I can't help thinking about myself.
Most of my recent friends have been met in magazines for almost ten years. After that, I met many acquaintances, but few of them can rise to the level of friends.
Making friends is really like falling in love. The energetic period is only a few years. With the arrival of maturity, I run faster and faster like a train, and more and more people pass by. Those who can reach the finish line together are all people who witnessed each other's weakness, dog blood, rebellion and hard work when they were young.
This kind of feeling, many people have * * *.
(Source: 360doc) "Yes, that's why I am a dead house. What's the point of not caring after meeting so many people? 」
"The older you get, the higher the cost of maintaining friendship, unlike when you were young, you can become a lifelong friendship by borrowing an eraser to copy an answer. 」
"You value people and despise making friends with you; You don't like it. It haunts you all day. 」
I agree with all these.
The more mature a person is, the more he knows how to cherish himself, and the more he will carefully choose whether to spend time and energy on maintaining a relationship.
I am also very resistant to those contacts that require a lot of energy but have no energy, but I don't agree that it is getting harder and harder to make friends, so I don't want to meet strangers.
Friendship, like love, is not the whole of life, but the luxury of life.
Anyone who has bought luxury goods knows that there is the most expensive bag in your cloakroom, but there are countless cheap bags. It may be a street encounter, a whim of travel, the handwriting of an independent designer on the internet, and so on.
They enrich the concept of bags and make life full of freshness. Although you spend the most money, energy and emotion on the most expensive bag, if there is only the most expensive bag left in your cloakroom, it will be boring, have no choice or even boring.
(Source: 360doc) The ancients said: Taking Wan Li Road is like reading thousands of books. I think if time is short, knowing more interesting people can also achieve the effect of reading thousands of books.
There is no scenery in familiar places, and there is no brainstorming between acquaintances. Most of the people who inspired me to think about life at the critical moment were strangers I met.
When I went to Australia, I met a couple of Dinks.
When my wife first introduced her husband as a physicist, we all believed her. However, her husband is just a retired teacher, focusing on making airplanes for decades. The most successful experiment was that the plane was lifted by 45 meters. "Forty-five meters! The man proudly said that the woman looked at him admiringly, and the atmosphere was touching.
Fortunately, I witnessed one of their test flights. My heart was in my throat when that suspicious iron guy took off in the open space in the suburbs. After landing safely, the two people add up to almost 120 years old, hugging tightly and kissing deeply.
"Don't you think it's dangerous?" I asked. My wife's face was still red with excitement. She said seriously, "I think it is more dangerous to have a baby than to fly. 」
This old couple, if they appear in the news, I will think they are abnormal. However, seeing their daily life with my own eyes, warm and quiet, I began to reflect on what happiness is.
We like to use a standard to determine happiness and artificially set a passing line. Above the passing line is good luck, below the passing line is misfortune. But forget, in fact, every kind of happiness has defects, and every kind of defect also has its own happiness.
The pressure and pain, narrowness and pessimism we face are often caused by this passing line.
When you meet more people and understand their lives, this line will gradually disappear, and you will begin to understand that you are in a forest and every tree has its sunshine and rain.
(Source: 360doc) At the dinner party, I met a romantic straight cancer.
That chat showed me the other side of a cynical person.
It turns out that in this era, although women work hard, they are rushing forward with a goal. They can choose to be beautiful or earn money to support their families, while men are under the pressure of single values. Only the single-plank bridge of success and earning money to support the family.
There is a bookstore owner who is also recognized as a freak.
I can come up with a hundred ideas a day and say I want to cooperate with you at any time, but the so-called cooperation means you do it alone. But chatting with him is a super cool brainstorming. Sitting in his bookstore for a day, you can see three generations of literature and art in half the city.
There is also an illustrator who has been in love. She said that you all want to marry interesting people, but really interesting people don't want to get married at all.
Talking to these people about novel topics, I don't care whether their three views are consistent with mine, and I don't insist on who will remember who when we meet next time, but I'm sure that in that chat at that time, they were the source of energy output, which increased my knowledge and broadened my horizons and thinking boundaries.
Deep friendship fears exotic flowers and plants, while shallow friendship loves exotic flowers and plants.
We don't want all men to be friends, but boyfriends.
A book, without unexpected plot, will not make you think. When we read people in the world as a book, we should abandon the prejudice of age, personality and identity, chat with strangers and eat with strangers.
There is no need for sincerity, as long as there is enough sincerity.
Seeing more people and making fewer friends is an inevitable change in life. Making friends is an investment, meeting people is an experience. The width of life is determined by the scenery you pass by, and the people you see are the scenery you pass by.
In any kind of relationship, it is possible to gain love and hurt at the same time; When we are strong, independent and confident, our need for love will be restrained, thus avoiding embarrassing injuries.
It is an unexpected and sudden warmth and spark between people; Because of our different growth and experiences, we are curious about each other, which constitutes the most harmonious relationship between us and others-chatting with each other.
Only emotional input, no emotional input is good. Share it with more people!
Original source: 360doc