Fools only make friends with you if they don't give it, but those who don't give it but never "trouble" others, your true friends will feel depressed because they are not needed, and at the same time, they will attract a bunch of fake friends who regard you as a fool.
When I was young, I didn't understand this truth, thinking that making friends didn't require anything in return.
I'm always on call when my friends need me, but every time my friends say "I'll take you to the station", "I'll invite you to dinner" and "I'll help you", I'm like an enemy, afraid of giving my friends trouble and owing them money.
Actually, what's so hard about it? A friend invites you to dinner, the next time you invite him back, this time you help him, and the next time he helps you, friendship will come and go.
The rule of "being suitable for each other" is also applicable in making friends.
The essence of interpersonal communication is resource replacement, including your emotions, knowledge, contacts, wealth, and even your appearance and figure.
So if you want to make good friends, think about what attracts them first.
Don't guess a person's motives and intentions.
In most cases, we should look at the essence through the phenomenon, but in interpersonal communication, it is often easier to learn to ignore the essence and only look at the surface.
Many people say that a star is fake, and no one will never lose his temper. It must be fake. Never kill anyone, since a person's behavior is flawless on the surface, then she is a good person with "social attributes".
Self-interest is human instinct. Life is so hard that it is not easy to keep a good appearance. It is necessary to be suspicious and punish the heart. I'm afraid even the virgin Mary can't satisfy everyone.
Don't trust "human nature" too much, and don't be too disappointed with it.
People who don't meet for the first time may not get along well in the future. Don't be too superstitious about your first impression.
Try to avoid being influenced by prejudice, and don't give yourself a preset position.
The so-called "gas field incompatibility" is also real.
Many factors such as outlook on life, personality and behavior will affect how you feel when you get along. Maybe both sides are right, but it is completely normal to be uncomfortable together.
Respect this difference and don't force yourself to be congenial to everyone.
The sharpness of giving advice to your friends is directly proportional to your intimacy, so don't criticize your friends.
Usually, a friend has an answer before asking your opinion, and just wants to hear the same answer from others.
So unless it's an important decision of a close friend, please think twice whether to say your "suggestion".
Don't kidnap others with friendship and don't be kidnapped by friendship.
In the communication with friends, people are easily bound by moral requirements such as loyalty, loyalty, trust and generosity. And because I can't erase my face, I make a behavior or commitment that goes against my heart.
The more you think about it, the more uncomfortable it is. The other person has no idea about your inner struggle.
In order to please your friends, you suffered a dumb loss and finally put the bill on your friends.
Friends are also very wronged, and the original intention of the other party must not be to let you wronged yourself.
True friendship can withstand rejection by mutual understanding, not by pleasing.