In work and life, we will meet all kinds of people and people with different personalities. In terms of broad categories, we can divide people into extroverts and introverts .

Extroverted people are often cheerful and lively, rich in language, like to talk, like to make new friends, and also like to be the focus of the crowd.

Introverts are just the opposite. They speak very little and seem to have few friends, but they often say a few words occasionally, but they are very insightful.

Both personalities have their own advantages, but you will find that no matter which type, if a person always behaves very gregariously and rarely expresses his or her different opinions from others, Such people often have no real friends.

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People who are too gregarious tend to have relatively weak personalities, and some lack individuality and opinions. It is difficult to form their own clear opinions on things, and they are easy to follow what others say and follow the crowd.

In fact, there are not many people like this in the workplace. Many times, you will always find this type of people among your colleagues. When expressing opinions, they say that they have no opinions. Even if they do, it is repetitive. Points others have said.

Over time, this type of people will actually be less valued by their bosses, who think that nothing valuable can be obtained from such employees.

And if you never have independent judgment, you will often be unable to show your own personality. It will be difficult to attract real friends who are willing to associate with you, let alone test what kind of friends are real friends.

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Sociable is actually a complimentary word, indicating that people tend to be more easy-going and less stubborn.

But in fact, people who are too gregarious often care too much about other people's opinions and worry that their different opinions will cause dissatisfaction among some people. When they always hope to treat everyone with the same amount of care, it actually means they have no care at all.

Because when you treat everyone equally, everyone will think that you are no different to me or to others. Who wants to be friends with a person who only regards themselves as one of the countless people?

In fact, no matter in work or in life, we should actually learn to dare to fully express our opinions and suggestions, because only if you speak out, others will understand what you think. Don't be afraid of yourself Your remarks will be opposed by others, and you must learn to communicate and argue with others.

When it comes to making friends, be aware that what you need to do is not to treat them equally, but to make choices and focus on them. You should be more attentive to those friends who are angry with you and get along with you. , because only in this way can we get real friends.

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Smart people know how to choose friends, keep those with whom they can relate, and abandon casual acquaintances

There was once an article on the Internet The title of the article is "In life, you must learn to say no."

This is a truth about making friends. As we continue to grow and mature in this world, you will always meet all kinds of friends, but not everyone is suitable for you. , can all become your true friends.

Countless philosophers have said that a person will not have too many true friends in his life. Especially for friends who have entered middle age, they have to make choices about the friends around them. It’s not that the more friends a person has, the more successful he will be, but whether someone will stay by your side to care about you and help you at critical moments. No matter how high the mountain is, if you have immortals, you will be spiritual; if you don't have many friends, if you have sincerity, you will be successful.