"It's too tiring to make friends with the poor."

After drinking some wine, Lao Pan finally told the truth.

I hurriedly filled him up, hoping to get him to drink more. They all said they would tell the truth after drinking. I wanted to see what the richest person in my circle of friends thought.

“It’s not fun to talk to them about anything. I talk about business, travel, and my experiences meeting great people, but they say behind my back that I’m showing off;

“I don’t talk about myself. , when I just listened to what they said, they scolded me behind my back, pretending, looking down on them, having a way to make money, but not sharing it, making money on my own, not being a good friend. ”

“It’s troublesome to choose a restaurant to eat in. It’s too expensive and they can’t afford it. I’ll foot the bill and they’ll be embarrassed.” Choosing the cheaper one makes them doubt whether I am worried that they have no money and deliberately give in to myself.

"Tell me, are you tired of dealing with this kind of person? It's much more tiring than me talking about a multi-million business deal."

"Among the friends I can really talk to now, There is no poor person, I feel comfortable talking to them about anything, I don’t have to worry about different consumption levels, and I don’t have to deliberately protect the other person’s self-esteem. "

"I have been working hard for more than ten years, and the biggest feeling is not how good it is to have money, but how terrible poverty is. Being poor can make a person's personality distorted and lead a very awkward life.

"Hey, it's not that I dislike the poor and love the rich, but we are really not on the same level, and we are not of the same class, so we are destined not to be together."

I poured another glass for Lao Pan, and also poured a glass for myself. After one gulp, I had mixed flavors.

I am also a poor person. Lao Pan’s words stung me greatly, but I have to admit that he is right.

When I was worried about not having enough money to pay the rent, when a friend shared the Maldives travel guide with me, I didn’t thank her, I was jealous of her, and then I hated myself.

When I looked at a pair of 200-yuan shoes and was reluctant to buy them, my friend showed me a photo of the sports car she just bought. I clearly wanted to say, "Wow, they are so beautiful. I really envy your life." ".

What slipped out of my mouth was "I think it's more convenient to enjoy a bicycle. You don't have to worry about finding a parking space." I smiled on the outside, but my heart turned into a bottle of vinegar.

Every time after meeting with my rich friends, I feel like I have failed in my life, and I can’t help but complain about why there is such a big gap in life between people.

I gradually discovered that it is difficult for rich and poor people to become true and long-term friends. The rich are uncomfortable and the poor are even more aggrieved.

Marriage requires a good match, and being a friend requires equal strength.

Equivalent strength does not only lie in "money or not". The difference between "rich" and "poor" lies not only in the amount of money, but also in experience, values, cognitive level, etc. on a deeper level. on birth background.

These things together determine whether we are the same kind of people and whether we can be friends.

Friendship is a harmonious equality.

In "The Legend of Zhen Huan", the friendship between Zhen Huan, Shen Meizhuang, and An Lingrong takes the "importance of equality" to the extreme.

Both Zhen Huan and Shen Meizhuang are from noble backgrounds, have outstanding looks, and have family power to rely on. They belong to the upper class. They are the same kind of people and are most likely to be true friends.

However, An Lingrong does not have a prominent family background, and her appearance is average. In the cold and strict harem, she has no one to rely on but herself. Therefore, her confidence, ideas, and choices are different from those of Zhen Huan and Shen Meizhuang. Different.

Zhen Huan's feelings for "An Lingrong" are more of "downward sympathy", and her feelings for Shen Meizhuang are more of "equal appreciation".

On the surface, the trend of the friendship between the three people seems to be that "An Lingrong" has turned bad. In essence, it is because everyone is not equal in "relationship strength".

How can there be true and lasting friendship if there is no equality.

Every time I go back to my hometown in the small county, I feel more strongly about the relationship between friends.

In the small village where I grew up, there were several childhood playmates. When we met again, our conversation was strange and monotonous:

"When did you come back? When did you leave?" ? This is your son, he’s so cute!”

Apart from these, I don’t know what to say to them, and I can also see their discomfort.

It is very similar to the way Lu Xun saw Runtu again when he returned to the village. "Although I knew it was Runtu as soon as I saw it, it was not the Runtu I remembered."

This doesn’t mean that my life must be better than theirs. In fact, some old classmates are much richer than me, but when I meet them, I still feel very embarrassed. We don’t have ** *You can talk about the same things.

Different life experiences have transformed us from childhood sweethearts into the most familiar strangers.

We looked at each other like there was a bottomless trench between us in childhood and us now, but no one could cross it.

It's like two railroads that, after only one intersection, go their separate ways and can never go back to the past.

When you start complaining to your friends, "Why is this like this? Why not like that?" When you feel awkward and uncomfortable when you are with your friends, and you have nothing to say, maybe this relationship, It's over.

It doesn’t matter, it’s over, just let it go.

The alienation of friends and the rupture of friendship may not be someone's change of heart, let alone anyone's fault.

It can only be said that different growth circumstances, life circles, and cognitive levels have already shaped us into different types of people.

Let friendships come and go. Some people are destined to only accompany us for a certain distance.

My favorite friend status right now is: Comfortable.

No nervousness, no pretense, no pretense, no energy consumption, no waste of emotions.

A true good friend allows us to assume the most comfortable posture, say the most sincere words, and be the truest version of ourselves.