I have been thinking about the value of the community, what it provides me, or what I provide it. In the beginning, the purpose of staying in the community was to make friends and socialize. He was quite active at that time and made many constructive suggestions. However, due to different opinions among the group members, he finally started his own diving trip.

First, diving in the community is related to my personality traits. I personally keep a low profile and will deliberately avoid conflicts. Even if there is a conflict between group members, I will look on with cold eyes.

First of all, this is a matter between others and has nothing to do with me, which means that this matter has no relationship link with me, which will save me a lot of trouble;

Secondly , if I participate in a conflict between group members, it will break my neutral position and I will have to make a value judgment on one of the parties, but I have nothing to do with them, which will make me very passive.

In the end, I thought it was boring. What I am more interested in is why they conflict, or what are the reasons for the conflict. Some people will hide their aggression and pretend to be harmless, while some people will show their aggression more obviously (originally a subconscious behavior). Because the relationship with them is relatively weak (just a group member relationship), private personal communication is reduced, and I don’t know them personally at all, so it is difficult to analyze their personality traits.

Second, diving in the community is a necessary coping strategy. Many people post a lot of personal links in the community, or are always chatting. I don’t think this is very polite or educated. Their desire for expression and expression is too strong, and they express their own sense of existence too much, so that it affects other people's expression space. They waste too much time on boring things like chatting. Shouldn't they spend their time improving themselves? As for the quality of these works, since I haven’t clicked to read them, I can’t really comment. But after just scanning the title, you can understand the content, and there is nothing innovative and interesting. If I want to communicate, I hope it is some high-quality communication, where I can express my unique insights and opinions. Even if they are not the same, people will benefit a lot.

Third, the positioning of the community is not clear, or not clear enough. I don’t know what to say. For example, in the literature group, try to reduce the expression of some private life, focus more on the works and the quality of the works, and try to move the conversation closer to the public topic area (private life can be communicated privately, try not to occupy other people's space), and let others People have a sense of participation (when expressing, try not to express personal emotions and maintain a neutral stance). It is particularly difficult to run a good community, so everyone should cherish it (formulate game rules and stipulate prohibited behaviors, and the rest of the space is free behavior. Warning for minor violations, removal of repeated violations, and direct removal of serious violators.) Game rules again Good, lies in player participation and execution.

By default, joining the group means that you have read the rules of the game and have full responsibility (just remind the group leader).

The role of the group leader is as a referee, with the highest management authority. The administrator has secondary management authority (try to maintain a neutral position). The group leader needs to stipulate the rights and obligations of each role. Control the number of group members (too few will result in no sense of participation, too many will reduce the value of the community).

The greatest value of the literature group is to provide valuable literary works (the standard in my eyes is fun, interesting, touching, wonderful, sad or happy works, including some unique insights, etc., that can make people read to the shining point of human nature, providing positive emotional value, or insights into human nature in life. In short, works that can provide value). As for what kind of value it has, further discussion is needed. The group owner can collect prizes or discuss with managers.

The best community is one without homework (this is really a minefield, having fun is human nature. If the homework is entertainment games such as singing competitions, it will be more engaging. I don’t want to sing The reason is that I'm not familiar with them and I don't feel safe sometimes.

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What I admire more is the spirit shown by others in their pursuit of truth, goodness and beauty, their ability to face pain, their spiritual compassion for the unfortunate, and their sensitivity to pain. Be aware.

Depression means that something bad has happened, and they direct their aggression towards the outside world towards themselves. What others need to do is not to express, speak less, let them speak as much as possible, and act as a listener. I myself also had a period of depression, which probably lasted from my freshman year to last year. It was considered a relatively mild depression.

Fortunately, I came out and grew spiritually, which is what I call enlightenment and transformation. Compared to others, I was undoubtedly much luckier. I had a wonderful, happy and playful childhood. My parents didn't care much about me during that time, and this is what I'm most grateful to them for.

If dating was allowed in middle and high school, maybe I would have a family and a career by now. But we can't demand perfection. Maybe the meaning of the rest of my life is to make up for this regret, to truly experience a love, an experience of establishing a long-term emotional connection with others.

Fourth, I don’t know what a good community looks like. What we can do is to explore hard, constantly strive to improve, and get infinitely closer to its original appearance. This itself is a huge and complex project. It is not only necessary to consider the overall development plan, but also what kind of real value and benefits each member can obtain. How to balance the two is the most difficult point.

I position myself as a strategist who can make suggestions and analyze the personality traits of others and myself (this requires in-depth interviews with them and their absolute trust in me, and I need to receive a certain amount of compensation I do these things only if they have benefits. I am not a moral saint, and I will not criticize other people’s character and personality, because they have nothing to do with me.) This is my real strength and my recently awakened hero skill (haha). , it’s so amazing, this may be the feedback from reading and studying, it’s easy to awaken hero skills)

My current feeling and mental state are better than ever, so I keep all my time and energy in check. Form an internally driven positive cycle.

I have an unprecedented love and enthusiasm for knowledge and learning. Exploring the boundaries of my own life is an interesting challenge in itself.

My greatest gratitude to my motherland and society is that it allows me to have a relatively free environment (as long as I don’t break the law and follow the rules of the game), I can do anything interesting. I have never believed in absolute freedom. Freedom and restraint are inherently integrated. It is neither overly restrained nor overly free. This is the best state of life, that is, a state of indispensability, and an idealized life. state.

Psychoanalysis is a very magical and interesting knowledge and technology, worthy of lifelong learning.

This is a bit long-winded, it’s time to get busy, bye bye!