Nowadays young people are not naive because people nowadays are becoming more and more realistic. Romance as an adult is much more complicated because there is so much to consider. When you are young, you like someone just because he gives you a feeling that others cannot give you. Nowadays, we will first look at whether the other person has money, how he looks, and what his family of origin is like, before finally deciding whether to be with the other person. The kind of love in which we are sure that the other person is our lover in an instant, appreciate the other person's soul, and don't care about anything else, seems to have been exhausted by us. The times are progressing and the wheel of history is rolling forward, but people are becoming more and more impetuous, anxious, hypocritical, and impatient.
In today's society, too many people have lost the ability to love and become utilitarian and careless. We are all too afraid of meeting bad people in relationships. There are so many scumbag men and scumbag women nowadays, it’s hard to guarantee whether you will be the next victim. So we wrap ourselves up tightly. When we meet someone who doesn't take the initiative or refuse, we can't tell whether the other person is sincere or just a trick. When you meet someone who likes you, you dare not trust that person wholeheartedly, for fear that the other person has other motives for approaching you. And when we grow up, we have to support our families while facing the open and secret attacks in society. How can we have time to love someone purely? This is too difficult.
When I was young, I thought there was no reason to love someone, but now I know that loving someone not only requires a reason, but is also a necessary condition. When everyone chooses their lover, they actually involuntarily put on colored glasses. For example, if you like someone with a gentle personality, you will never find a partner with a bad temper. A voice-controlled person will never find a drake voice. People who are obsessed with appearance will never find someone whose looks are below average. Falling in love with someone's characteristics is not something unspeakable. Everyone has a lever in their heart.
It is precisely because of these conditions that the choice is not so simple. Love is only possible when balance is achieved. Don't be afraid of missing everyone, even if you miss the love of your life. What you have to do is wave goodbye to unworthy people and jobs you don’t like, and turn around and start over. What you have to do is to work hard, make yourself financially independent instead of becoming a man's appendage, and let yourself live a wonderful life instead of living a mediocre life just to marry someone. There are many average-looking affordable men like Ying Qin in this world, but there are few of you who live a wonderful, beautiful and unique life.