In the eyes of most of us, after the elderly retire, in most cases they no longer need to be busy with other things. At this time, if our retired elderly are still in a state of If you are single, then it is best for our retired elderly people to find themselves a wife. After all, the life of a single elderly person will often be lonely and lonely.

But in the eyes of some of us single elderly people, after retirement, they would rather live alone and lonely than take the road of finding a wife again. What is going on? Could it be? Let’s go and see it together!

Auntie Sun, 60 years old

Auntie Sun is just 60 years old this year. She has been retired for several years. Her wife passed away three years ago and her two children have died. After getting married, she is currently single and can also be said to be an old man living alone. It stands to reason that with Aunt Sun's current conditions and living conditions, she should find herself a wife to accompany her through life. A happy life in old age is the right thing.

However, whether it was the persuasion of relatives and friends or the enlightenment of neighbors, Aunt Sun was very determined when it came to finding a wife, which meant that she did not want to give up. She wanted to find a wife again, and she even said: "I would rather die alone than find a wife again."

Why are single women with pensions unwilling to find a wife after retirement?

Women can easily become "free nannies" in reorganized marriages and families

Although we all know that the current society is a society where men and women are equal, that is to say, men and women After two people form a new marriage and family, no matter whether they are men or women, anyone can do these things, such as working, cleaning housework, educating children, taking care of the elderly, etc., and no one has any "privileges". ” Or an exception.

But let’s be honest, how many people can really do this? For a long time, the deep-rooted old idea of ??"men take care of the outside and women take care of the house" has been spread like this. To put it bluntly, women are mainly responsible for maintaining everything in the family, while men are mainly responsible for making money and socializing outside.

Aunt Sun said bluntly: If you find a wife after retirement, because you don’t need to work or work hard anymore, then in the marriage and family, you will have to do things like cleaning housework or washing and washing. , it will naturally fall on myself. Now that I have retired, I should have a good rest instead of becoming a "free nanny" in a new marriage and family.

Reorganizing a marriage and family can easily lead to conflicts with children

It is the elderly’s own business to find a wife to pursue their own happy marriage. It has nothing to do with the old man's children, and the old man's children have no right to interfere or block it. Although it is said so, in fact it is not always like this.

Nowadays, whether on the Internet or in other media, we can often see or hear that "the elderly have fierce conflicts and conflicts with their children because they are looking for a wife" and so on. public opinion information, and few people can fully explain the right and wrong of this.

Aunt Sun said frankly: She also has children, but even if she does not interfere with her marriage, after she reorganizes her marriage and family, it is inevitable that some other problems will arise between the two people. , if the relationship between you and your children is affected because of your marital problems, it will be a bit worth the loss. Instead of being afraid of such a thing happening, it is better not to "wad into this muddy water" at all.

It is difficult to find the "compatible" person after reorganizing a marriage and family

We cannot deny that many of our elderly people nowadays, when it comes to finding a wife, most of the time they just ask for help. They live in a kind of "living together". Of course, the elderly have such mentality or thoughts. We can't just say that they are wrong. But let's not say how much these two people love each other. At the very least, There should be a lot of similarities between the two people!

But it is really difficult for our current elderly people to truly find the person who is "compatible" with them. This is not only because many of us elderly people have different views on marriage. There have been great changes, and there is not much time left for the elderly. The elderly do not have enough time to search carefully.

Aunt Sun felt that: Even if she wanted to find a wife, she would be rushing to live a happy life with her, and would never change her wife every two days. If this is the case, I might as well live alone like this. The purpose of finding a wife is to seek happiness in my old age, and it is not to "add trouble" to myself.

It is easy for two people who reorganize their marriage and family to have a series of disputes

We all know that as a couple, although there are also two people who "grow old together" "A happy couple who lives a lifetime, but for most of us half-way couples, they live more of a life where the two of them "parted ways".

Of course, in addition to the two of us, because of our feelings, temper, character, temperament, etc., I am afraid that the more reason is that the two of us are facing a series of other disputes such as real estate issues and property issues. When problems arise, huge differences and conflicts arise, which makes it difficult for two people who are married halfway to live happily together.

Aunt Sun believes: It will be very difficult for two people to be married halfway, especially for our elderly people. When faced with issues such as property management and inheritance division after marriage, it is very difficult for two people to It is difficult to truly be "selfless". Instead, it is more about selfishness. Although not all halfway couples end up like this, but if you have a pension, you can make your material life difficult. There is no need to "take this risk" on your own.

Small conclusion

In most cases, it is precisely because of the above four reasons that our 60-year-old Aunt Sun, after retirement, even in a She is single, but not only does she have no thoughts or plans to find a wife, but she also has a feeling of resistance and rejection towards the issue of finding a wife.

Perhaps in the view of our 60-year-old Aunt Sun, she now has a pension and can live a self-sufficient life, which is really good. Since she is alone in the future, she will be particularly lonely. and loneliness, but you can make up for it in other ways, so there is no need to go to your wife and cause other troubles to yourself.

So, after retirement, as single women who can receive pensions, it is best to live alone. After all, doing so will bring a lot of risks and unnecessary risks to ourselves. entanglement, but if our client insists on finding his wife, it is not impossible, but we must "think twice before acting" to avoid regrets in the future.