left in the poor. It's a good deal for her to buy what she wants most with what she needs most.
For Shuang Shuang, her personality is careless, and some have no definite opinions. She needs someone to help her plan her life and lead her through different life experiences. The communication with Xia Qiao just met her psychological needs. Only after pursuing all this did I find myself gradually losing myself, dignity and freedom. I suddenly realized that this was not the friend she wanted.
What is a true friend? A true good friend is like a "person", supporting each other and fulfilling each other. It doesn't matter who is left out and who is right. The important thing is that the word "person" is combined because of the left and right.
When the interests cross, the interests will be scattered; Intersecting with the potential, the potential will tilt; If the rights cross, the loss of rights will be abandoned; Love has intersection, love has death and injury.
The reality is that it is difficult for rich people to become friends with ordinary people without the exchange of interests. It is also difficult for ordinary people to climb the rich. Different economic conditions, different visual modes, different thinking habits, different consumption concepts and different circles do not need to be forced together.
If you are really lucky enough to meet a friend who can make friends without financial strength, it must be a good friend to cherish, and you must cherish it, because this feeling is far more precious than money!
The small circle of life determines that most of them are surrounded by rich bosses. Rich people are divided into two distinct types, one is big brother and the other is cheapskate.
Big brother type, everything is ready for you, and I will send it to you every week after I purchase the food at home. Invite your family to dinner and prepare gifts for your family during the Spring Festival. When friends come, arrange everything, please have dinner, arrange someone to accompany you to visit the scenic spots, and bring a face-saving gift before you leave! Whatever you say, he agrees, whatever you want, he is satisfied, whatever you do, you are right, you are wrong, he bears, and never criticizes. This kind of big brother is hard to find, money is necessary, but more affectionate.
There is also a rich man, you are worthless, and he won't waste a penny.
Fortunately, two kinds of rich people with characteristics have met, the big brother type. When you lose it, you will miss him very much. You should cherish it when you meet it.
For those rich people who don't waste a penny, it's not that they are stingy, but that we don't have the value they want!
Everything, looking down, everything, is a cloud.
The richest friend around me is the president of my wife's company, and she is a person with high social status I know. I am 3 1 this year, and he is 50 this year. The age gap is quite big! Maybe many people say that you just know each other, but you can't be friends! Actually, we are really friends. Things have to start from 20 14.
I just resigned from a foreign project that year, and my wife's company needed a technical director of the project, and then she let me go. I worked for more than a year, when he was not the president. During this time, he often asked me to go to his office to ask about my work, give me some guidance and teach me how to look at and deal with a problem. At the end of 20 14, I lost more than 300,000 because of gambling, and I still owe the outside water130,000. I was really a traitor at that time. At that time, he learned about it from another leader, then called me to talk deeply, severely criticized me for several hours, and finally gave me100000 yuan to pay off my debts. Do you know how grateful I am that he offered to help me in that situation? !
More than a year later, he was transferred to Chengdu headquarters as the president of the group company. He is a very low-key person. He has two houses in Chengdu, which he has never lived in, because his parents and wife are in another city. Usually he goes home by train, and he doesn't need a driver to pick him up or drive himself. Then I took the initiative to take over the task. Every time I come back, no matter how late, I will meet him at the station and take him to the station when I go back. He likes to eat fruit. I usually send him some fruit every other week (all ordinary fruits don't cost much). What kind of fruit does he usually eat, bacon and the like will also ask me for some. The most exaggerated time he cooked braised fish at home, and then asked me to bring one back! He likes playing badminton, and he is more professional. I played with him for more than three years, and now I can compete with him! In fact, I have always regarded him as an elder myself. We usually go out for dinner together. Whether he calls me or I invite him, I basically don't have to pay. Now I drink tea, play ball and eat every week.
20 18 He took a small project for me in the company and wanted me to make some money. This project has been done for more than a month and earned nearly 200 thousand.
