First, respect children's normal heterosexual communication.
After entering junior high school, children will have the desire to associate with students of the opposite sex and feel happy to associate with students of the opposite sex. Parents need to let their children have normal communication between students of the opposite sex. The focus is on group communication, and you can't fix a classmate of the opposite sex. This kind of heterosexual communication is conducive to the growth of children. It is helpful for children to understand and master their different physical and mental characteristics, behavior norms and thinking patterns from the opposite sex in communication. Parents should respect and support normal heterosexual communication.
Second, be cautious about abnormal heterosexual communication.
As parents, children should not be overly sensitive when interacting with the opposite sex, but they must observe carefully. When it is found that children are not in collective communication with the opposite sex, but in frequent and secret communication with individual students of the opposite sex, parents should attach great importance to it and be alert to the abnormal phenomenon that the opposite sex communication tends to puppy love. But in this case, we must confirm the facts and never panic or even intervene forcibly. The correct way is to treat calmly, handle correctly and guide correctly.
Third, learn to correctly handle children's abnormal heterosexual communication.
Children will have some obvious signs when they are in abnormal contact with the opposite sex, for example, their eyes are wrong, they are hesitant, they are not attentive in class, their grades drop rapidly, they don't come home in time after school, and private letters and telephone calls suddenly increase a lot. But this does not necessarily mean that the child has already fallen in love. After observation, do some analysis and thinking. When this fact is confirmed, parents must find out the reason, that is, careless friends are influenced by others; Or induced by pornographic videos and reading materials, the mind has changed; Or lack of warmth at home, seeking caress, etc. , so as to know fairly well and carry out targeted education. However, in the process of education, parents must pay attention to the way, do not publicize so as not to hurt their children's self-esteem, and do not take the form of forced suppression. You can ask your children's trusted friends and classmates for help and guide them out of the whirlpool of feelings.
Interpersonal communication is a strong emotional and social need of junior high school students, and it is normal and inevitable to desire to communicate with the opposite sex. Therefore, parents should not be too sensitive and nervous about their children's performance, but should accept it gladly. At the same time, parents should strive to create conditions and guide them so that children can find friends who can promote their healthy growth in a wide range of heterosexual contacts!