The most fundamental way to control emotions is to pay attention to improving your emotional intelligence. What affects a person's life is your personality, your world outlook, your values, your patience, your confidence, your perseverance, your mood, your mood. So is modern society. There are many prodigies. Everyone says that he is smart and a child prodigy, but he is not as promising as people think. No, why? Although some students are also very smart, they are withdrawn, weird and unsociable, and are not suitable for cooperation. Some people feel inferior and fragile, unable to face setbacks, some people are impatient, stubborn, conceited and emotionally unstable, and some people are indifferent, irritable and neurotic, making it difficult to communicate with people around them. In particular, some people take me as the center, everything is me, me, me, not caring about others, not caring about others, and always like people around them to revolve around one person. There are also many people who are not very intelligent, but they are not too smart. Even people think that he may have a low IQ, but later he became a great cause, a great hero and a great success. Let's lift the veil of EQ and see what EQ is. 1990, two American psychologists, Bede Lalawi and John Meyer, put forward the word "emotional intelligence". At that time, they mentioned that emotional intelligence was emotional intelligence. Friends, what does EQ mean? What is EQ? For a long time, people have always had a mysterious feeling about EQ, which makes it difficult for us to approach EQ, grasp EQ and embrace EQ. EQ is abbreviated as EQ, and IQ is IQ, so what is EQ? Emotional intelligence, emotional intelligence, emotional intelligence, emotional intelligence. That is to say, we often say that reason, wisdom, rationality and understanding mainly refer to your confidence, your perseverance, your perseverance, your patience, your intuition, your adaptability, your cooperative spirit and a series of reflections related to people's quality. Mainly psychological quality. He is a person's ability to feel, understand, control and use an emotion to express his own and others' emotions. Emotional intelligence can be expressed through a series of abilities. Daniel Gorman, an American professor, wrote the book EQ, and he classified people's EQ into five abilities. First, the ability to know your emotions, that is, you have to know your emotions. Some people call it emotional consciousness. What is the second emotional intelligence ability? We should properly manage our emotional ability, and don't let our emotions get out of control, emotional, emotional and uncontrollable. The third ability, self-motivation ability. The fourth ability, the ability to know other people's emotions. We should not only control our emotions, but also look at others' emotions. This is called taking care of him, taking care of yourself and looking at others. Look at people's emotions and look at them from left to right. Fifth, interpersonal skills. So this Gorman put forward five emotional intelligence abilities. A great nation and people must be educated and cultivated, and so must people with high emotional intelligence. There are many ways that EQ is higher than training. In my opinion, there are five methods that stand out. First, train emotions and emotions. Train your emotions and emotions. How to train? I think there are several suggestions. First, cognitive emotions. I just talked about recognizing emotions, then analyzing emotions, and then evaluating emotions. It depends on your emotional shortcomings. What are the disadvantages? Next, control emotions and mediate emotions, emotions, emotions. Don't have ups and downs, don't be moody, keep an emotional stability, and don't get carried away when times are good. Don't be dejected and depressed in times of adversity, but take it easy when you are hit. We have the following specific suggestions. First, we should control our anger. In fact, emotions are human nature, and anger is a manifestation of intense emotions. It can have some advantages and people can get angry. We wrote "Man Jiang Hong" written by Yue Fei, and he was angry. Isn't he angry? It is imposing and has a deterrent effect, but it is often bad to get angry. Including being a leader, including being a parent, is often angry, bad for study, bad for work, bad for life, bad for interpersonal relationship and bad for health. Some people say that anger hurts the liver. What methods do we often use? Strengthen psychological control and improve self-cultivation. What is a trick? Angry, out of control, out of control again, a little trick, procrastination, procrastination, what else can we do? Transfer method, transfer it. What other tips are there? Count, count, one, two, if you want to be angry, one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, count slowly until you are not angry. Some people say that if you count to 60, you won't be angry. Try it. Count to 60. What is the other way? If you go to the toilet, you will get angry. Whether you pee or not, go to the bathroom and squat for 20 minutes. After squatting down, your mind will be very peaceful. Although it's indecent, you might as well have a try. Then there is rational control to exercise your self-control ability, and what's more, to cultivate your world outlook, outlook on life and values. What about anger in the first place? The second is to overcome tension, pressure, contradictions, conflicts, risks and crises, which easily make us nervous. Excessive tension is not good for work, health and life. What are the emotional methods to overcome nervousness? Have correct goals, communicate and coordinate, learn to enjoy, and participate in some civilized entertainment activities. Come to our CCTV to listen to the report. It's all good. Third, to avoid impatience, it is mainly to cultivate your patience, have appropriate goals, relax and calm down, and learn to deal with it coldly. Fourth, get rid of negative emotions, cultivate your own positive emotions, enthusiastic mentality, open mind, sense of accomplishment, and have fun. Fifth, vent reasonably, because the pressure is too great, you can control, control the explosion in your heart, control the explosion in your stomach, and you can vent appropriately. Use words and actions to vent bad emotions in your heart and keep your mind balanced. This is also the way, what should I do?