Sincerity is the first priority of interpersonal communication. Sincerity is the first step to develop intimate relationship in the future. The so-called sincerity should be to express your feelings without concealment, but expressing your feelings and goals immediately on the first date, I'm afraid it's too abrupt, and it will also give people the impression of being too active and frivolous. Therefore, we might as well show our affection for each other first, and then "seduce" the topics of interest to each other with relaxed and natural dialogue. Usually, people are most concerned about their own problems. As long as we ask the right questions and listen carefully, Israel will regard us as bosom friends and then give us an opportunity to express ourselves in return. The strangeness and embarrassment of the first date will become a warm talk. The following topics can promote intimacy: 1. What do you do? Why do you like this job? What is the biggest challenge? What is the biggest setback? What are your hopes for your job and future? 2. What achievements have you made in your life so far? Any major setbacks? 3. What do you like best? Why are you interested? What was the most memorable happy event last year? (or an unfortunate thing? 5. How will you handle your work? 6. How do you like to spend your holiday? 7. Do you want to be famous? (Why) 8. If you had a million dollars, what would you do with it? 9. In your family, how did you grow up? 10, what was your character strengths when you were growing up? What are the disadvantages of fear? ) 1 1. What kind of relationship do you want to develop? 12 Are you romantic? How romantic? ) 13. What do you think is the difference between men and women? 14, what makes you happy? What makes you sad? 16. When you were young, what did you want to be when you grew up? 17, where do you think you are different from others? 18, do you believe in God? What do you think of God? ) 19. to what extent do you think your personal behavior has an impact on changing society? 20. What do you think are the important events in society at present? If possible, what action would you take? Some of the above topics seem to involve too many personal problems, especially for people who are dating for the first time, but please remember that few people don't care about themselves. As long as they don't ask each other like investigating their accounts, everyone is willing to discuss their own problems. And there are three topics that can be used in any occasion: food, family and philosophy. It's probably a custom in China that the protagonist of the first date should be the man, while the woman is reserved. This person should take the initiative to ask some questions to get Tan Xing's attention. Both sides should avoid long silence. When dating, it is best to make the atmosphere pleasant. The content of the conversation should be broad and popular, and the questions should be short, so that the other party is willing to answer and can answer. We can talk about work, study, hobbies and trivial things in life. Don't embarrass the other party, let alone ask questions that make it difficult for the other party. If the other person is silent and unresponsive, you should change the subject quickly. Both men and women can consciously introduce themselves, including their family members and personal hobbies and specialties. But don't brag about yourself. Don't let it spoil the fun of the first date. Swearing should not be said, otherwise it will be regarded as disrespectful, uncivilized and impolite to each other. When dating, you must keep a happy mood and mentality. Because dating is not a class, you don't need to preach or inspire your personality, so the topic must be relaxed. If she likes to talk a lot, don't interrupt her discussion Just be a loyal listener. At the same time, don't talk about some academic topics yourself. When dating, it is best to talk about things that often happen around the village, such as TV programs and social pages in newspapers. Or about music, use your lovely pets such as cats, dogs, tropical fish, pigeons and birds, because talking about some relaxing and interesting topics can bring us closer together. When we meet for the first time, we will inevitably face a common distress problem: after some knowingly commit crimes (some personal information has been introduced to each other in advance), we don't know what to talk about next. Then, let's try it from the following aspects. 1: Look for the "bright spot" of the topic around the pursuit of career: career is the foundation for a person to settle down and live. Any young man who is diligent in his career and tireless in his life will fly once he talks with others about the topic of work and life. So, grab some of his "bright spots" in this respect and dig into the topic, and you will have a heated discussion. For example, the topic can be: What do you do? Your work must be very hard, right? It's hard for me to understand your work. Can you tell me something about it? Wait for the topic. 2. Focus on hobbies and find the topic of "* * *": Everyone has his own hobbies, even a taciturn person, as long as he talks about his hobbies with others, he will be eloquent. However, when we first met, you still didn't know what his hobbies were. It doesn't matter what we do. Let's talk about our hobbies first, and then seek the best points in each other's hobbies to increase our understanding and deepen our feelings. We should expand our common interests to a wider field, so as to find the sound point of "family". Topics can include: Do you like reading and writing? I like music, music and writing, culture and art. This is a' home'! 