I wonder if there are so many people in your WeChat circle of friends? You used to eat together, get together and chat together. Have the same topic and hobbies, or the other person has been with you like that.
Some of you are in the same school, some have things together, and some have a good chat because you missed the last subway.
The years you wasted together seemed to be yesterday.
And those once close friends will become disconnected because of your graduation, resignation and fading out of your circle of friends.
Even if WeChat is still a friend, as long as the other party doesn't send a message, you won't send it to the other party.
In this way, a few years have passed, and in your WeChat friends list, some friends have never talked to them again, and some have only talked a few words.
Sometimes you may send a message when you need help, and sometimes you will send some greetings through festivals, but you don't pay special attention to it, because sometimes the greater your expectations, the greater your disappointment.
You no longer expect them to help you, reply to you and give you the same greetings. Because once some distances are opened, it is difficult to pull them back.
Both love and friendship need to be evenly matched.
You can have the ability to help each other instead of relying on and taking. You need to have a strong heart to tolerate and accept. Accept each other's imperfections and shortcomings, accept all changes, and maintain a normal heart.
You know some people, no matter how much you like them, can't shorten the distance between you.
When the gap between you is getting bigger and bigger, when everything you touch is different, when you no longer talk about everything, you have drifted away.
Once alienation is formed, it is difficult to eliminate it.
In fact, looking back, how many of your so-called former friends really met and lived with you through mutual appreciation?
Many people you once thought were good friends, only to find out that they didn't really understand.
Those who approach you on their own initiative may be out of tune with your personality. And the people you want to be close to, you always feel that they are far away from you.
Because what kind of people you want to be friends with, you must first become that kind of person.
After a long time, those good friends you used to have, you will gradually discover the problems between you, you will gradually dilute their relationship, and you will be estranged because of secular life.
Think back, how long have you not told your so-called friends, and how long have you not heard their real voices?
You all hide your true selves. Things will be different when we meet again.
Once I ran into a friend, and I was a little excited to be recognized because I was covered up. After that, I sent a circle of friends about my meeting with her, and I specially set up an @ reminder.
But the other party didn't reply a word, and didn't like it. The indifference of the other party also diluted my joy of meeting. After a while, she suddenly sent a message, but it was just a few mass promotional activities.
I met this friend once, and it was awkward to talk.
So later, we all tacitly chose to forget each other, no longer send blessings to each other's birthdays, no longer have any difficulties in seeking each other's help, and no longer call to chat about family.
I learned later that the only time we got on well was in the past.
Maybe there are some people in your life you can't go back to. The gears of years will not stop turning because of who.
In fact, it doesn't matter after others are getting farther and farther away from you. They will still be accompanied by countless relatives and friends, just as we will not be bad because of each other's departure.
So even though those old friends may not patronize your circle of friends often, you can still live your life seriously and publish what you want.
Sometimes brush friends circle, many friends don't update their status. Click on their circle of friends and they will not be visible for 3 days. Or just some harmless forwarding in three days.
Some people are becoming more and more silent. Maybe they don't want to make friends, but they really have nothing to show off.
But it's up to you to make friends or not. If you really like to keep a low profile, why show your life to others in a high profile?
You can't turn off your social status just because others say "If you don't send friends". "Are you blocking me?" Or "Sprinkle dog food in the circle of friends again." Such comments will affect your dynamics!
You don't need to explain anything to others about whether to send a circle of friends or not.
If you want to send it, you can block it. If you want to do WeChat business in a circle of friends, you can do WeChat business. If you like to record your life in a circle of friends, you can record your life.
The circle of friends is your own world, and you can master it freely. Just like you are at the helm of your life, you are not afraid of what others say and what others think. Do what you want.
But why send a circle of friends? Sometimes it is to let those who still care about you know what you are doing.
About the author: Nian Jinse is a young woman in literature and art who yearns for a free life.