Don't know much about many things between parents, but one thing must be done, that is, to stop such domestic violence!
Speaking of domestic violence, many people will think of the kind of cold violence that "touches the skin" and "touches the soul". According to the survey data, 90% of domestic violence is "the husband violently attacks his wife", so women are the main victims of domestic violence. Why do some people often use violence in marriage? In fact, it is not only a behavioral problem, but also a deeper psychological root.
Case 1: Temper suddenly hurts feelings.
Liu and her husband were originally a loving couple, but both of them had strong personalities and bad tempers, and they often fought over trifles. In fact, many things were anger at that time, and the pressure could be suppressed.
Psychoanalysis: If both husband and wife have a strong sense of self-centeredness, are used to seeing problems from their own perspective, and are used to letting the other side obey themselves, and both sides are not good at psychological adjustment, it is easy to produce contradictions and lead to domestic violence. Psychology has found that six or seven o'clock after work at night is a dangerous time, and it is also the worst time for people's mentality. Couples try to avoid chatting when they come home from work, which will make both sides feel unhappy and lead to domestic violence.
Case 2: Doubt and suspicion
Li is a beautiful, lively and fashionable woman. Because she works in sales and often has social intercourse, many of her clients are men. When her husband saw that she often ate and drank with some men, she became very angry and always found fault. Later, it developed into a beating and asked her to resign.
Psychoanalysis: if the husband is violent to his wife because of his narrow personality and suspicion, the wife should pay more attention to communication with her husband and be transparent in making friends; At the same time, we should pay attention to helping our husbands build self-confidence, because excessive suspicion is a sign of self-distrust.
Both sides of domestic violence have psychological roots.
Perpetrators often have psychological conflicts. Perpetrators often have some potential psychological complexes, such as severe psychological inferiority, psychological fragility, abnormal anxiety, insecurity, and some strong conflicts that are difficult to resolve. They will get temporary superficial psychological compensation through violence.
Some offenders may have disabilities. If you lack self-affirmation, you can't face criticism, you can't adjust conflicts, you can't release emotions, and there is a fragile heart and a chaotic self under the surface of violence.
Some abusers have psychological development obstacles. For example, high IQ and low EQ, some "intellectuals" may also become abusers.
Other perpetrators have psychological abnormalities or mental illness. For example, he was often abused at home in his early years, which led to the abuse of others; Have explosive personality disorder or antisocial personality disorder, or psychotic symptoms, or abuse, and get pleasure through abuse.
Victims have certain psychological patterns, and some victims have personality defects, such as being too weak and shrinking, and not being able to protect themselves after being subjected to violence; Accustomed to provocative words and deeds, like sarcasm; Have negative psychological behavior patterns, such as gambling and drinking, being lazy and bossing around; Lack of psychological * * emotional ability, not considerate; The existence of psychological disorder or mental illness, such as masochism, will prompt the other party to commit violence.
In addition, if there are serious psychological differences between husband and wife for a long time, or lack of sexual psychological communication, it will eventually lead to domestic violence.
Remember four measures to prevent and deal with domestic violence.
There is no winner in domestic violence, and both parties involved are people who need psychological help. Therefore, psychological countermeasures should be aimed at both the giver and the receiver.
The first is to do psychological prevention. Husband and wife deeply realize that violence is mutually destructive, and psychologically establish a firewall for domestic violence. At the same time, treat domestic violence from a psychological point of view and find out the psychological reasons in time.
The second is psychological adjustment. First of all, psychological communication, pulling a psychological distance from each other, calming down to look at the problems you face, and then talking about your feelings calmly. Secondly, psychological transposition, with psychological transposition, we can see the rationality of each other's words and deeds in everything, and we will have more tolerance and acceptance. Once again, psychological catharsis, prepare sandbags and gloves, and hit sandbags when you are really impulsive, or trample on the ground or hit the wall or tear the magazine.
The third is to be cautious about the first violence. In the face of the first domestic violence, the victim should make enough psychological reaction, urge the other party to have enough psychological reflection, arouse the psychological attention of both sides, and avoid repeating the same mistakes.
The fourth is to seek psychological help. Ask suitable relatives and friends for help, or ask psychological professionals for help. If the perpetrator has obvious symptoms of mental illness or mental illness, he should seek medical attention in time.
First, just in case of violence:
1. Ask the relevant authorities how to deal with the crisis.
2. Keep important seals, certificates, ID cards, household registration books, cash, property certificates and insurance certificates. Store it in a centralized way so that it can be taken away at any time.
Secondly, when violence occurs, we should pay attention to self-protection and retain evidence:
1. Don't use words to stimulate the other party to add fuel to the fire.
2. Protect your head, face, neck, chest and abdomen
Call for help loudly so that neighbors and relatives can arrive in time.
4. Escape to relatives, friends, neighbors or asylum centers as soon as possible.
5. Call 1 10 to call the police, let the police stop the abuser's violence and escort you to the hospital or shelter.
6. Take Type A checklist for inspection and take photos as evidence.
7. Go to the police station for the record and take notes.
8. Keep good evidence, such as injury list, murder weapon, broken clothes, etc.
9. Before the judicial personnel arrive, it is necessary to keep the scene of violence as it is, so as to keep more evidence.
10. Seek help from relevant institutions.
Finally, victims of domestic violence can obtain the following rights protection measures:
1. institute divorce proceedings. 2. claim damages. 3. Initiate criminal private prosecution. 4. Re-file a lawsuit.
In the case of minor injuries, if the victim expresses his willingness to forgive the criminal suspect at the stage of examination and prosecution by the procuratorial organ, the procuratorial organ may also return the case to the public security organ for handling or not to prosecute. If a party regrets the mediation by the procuratorial organ, he may bring a new lawsuit. 5. make a complaint. In case of domestic violence, the victim shall file a case for investigation after reporting to the police. If the case is not filed, the victim may appeal to the appeal department of the procuratorial organ.
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