3. Looking for the "starting point" of the topic around the environmental atmosphere is a dynamic, random and rich topic. It is not a romantic moaning, but a grasp of this topic reflects a person's level and taste in thinking, morality, wisdom, treating people and other aspects. It can be said that a person who is good at observing things, analyzing problems and handling contradictions will have endless power as long as he pays attention to the environmental atmosphere. For example, if there is a TV in your dating place, you can say: Now there are more TV channels and fewer wonderful programs. Look at this TV series. The whole plot is a farce, with no taste and no practical significance. Then ask him to express his opinion. 4. Focus on social life and find the "excitement" of the topic. You will always have some deepest feelings, words you want to say, people and things you hate or like most, things you care about or want most in your life. Then, when you are caught up in a conversation with a friend, pick a "point" that you are most excited about. For example, the topics are: What book do you have in your hand? Or you can say that the clothes you are wearing today are very good, and so on, and then you can say/don't see that you are still knowledgeable about it, and then talk to him. Didn't the topic come out? How to find an opportunity to start dating someone you like? This has a lot to do with the topic! The so-called favorite person can have many situations. Let me explain it a little below. 1: The easiest way for people you know to find communication opportunities in the workplace is to join the clubs or activities that this person participates in. If the other person has no interest in this area and is a colleague in the same workplace, you can start a dialogue on the topic of work. If the workplace is different, they can make friends with the same-sex colleagues who are close to the person they like in the other workplace, so that they can have the opportunity to get close to the person they like. 2. If two people have met before and know each other, it should be quite simple to find a chance to talk. At this time, don't take "I want to associate with you" as the conversation content, but naturally narrow the distance between us through topics such as your work or friends. What's more difficult is, for example, how can I start dating someone I like when I meet someone I like on the bus and go to work every day? One way is to get as close to each other as possible when waiting for the bus at the stop sign. Over time, the other person will naturally have an impression on you. Every morning, in order to impress the other party, the time to go home coincides with the other party's time (for this reason, of course, we will spend some time asking the station at a fixed time to find out the exact time for the other party to go home). After a long time, we can take the opportunity to greet each other gently when we meet. First, nod and smile. If the other person has a reaction, then whisper to him, "Have you gone home at this time?" ? Or "hi! We meet again. If it works, it's half the battle. When we meet at the bus stop the next morning, we can greet him easily. If you are embarrassed to greet each other or nod and smile, try the old method handed down from ancient times, that is, deliberately open the bag to get what is in front of each other, and then deliberately pretend not to be careful to let something fall. Even when you don't wait for the bus, you can deliberately walk in front of each other on the road and then deliberately let things fall. If the other person finds it and helps you pick it up, you can take the opportunity to thank the other person's strength, look at the other person's face and say, "Ah, it's you. Do we often meet? " Then, on the bus stop sign the next day, you must also say hello loudly: "Good morning! Thank you very much yesterday. " "Where do you work? Don't forget the dialogue. What I said above is just an example of creating a topic. No matter what kind of situation you encounter, you should be able to use the methods mentioned above to come up with the method that suits you best. Of course, it takes a little effort and courage to be good at creating topics. If you want to come straight to the point and say, "Can I be your friend? This kind of expression requires not only extraordinary courage, but also success rather than failure, so I don't encourage this method. Here's the topic again: I said some book topics when I was dating: for example; Until I met you, I didn't know there was a feeling called attachment and a feeling called love. The other person will say hello, which is disgusting. Why do you say that? /I told her a bunch of reasons endlessly, and the atmosphere suddenly became very good! Another case: she said to me, "I really don't understand. Of all the people who pursue me, which one is richer than you, but why should I be infatuated with you?" I said, "That's because the poor care more about women than the rich, at least more about women's figure. Follow me and you will never have to worry about your waistline. " Some good people have also asked: I am older than you, and the age gap is too big. "I tell you," so much the better. If I am not younger than you, no one will provide you with resources for ridicule. There is another situation: a good family says, "I'm not very satisfied with your appearance." You are not a handsome boy. " I said, "This is where I am superior to the handsome guy. Handsome guys will only compete with you for fame and fortune with fashionable clothes and beautiful skin color, and I will always wear cloth and be your foil and let others see me. I thought I was your driver. " References:

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