Nowadays, it is a common phenomenon for the elderly to remarry. Relevant surveys show that the morbidity and mortality of long-term single elderly people are much higher than that of remarried elderly people of the same age. However, the elderly must be cautious when they re-enter the marriage hall and fall in love before marriage. Let's take a look at the correct way of love for the elderly.
The necessity of old people falling in love
Two of a kind's "yellow romance" can not only make middle-aged and elderly people have a happy mood and healthy body, but also increase family harmony. Yes, middle-aged and elderly people should also fall in love before remarriage! It's just that the way to talk about love is different from that of young people. Young people can love at first sight. If they have love, they will have everything. Even if they are wrong, they can start over. Middle-aged and elderly people can't afford the risk of "correcting mistakes", so they need to fall in love, not only about love, but also about the past, present and future.
Let's talk about lifestyle first
When middle-aged and elderly people fall in love, they should first talk about lifestyle.
Let's talk about each other's past, how we live every day now, and how we plan to live after marriage. In order to know whether there are similar or intersecting life curves in each other's past; Do you have the same values and pace of life now? Will there be a common life ideal and family vision in the future?
Talking about lifestyle mainly considers the matching degree between values and living habits. If the difference is too big, it will leave hidden dangers for later life.
If two people have similar lifestyles and levels, similar cultural qualities, and come together out of emotional needs, there is no utilitarian color, then such a marriage is not only stable, but also respected by children.
Let me talk about social relations.
Then, talk about their social relations.
Does the other person have children? How is the relationship with children? Is it economically independent? What are the reasons for divorce? Are there any family conflicts and disputes left over? Who are the closest relatives and friends who have more contacts? These are all questions to be considered before remarriage.
Middle-aged and elderly people remarry because they want to marry him or her all the emotional experiences and social relations, so these questions must be asked clearly and discussed clearly when falling in love.
Understanding each other's social relations is actually understanding this person. If the other person's friends are good people, then the other person will not be bad; If the other person's family environment is simple, then many contradictions will be reduced in the future life.
Talk about personality.
At the same time, middle-aged and elderly people should also talk about character when they fall in love. In addition to the beauty of appearance, it depends on whether the other person's heart is beautiful. Don't rush to get married just because the other person is young and energetic.
They can take part in tourism, parties and other activities for a longer time, and in the process of getting along, observe whether the two sides can take care of each other and tolerate each other; Do you have the same hobbies? Do you feel comfortable in communication with each other? In order to understand whether the two sides are suitable.
Middle-aged and elderly people should also pay attention to the running-in of personality when they remarry, and first think about whether they can accept each other's shortcomings. Both sides need to know their own personality, temper and nature first.
If both parties can consciously cultivate their new interests and hobbies, so that they can have more common topics, get along well and have no personality problems, then such a marriage will be guaranteed and happier!
In short, middle-aged and elderly people should talk about the "fit" and "matching" of both sides on the basis of mutual attraction when they fall in love. Pay attention to people, deserve each other's lives, and then enter marriage.