Finally, talk about his situation. His net worth is several thousand pounds. He has houses in Chengdu, Chongqing, Sanya and Xishuangbanna, and is one of the shareholders of his company. My son is a standard scholar and now works in a famous investment bank after studying in the United States! Finally, I wish good people a safe life! Bad writing, bad writing, don't spray me!
My best friend made a successful investment in her early years, and now she is worth tens of millions. Her car is less than 1 million (she said low-key), her bag is a limited edition, and her daughter is sent to England to attend high school. Although I live on my salary and my consumption can't match her, it doesn't affect our friendship for more than 20 years.
Because her husband's business was transferred to the provincial capital, she followed. But my husband often travels on business and my daughter is not around. She would invite me to her home to accompany her when I was on vacation, and often joked that as long as I went, she would reimburse the fare, accommodation, meals and tips.
A friend who knows our relationship deliberately asked: People who usually have no money curry favor with the rich, how do you feel that your relationship is the other way around?
In fact, there is no question between my best friend and me about who flatters whom. Our contacts over the years are all sincere and consistent, so it is a natural feeling to get along with each other, and no one feels tired.
When I go to see her, she will take me to the hotel for a big meal and sit in a small shop to taste famous snacks. She'll pay high, I'll pay low, and she won't rob me.
She took me into a big brand clothing store. She is a member, and the shopping guide girl calls around her sister. She tried on a suit and everything looked good on her. But she asked my advice and I told her which to buy. I think I bought her clothes.
The shopping guide looked at me with a puzzled face. She doesn't know who I am, and she is very attentive. I smiled when I went out. Every time, she makes me feel addicted to being a boss.
She knows I have a bottom line and won't buy anything beyond my ability to pay. If I don't take the initiative to try on clothes and shoes, she never mobilizes me or hints at me.
In case I take a fancy to a dress, when I am hesitant, she will whisper: If you are tempted, do it. I'll pay for you first, and then you transfer it to me, interest-free.
However, I won't give her the opportunity to be a "creditor" because I think these unnecessary debts are still rare among friends. Unless you have to.
She knows that I love reading and learning new things, and she is willing to communicate with me if there is anything. Before her first trip abroad, I told her to download a translator and taught her how to use it. She was very happy when she learned that.
If you want to enrich yourself, you must keep learning. I asked her to search some courses of litchi micro-class, psychology and emotion, or writing and painting in her spare time. It's always good to listen and learn.
However, when she knew about this micro-course, she actually bought a financial management course at a high price. I teased her: rich people are like this and never forget to manage their finances.
In fact, I also envy her financial management ability. I also studied stocks in my early years and bought her fund. I made some gains when the market was good, but after 20 17, there was no return on what I invested.
She is different from me because she is rich in money, knows how to operate and can change. Although she doesn't earn much, in my opinion, she can keep her old money.
Most people think that being with rich friends is to get benefits. But if you are bent on benefits, maybe this friend can't do it.
And my best friend, with her practical actions, makes me feel affordable.
2015165438+10, when the local property market was in a downturn, she bought two properties and called me to buy them. I don't think I can work in the provincial capital and buy a house to live in. In addition, I don't want to repay the loan every month, and I don't have the courage.
A few days before New Year's Day, I was invited to visit her home. She showed me around several real estates, found some friends to introduce and analyze the trend of real estate.
She didn't take me to those activities in her circle of friends in the past. Because I don't want to fit in, and I can't. Everyone should also understand that rich people can't afford to play with those things.
But this time she made an appointment with some friends and listened to their conversation. I think I should also try investing in real estate.
My best friend is glad that I made this decision. In order to pay less, you have to pay more down payment. I changed all the stock funds in my hand, and the down payment was still 1.5 million. She offered to transfer 200,000 yuan to me without hesitation, because there was a handling fee.
