In fact, it is very complicated to say how to be a man, and it is very simple to say.
The key is to have principles and a bottom line, to have a steelyard in mind, to be very clear about what you can and can't do, what kind of people you can make friends with, and what kind of people you must never get too close to.
If you meet a good friend, you will get better gradually.
But if you don't know who you are, it will only add to your life.
Therefore, when people come and go, we should know how to choose good friends, make good friends, and stay away in time when people are not suitable.
Making friends with these three kinds of people is a disaster, and it is wise to stay away as soon as possible.
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Someone who borrows money and doesn't pay it back.
When it comes to borrowing money and not paying it back, I believe many people have encountered it.
Some people borrowed money from friends, promised that Haikou would repay on time, and also set up a black and white IOU; The result is due, but I find various reasons not to return it, which finally leads to discord between friends.
When a friend comes to borrow money, you think you can help, lend it out readily, but you don't pay it back and can't get it back.
I'm sorry to ask for it directly because of my feelings. What's even more disturbing is that when you ask for it, the other party is still unhappy.
In life, there are many such people.
When they borrow money, they usually say nice things and promise to pay you back as soon as possible, but once they pay back, they act like grandfathers. You have to see his mood. He is in a bad mood and won't pay you back if he has money.
My friend Lao Zhang once talked about one of his friends:
A few years ago, the man asked him to borrow100000, saying that he would pay it back after half a year. Now several years have passed, and he still hasn't paid it back. Every time he makes a request, the other party says that he is short of money recently and can give him more time.
But in two days, I saw photos of each other going out to eat, drink and have fun in the circle of friends. That little life is more handsome than anyone else.
Poor, dignified, rich, shameless, honest. Keep your promise, don't play with it.
Deception is only a temporary trick, and honesty is a long-term policy.
No matter how hard it is, it will not be light without debt; No matter how difficult it is, you still keep your word.
Trust is like a mirror. Once broken, it is difficult to repair. Not only did I lose my friendship, but my reputation was also ruined.
If a person has no integrity, his character must be crooked. They can hurt their friends for money, calculate their brothers for profit, and abandon their dignity and backbone!
If people have no honesty, no one helps them when they are in trouble, no one believes what they say, no sincere friends and no respect from others, they live a humble life and a sad life.
Everyone is willing to trust a man of integrity. On the contrary, a person who is not honest will never be trusted. Because you never know which of his words is true and which is false.
When you are in trouble, it is a kindness, not a responsibility. Some people always think that relatives and friends can not pay back money because they don't understand mutual affection and duty.
It's not easy for anyone to make money. How much you earn depends on the ability of others. But others don't think so. He thinks that relatives and friends should give him a hand if they have money, and just helping is not enough.
This kind of person is the most disgusting. I don't know how to be grateful for helping him and don't pay back the money.
If you don't help him, he will publicize that if you have money, you will look down on others, and if you have money, you will forget the basics. Such a person is unreasonable because he is unreasonable at all.
If you are dishonest and don't pay back the money, you should be more careful. Don't be soft on him. Too soft-hearted, you will suffer sooner or later!
We don't analyze the psychology of people who borrow money and don't pay it back, and we really don't understand what they think, but what is certain is that such people are not worth making friends.
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A person who is mercenary and has no bottom line in front of interests.
As the old saying goes, a gentleman loves money and takes it wisely.
It means that no one doesn't like money, even a gentleman likes money, but a gentleman only earns moral money.
A gentleman has a bottom line and principles, does not violate moral conscience and does not violate the law. Ill-gotten gains will never be taken.
But in real life, many people can't do this.
When some people get along with others, the biggest problem is that everything is self-centered and everything is based on their own interests, lacking empathy and empathy.
They only see themselves and no one else. They only care about themselves and don't consider others at all.
What you think is good is good for yourself, and vice versa.
They can care about themselves because of their own interests, regardless of the feelings of others and the situation of people around them.
A person is mercenary, one thing to his face and one thing behind his back.
Mercenarism, egoism, but lost the basic moral conscience.
In the eyes of mercenary people, there is only interest and no one else. In their view, everything in the world can be clearly marked.
Since there is a price, we can naturally sell it. For them, interests outweigh everything.
People who are mercenary only see interests.
For them, friends are just a tool for making profits.
When I need you, I flatter you in every way; Kick you aside when you are not needed.
When you get along with such people, once you encounter a conflict of interest, you will harm others and not benefit yourself. They never reflect on whether there is something wrong with their words and deeds, but decide in advance that they are right and only others are wrong.
Therefore, no matter whether they are actually wrong or not, they will not feel that it is their own fault, nor will they bear the responsibility they should bear.
Obviously, such people can't be relied on and relied on.
In the face of interests, feelings are nothing to them.
If you have such people around you, don't get too close to them and don't make friends with them. A person who has no bottom line and principles in front of interests is very terrible.
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An ungrateful person.
There is an old saying:? Give me a peach and give it back to Li. ?
People are mutual. Only one person has a grateful heart, and others dare to pay with confidence.
People should be grateful, not ungrateful. If others are kind to you, you should learn to repay them.
Only when you love me and you come and go can our friendship continue.
In this world, there is a kind of people who take it for granted to get help from others and take it for granted to get benefits from others. Such people will never be grateful. Everything you do is what they think is right.
Dealing with them will only bring you chills and disappointments again and again; * * * With him, you will only get betrayal and abandonment again and again.
Because they only see their own interests, but can't see the goodwill of others, they are always insatiable and push their luck, hurting people who are really good to them.
Hugo once said: scum is always ungrateful, and ingratitude is a despicable part. ?
An ungrateful person like this is often more terrible than a wolf.
The ancients said: the grace of dripping water, when the spring is reported!
Someone once said:
Gratitude is the basic moral standard that everyone should have, and it is the minimum accomplishment of being a man. Crows have the intention of feeding back, and sheep have the grace of kneeling and nursing. If you don't know how to be grateful, you will lose the most precious wealth in life. ?
Born as a man, you can be outstanding, you can be outstanding, you can even have no money and no talent, but you can't help but be grateful.
If a person can't even be grateful for saving his life, how can he be expected to be kind to others?
But in life, there are always ungrateful people around us.
They never realize that others' contribution is a kind of goodwill, but take others' contribution for granted.
They can't see it when you pay a lot. As long as you don't like them once, they will deny all your previous efforts.
Not only will they not remember your kindness, but they will also push your luck to consume your kindness and enthusiasm.
Walking with people who don't know how to be grateful is like carrying a burden. Only by staying away can you go into battle lightly.
Making friends with such people is a disaster. He thinks that everything you do for him should be done, and he will only take it without returning it.
People who know how to be grateful, if you are kind to them, can also make your heart warm; And those who don't know how to be grateful, if you are kind to him, he will only take it for granted.
People who don't know how to be grateful don't have to be nice to them, not because you can't get a reward, but to control your own kindness.
But because people who don't know how to be grateful don't know how to be grateful for life and treat others sincerely. Such a person will not be favored by happiness.
Stay away from those ungrateful people as soon as possible. Such a person is like a bottomless pit, which will only waste you endlessly. Such people must not become close friends.
In life, we will meet all kinds of people. I hope that when you meet these three kinds of people, you can stay away as soon as possible.
At the same time, always remind yourself not to be such a person.