At this time, I didn't accept it with her tactfully and decisively, because it was a big deal. Since she believes in my character, I will definitely pay the bill.
In less than three years, house prices have more than doubled. I sold my house and made more than 1200000.
I used the money to buy a small shop and a house with a yard in the prefecture-level city where I live, because my mother doesn't like living in a busy big city. I think it's the best choice for her.
Final summary:
What's it like to associate with rich people? As long as you don't feel inferior and vain, there will be no pressure to get along.
If you accomplish nothing but make a rich friend to save face, you will die in disgrace.
If you already have a rich friend, you admire their financial courage. Under their leadership, doing it bit by bit will give you unexpected gains.
It is an honor to make two sincere and rich friends in this life, which is undoubtedly a good connection. But everything is unintentional. Making friends is too purposeful, and it is estimated that friendship will not last long!
First of all, I want to make it clear that I'm not showing off, I just want to say what I really think. I was born and raised in a first-tier city. My administrative district is the most developed place in the local economy. Most people living in that area are middle class, and my friends and my parents' friends have a good living standard. The university has to leave this city because of obsession (don't ask me what obsession … that's the water in my head! ! ! ) So I went to one or two (or three? An online city, although a provincial capital city, still feels a gap. My college classmates can't say everything, but most of them come from ordinary families. I didn't know this at first, so I didn't shy away from saying it. So at first, I was understood as a rich man by the people in the dormitory ... During this period, something happened, which was very small but made me feel very uncomfortable. For example, once my roommate said that things bought in the supermarket were cheaper than those in other places, so I went with another roommate. Ask me if it's cheap when you come back. I paused and said that I didn't look at the price when I bought something, and I didn't know it was not cheap. The roommate was frightened and said loudly in the dormitory, You know, this Nicole said that she never looked at the price when she bought things! I ... continued to stare blankly ... = = Finally I had to smile ... This incident had a great impact on me, and after a long time, I probably knew everyone's living standard. Later, I gradually learned to hide myself, and I was disgusted with others letting my parents work and saying that my family was rich. I know that there are countless families richer than my family, and my family is not ordinary in my area. But my family is relatively rich for many college students, but I know that living according to the previous lifestyle is likely to be left out in the cold and told to show off my wealth, so I began to change myself. Go to the cheapest supermarket to buy the cheapest things, go to a small restaurant with poor hygiene, buy the cheapest shoes in Taobao and so on. Now, I will graduate soon, and I get along well with everyone in my class. The unhappiness I had when I first entered school never happened again. These two or three years, I didn't feel wronged at all, but felt it was an exercise for myself. After all, all the money is given by my parents now, and my father is equivalent to an ATM! ! ! How much you earn in the future is not necessarily ~
Therefore, rich people are all the same and have no sense of superiority. If you were friends, you wouldn't care so much.
What a pity. It's embarrassing. It seems that there are not many rich people around me. How can I put it? When I am short of money, I can't think of which friends to borrow. Illustrates the fact that there are almost no rich people in my circle. We are roughly the same, and some are only a little better than me.
Personally, it should be stressful to make friends with rich people. Often invited to some parties, people I know, people I don't know, people I know very well. There must be some people you know who look rich. Listen to his tone of voice, look at his clothes and style. Did you come on foot, by taxi or by car? A woman can also look at the bag on his shoulder, and can roughly see each other's taste in life.
Master Chao usually doesn't join in the fun. As a matter of fact, Ye Chao was once full of scenery. Being "celebrated by many stars" is like: I have experienced happiness and difficulties. As a result, I have fewer friends, but also refined. I found someone with similar family background to talk to. There is no pressure to make friends with these people. I am free and happy. I feel pressured to associate with rich people, but I don't feel inferior or inferior. Even if the old classmates get together, it is slowly hierarchical. Several circles, although meet greetings as usual.
I also have two rich friends, one is Alipay and the other is JD.COM. They usually take care of me and use it first if they have no money to spend.